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11-04-2014, 08:59 PM
RE: AHAHAH... yep... this is awkward...
There's a saying in China that it tastes better when it is forbidden.

I am in a country where every one looks the same (you get the idea), so ... I wish I could be more helpful on this issue. But I think it is important that you think about the mentioned saying to see its influence on your evaluation of your relationship.

I hope that it works out both for you and your mom.

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11-04-2014, 09:24 PM
RE: AHAHAH... yep... this is awkward...
I've thought about it more today, and it isn't just my mom I worry about. My entire family is pretty republican, southern, narrow minded. I remember one time I jokingly made a statement about there being nothing after death, and my uncle became infuriated about it. I mean, for a family that fights, prostitutes, and deals and abuses, I don't think they should be the ones to sulk in religion and preach values, but they do.

I couldn't imagine how they would react if I told them I was gay (I'm not) or anything relative. My mom told me once she would be okay with me liking girls, but I feel like if I actually did, she would react far differently. Easier said than done, you know?

My father is full blood Italian. So dark he almost looks Puerto Rican. I was born with more Irish and German- pale skin and lighter hair. My sister inherited the darker skin and darker hair. I remember staying at my Grandfather's house (Grandfather is last remaining grand parent as of now; also very racist, sexist, old, etc.) and he called my little sister and I "n*ggers" as a reference to how dark skinned my father was.

Needless to say, yeah, I could probably break it down gently to my mom... but as for the rest of my family, I feel it wouldn't be nearly as easy to break.
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11-04-2014, 10:41 PM
RE: AHAHAH... yep... this is awkward...
(11-04-2014 09:24 PM)Ferdinand Wrote:  I've thought about it more today, and it isn't just my mom I worry about. My entire family is pretty republican, southern, narrow minded.

During the feudal ages in China, marriages were mostly arranged and a matched condition of the two families was required. It's been greatly improved from then on. Yet as you can still feel, a cirtain degree of interaction of the two families is inevitable if you two are going to get married.

Take it slow, let the reaction naturally happen and see how it goes.

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12-04-2014, 10:32 PM
RE: AHAHAH... yep... this is awkward...
I've had a crush on someone who had a different skin color. Her skin was ever so slightly paler than mine.

That is what I think of people who think biracial relationships are bad. Those people are hypocrites. Dodgy

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13-04-2014, 02:40 AM
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I don't understand what the issue is here?
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13-04-2014, 08:55 AM
RE: AHAHAH... yep... this is awkward...
(13-04-2014 02:40 AM)earmuffs Wrote:  I don't understand what the issue is here?

My mom and family would probably start World War III if I ever dated a guy who even so much as had one black parent.

In the future, how do I approach the matter without getting... I don't know... shot, strangled, etc.?

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