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15-08-2015, 09:51 PM
A dilemma
I would like to present you with a dilemma.

I have an acquaintance (a believer) who says, "my brother died; my mother died, and you are telling me that I am never going to see them again". This is obviously a case of "I want to believe that heaven is true, therefore, it is true".

He views me as "evil" because, by telling him that heaven does not exist--that he is never going to see his dead relatives again, I am trying to destroy his peace of mind.

Has anyone else ever run into the same situation? How did you handle it? I do not feel that I should press the issue with him (especially since he is prone to paranoid reactions), but I think it is important for me to not compromise my beliefs.

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15-08-2015, 10:48 PM
Re: A dilemma
I think you can simply refrain from commenting without compromising your beliefs.
If a friend pushes the issue, you can let him know that you don't share his views and don't think a discussion would be productive.
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15-08-2015, 11:52 PM
RE: A dilemma
(15-08-2015 09:51 PM)666wannabe Wrote:  I would like to present you with a dilemma.

I have an acquaintance (a believer) who says, "my brother died; my mother died, and you are telling me that I am never going to see them again". This is obviously a case of "I want to believe that heaven is true, therefore, it is true".

He views me as "evil" because, by telling him that heaven does not exist--that he is never going to see his dead relatives again, I am trying to destroy his peace of mind.

Has anyone else ever run into the same situation? How did you handle it? I do not feel that I should press the issue with him (especially since he is prone to paranoid reactions), but I think it is important for me to not compromise my beliefs.

Get him to join this forum. We will line him up against the wall and then shoot his kneecaps off. Then he'll have something to whinge about, but it won't be to you. Thumbsup
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15-08-2015, 11:56 PM
RE: A dilemma
(15-08-2015 09:51 PM)666wannabe Wrote:  I would like to present you with a dilemma.

I have an acquaintance (a believer) who says, "my brother died; my mother died, and you are telling me that I am never going to see them again". This is obviously a case of "I want to believe that heaven is true, therefore, it is true".

He views me as "evil" because, by telling him that heaven does not exist--that he is never going to see his dead relatives again, I am trying to destroy his peace of mind.

Has anyone else ever run into the same situation? How did you handle it? I do not feel that I should press the issue with him (especially since he is prone to paranoid reactions), but I think it is important for me to not compromise my beliefs.

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16-08-2015, 04:54 AM
RE: A dilemma
Tell him that even if there is a heaven or some sort of afterlife, it's bound to be a very very large place and finding loved ones again in a place probably larger than the universe is a near impossibility, so yes, you still most likely will never see them again.

As a baby you saw your mother's tits all the time.
Did you really expect to keep on seeing them as an adult ?

The same could be said for an afterlife.
Although I don't believe in one, I welcome a pleasant surprise as much as the next person, kinda like that time when your mom got drunk and showed me her tits.

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16-08-2015, 06:41 AM
RE: A dilemma
Your friend sounds a bit unhinged; I would be careful around him. Calling you evil because you believe something different is quite the warning sign, IMO. I would avoid him as well as the topic of an afterlife.
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16-08-2015, 06:45 AM
RE: A dilemma
(15-08-2015 09:51 PM)666wannabe Wrote:  I have an acquaintance (a believer) who says, "my brother died; my mother died, and you are telling me that I am never going to see them again". This is obviously a case of "I want to believe that heaven is true, therefore, it is true".

Exactly.

All I say is that there are people (and pets) that I wish I could see again but wanting something isn't the same as it being true. No matter how much I might like it to be true, if there is no evidence that it will happen then I have to resign myself to that. It is part of what compels me to be as open and generous and supporting as I can with the people who are still in my life. I live for now because I have no reason to think there really is anything more.

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