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24-02-2011, 11:21 AM
A question about women and relationships
Do women put a lot of emphasis on money and looks when it comes to relationships? I mean there are so many people that they can easily find a personality that they like among multiple people. Of those multiple people wouldn't it just be realistic for women to go with the guy that has plenty of money, and good looks? I have an on campus job, so for now I can afford dates and gifts. I am still single however but I guess it is because I look really young for my age and they are not attracted to me physically. Also it seems all the guys who have girlfriends have money and they are guys that many girls think look attractive.

All in all the question is do women bring in money and looks majorily when it comes to choosing a partner? The evidence seems to be supporting me when it comes to personal experiences.
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24-02-2011, 12:00 PM
 
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I can't answer your question directly (I have a penis), but I fear this could easily turn on you. You say "they" as in women "are not attracted to you. Which women are talking about? The really hot attractive ones with big boobs, or the pimply girl in the second row with A cups, and a bad overbite? I think everyone has to have an array of criteria some of which are attractiveness and wealth. Maybe a women wants an attractive man with at least ambition if not already sucessful, but too much ambition/sucess, and too attractive could be vain, or possibly career over wife? I've just always found the dating thing to be far too complicated to say women/men want X. Plus like I said in my opening many complaints about not being able to "find" somebody is better said that they can't find a specific somebody.
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24-02-2011, 03:02 PM
 
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It all depends on the woman. The majority of women that I've seen actually do NOT care about money and looks. What really sells the relationship idea for a woman is a guy who is future-minded. In this I mean that, he might not have a lot of money now, but would he be willing to attempt to get a job and money if kids were involved. A lot of women want to eventually settle down, meaning the guy they're looking for needs to have that in his future plans. If the guy is only interested in a fling, then chances are most women aren't interested. Although I do know a lot of women interested in flings as well.
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24-02-2011, 07:01 PM
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There are a lot of people they can connect with? Women go through countless relationships that fail just like men, because they can't really live with whomever they at first decide is a good choice. I've lived on both sides =p so I can say a bit. Fear of rejection and lack of interest happen on both sides. Women also have an increased worry that relationships will becoming abusive. Add onto this that many women are still raised to believe that the best way to live is to find a man capable of handling life for them, and of course women tend to look to certain charismatic men who have all these qualities. Yes women get more propositions, but this is how the world has worked and children have been taught for a very long time.

Relationships have never been cut and dry, you'll have your chances and maybe they'll work maybe they won't. If women aren't coming to you then start going to them, even if you mess up you'll do better the next time. The main thing a lot of women want is security which can be gained without having all too much money. I say a lot because there's also women who seek people who are obviously going to cause trouble. Relationships have always been about taking a hell of a lot of chances and trying to get lucky. You either get lucky, settle, or live alone. There's not a serious difference between male and female on this.

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24-02-2011, 08:16 PM
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Given that there are over 3 billion women on the planet earth, I think it's funny that someone would ask a general question about what they all like.

omega - just a couple of thoughts on the topic. First, don't worry so much on the dates/gifts things. You're looking for a relationship, not a hooker. Second, attraction is a very individual thing. Everyone has things they like and things they don't like in the opposite (or same, if that's your thing) sex. There is no standard "rule" about what is attractive. And, it changes as we age. It also becomes dependent on how you feel about a person. My wife and I have been together for 15 years. When we first met we were both at the gym at least 5 days a week. 15 years, 2 kids, a mortgage, etc. later, neither of us is as young or as fit as we were 15 years ago (although I'm still a 42 year old Adonis, if I do say so myself). At 27 I doubt I would have been attracted to a woman in her mid 40s but after 15 years together I'm still very attracted to my wife, and a lot of that has to do with my feelings for her.

Anyway, I guess the point is this: everyone likes something else. Don't worry about what you don't have or what someone else does have. Find a girl who you make laugh and who you can make smile. Looks fade, people get old, but someone who makes you laugh and smile is someone you will be attracted to forever.

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24-02-2011, 09:12 PM
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This is an interesting thread, and I think you will get a lot of different answers.

There is a Christian college in the next town over. (what am I saying, there are a million of them) Their unofficial slogan is, "ring by spring or your money back!" A big part of the culture here is for women to find a guy who will marry them, support them, and father them a bunch of kids. There are definitely a lot of vapid females here who really are only interested in having a man take care of them, set them up in a fancy house, buy them a fancy car, pay for their shopping trips, and make them pregnant. Are they happy when they get it? Nope. Lots of miserable bitches around here too. They grow up to be fat and nasty and bitter and bitchy. It's pretty typical.

Now, with that said, not all of us are like that, obviously. If you're getting a vibe that this is all a particular woman cares about, then this is probably not the woman for you. (unless you're into that) I think a lot of people have unrealistic expectations about what a relationship should be. Not all men are knights in shining armor ready to whisk the woman away. Not all women are porn stars with huge boobs. Most of us are somewhere in the middle. Wink

Not all of us can be drop dead gorgeous or rich or both. I think most reasonable people understand that. Do women like little gifts here and there? Of course! But mostly she wants to know that you're thinking about her, that you care about what she thinks and feels, that you're there for her always, and that you love and accept her because of who she is, not despite who she is.

I hope some of that made sense. Smile

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25-02-2011, 07:33 AM
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Threads like these remind me I'm a non-sociable bastard who is 30 pounds overweight.
Besides bars , where can you pick up women is what I want to know ?
The library ?
Movies ?

I stand and think to myself , am I just nuts or is the rest of the world like that ? Am I the next Ted Bundy or something ? What the heck is going on ?

And what makes me boil like a cauldron the devil himself is boiling(mythological reference , see what I did there) is when I'm nice to a woman , then some bastard who treats her like an utter whore gets her affections. After I see a scene like this , I want to french kiss a shotgun. Sad

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25-02-2011, 08:27 AM
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Quote:Besides bars , where can you pick up women is what I want to know ?

Join a gym. It's a good place to meet women and it may resolve the "30 pounds overweight" issue too.

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25-02-2011, 10:06 AM
 
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I find that some people seem to only be open to meet women at bars. What I mean is you could literally meet a womam anywhere, under the oddest circumstance. Now it's odd if you're coming on to women all the time, but at least open your mind to the possibility.
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25-02-2011, 12:49 PM
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I met my husband online, and it wasn't on a dating site either. Smile MANY people do this.

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