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24-09-2013, 07:21 PM
RE: A2's Homecoming ills.
1: Go to your school principal and tell them you are getting bullied. When they ask who it is tell them it is your religion tutor. That the things she does and the way she treats you is affecting your confidence as a person. That you feel that if she continues to single you out that this will affect your self-esteem and all of your other school work. Tell them you want school to be a positive experience and that you wish to look back with fond memories when you leave, not fear.

If she ever wants to put you in front of the class again in similar circumstances simply refuse. Don't be a dick about it and if she wants to punish you then tell her to send for a senior member of staff to deal with it.

As long as you don't mock them, they should not mock you (in principle)

2: Don't worry about dancing. Nobody is asking you to be Usher or Chris Brown and if you don't want to dance, then don't. If you want to dance with your date then that is different. Tell her you feel your not very good and ask her to lead, make a light situation of it and laugh about it. Nobody will be watching you or judging you (these are insecurities in your head) but if somebody does come up and say something to you (which is probably highly unlikely). Politely tell them to fuck off and walk away.

3: Just treat it like any other occasion. I am sure you are surrounded by many religious people however I wonder at how much religion will take part in your occasion other than maybe saying grace or whatever at dinner. Stick within your friendship circles.

4: Try to have as much fun as possible, there will come a time when you will have to think "Fuck people and their beliefs" and stand up for what you want to do in life. As long as it doesn't involve mocking or piss taking of other people and you operate yourself within a respectful manner.

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24-09-2013, 07:23 PM
RE: A2's Homecoming ills.
(24-09-2013 07:06 PM)Atothetheist Wrote:  
(24-09-2013 06:58 PM)Ferdinand Wrote:  Dances aren't as bad as you may think. I do worry about the religious aspects ruining it for you though. Simply stray from that and just try to enjoy yourself. Just talk nicely and casually among your date and friends as you usually would, escort her to the punch bowl, dance with her when a slow song comes on and let her lean her head on your shoulder-- that sort of jazz. You'll have a good time.

And $160? Girl, go to Macy's or Dillard's. I got the nicest prom dress, and it wasn't even over $100.

I have no intention of bringing up religion, however, it takes two to tango so to speak. It might not be enough for just me to not mention it.

I have quite the reputation for being against religion.

Hell, I don't even say "Under God" in the pledge, I just remain silent.

I am a sophomore, and even freshmen who I haven't even talked to know I am an atheist.

It's a surprise that my science teacher (I loved my last year science teacher, but this year' sis stupid) doesn't call me out when she starts talking about God and Jesus in Chem class.

My date knows I am non-religious, and she is fine with it.

My date claims she has seen ghosts, and I am fine with her believing that as long as she doesn't bother convincing me without evidence.

As far as determining how your date to the dance will go, I think things should roll over fine. Don't give it too much thought. You're just paranoid and nervous. Relax, have fun.
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24-09-2013, 07:25 PM
RE: A2's Homecoming ills.
You're an American (well in a sense) Stevie so you should deal with your problems in the proper American way. Take a load of weaponry with you and leave it in a car outside. The minute anyone says anything to make you uncomfortable then you go to the car, get your guns, go back inside, and shoot anything that moves.

Problem solved. Big Grin

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Ferdinand: Everyone from British is so, like, fucking retarded.
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24-09-2013, 08:07 PM
RE: A2's Homecoming ills.
Ah, I love it! This little anxiety can be the zest of life in your young years. Big Grin

I think you are stressing too much. Breath in, breath out. If your lady is a smart savvy individual then she, too, will be able to look at the religiosity and do her inner eye-roll and enjoy the evening with you. Grin and bear it situations suck, but we ALL deal with them. Try to just have fun! There is a lot of potential for that at homecoming! And $100 is awesome!
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24-09-2013, 08:39 PM (This post was last modified: 24-09-2013 08:57 PM by GirlyMan.)
RE: A2's Homecoming ills.
(24-09-2013 06:48 PM)Atothetheist Wrote:  Hey everyone, I am going to fucking post some shit that most of you probably won't care about, but it is one of those things that I think is important enough to mention to my friends/TTA family so that they understand my lack of participation in anything Skype related, forum related or anything that has to deal with any one of you trying to contact me.

I am going to homecoming. Now, I won't go through explaining what exactly this is, because it should be explanatory via google, or another search engine. However, I will say that this is something that is completely new to me.

Now, why is it such a big deal to me? Because this is the first dance where I had to ask a girl to go. I had never gone to dances, I actually avoid them like the plague, it makes me nauseous going to them because I can't dance nor can I socialize with people on a level that I think is required for me to partake in such events.

So why am I going?

Because the asking part was easy (I had someone that was pretty much a certain yes, so that was taken care of fairly easily), and I am getting paid money to go.

My father's mother paid him a hundred dollars to go to prom, and so he sat me down one day, and said that he will pay me one hundred dollars to attend homecoming with a date.

I think he assumed it would be harder for me to attain a date, but within the same day, I had already asked a girl that I like, gotten the yes and was well on my way to picking out my suit.

However, while certain parts of it were a breeze, I still am very anxious about going out in public and just socializing. It's not a thing that I tend to do. I am usually browsing the forums, talking to some of the users here on Skype (miss you guys, by the way), organizing some forum games I have been writing down, or studying.

I am very self-conscious about myself, and my lack of ability to connect with religious people. I don't think I can do it, not since my mother practically disowned me (in everything but officially) because I deconverted. I just haven't been as comfortable near the religious as I once was, especially now that I constantly attacked (called out, put in front of the classroom to argue) by my religious teacher.

If you want some context, imagine this:

For one of our assignments, they had to write a kergyma (A speech meant to converts non-believers) and she had me stand up and sit in front of the classroom and the students read their papers to me. Worst thing was, I couldn't even respond to any of the fallacies they were spouting off.

So how does this tie into homecoming?

Well, my date doesn't go to my school, and I don't want all that religious bullshit to catch up to me and make her homecoming experience ruined.

I am literally freaking out because I know that my lack of faith might ruin a relationship that I cherish value.

What do you think I should do?

P.S homecoming dresses are expensive, I went dress shopping with my date, and she had to fork over a hundred and sixty dollars for one and I nearly had to pick my jaw up off the floor.

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(24-09-2013 07:10 PM)Atothetheist Wrote:  You guys will most likely see a picture of me in a suit.

The dress is really nice, and I have decided to split the hundred dollars so that dress is really about 110 dollars.

Except for pics. Pics is good. Thumbsup

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Nah, I'm just dicking with you.

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24-09-2013, 08:46 PM
RE: A2's Homecoming ills.
If she doesn't go to your school...

Can you go to her homecoming instead? You both might be more comfortable.

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24-09-2013, 08:52 PM
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Have fun with it Ato. Don't worry about other people. Enjoy the company of your date. High school can be a pain, but it doesn't last forever. Going out with a pretty girl who gets all dressed up TO BE WITH YOU! is all you need to focus your attention on.

I went to Catholic school...no one talked religion at our homecomings and proms.

Since you saw her dress, be sure to pick out nice flowers for you that will go with her dress. Enjoy it.

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24-09-2013, 08:57 PM
RE: A2's Homecoming ills.
(24-09-2013 07:21 PM)bemore Wrote:  1: Go to your school principal and tell them you are getting bullied. When they ask who it is tell them it is your religion tutor. That the things she does and the way she treats you is affecting your confidence as a person. That you feel that if she continues to single you out that this will affect your self-esteem and all of your other school work. Tell them you want school to be a positive experience and that you wish to look back with fond memories when you leave, not fear.

If she ever wants to put you in front of the class again in similar circumstances simply refuse. Don't be a dick about it and if she wants to punish you then tell her to send for a senior member of staff to deal with it.

As long as you don't mock them, they should not mock you (in principle)

2: Don't worry about dancing. Nobody is asking you to be Usher or Chris Brown and if you don't want to dance, then don't. If you want to dance with your date then that is different. Tell her you feel your not very good and ask her to lead, make a light situation of it and laugh about it. Nobody will be watching you or judging you (these are insecurities in your head) but if somebody does come up and say something to you (which is probably highly unlikely). Politely tell them to fuck off and walk away.

3: Just treat it like any other occasion. I am sure you are surrounded by many religious people however I wonder at how much religion will take part in your occasion other than maybe saying grace or whatever at dinner. Stick within your friendship circles.

4: Try to have as much fun as possible, there will come a time when you will have to think "Fuck people and their beliefs" and stand up for what you want to do in life. As long as it doesn't involve mocking or piss taking of other people and you operate yourself within a respectful manner.

Or, embarrass the teacher back ...... just straight out ask, in front of the class, quietly, firmly, and unexpectedly..."Why are you always picking on me ? Why do you hate me ?" Just sit there and stare. It would take a lot of guts, but I've seen it happen, and it would stop.

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24-09-2013, 09:16 PM
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(24-09-2013 08:46 PM)I Am Wrote:  If she doesn't go to your school...

Can you go to her homecoming instead? You both might be more comfortable.

She doesn't have homecoming.

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24-09-2013, 09:20 PM
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Since I never attended school dances, I have nothing constructive to add to this thread.

I will, however, wish you luck with the dance and the general stupidity in your school.

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All information in the above post is my own opinion and will not
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