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26-11-2013, 03:23 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
(11-11-2013 07:51 PM)Smercury44 Wrote:  
(11-11-2013 07:50 PM)The_Thinking_Theist Wrote:  Now, are you saying I actually have to find out where the condoms are in the pharmacy? Tongue

Hahaha yeah probably a good idea. I don't know, can you buy them online if going to the store freaks you out? Never tried.

Yeah, but you can't try 'em on to see if they fit first if you buy onl...

I think I've just figured out why I keep getting escorted out of Walgreens.

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26-11-2013, 09:12 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
Because I feel like sharing a story;

I used to think I was heterosexual. I thought of people as being in one category or the other - man or woman, with different defining attributes for each category. Men were supposed to be manly, women were womanly. They dressed a certain way, they liked certain things, and you liked one or the other.

Then I became attracted to someone in one of my high school classes at the beginning of one semester, who I'd describe as androgynous. I honestly couldn't tell between the mixed messages of the clothes, the voice, the appearance, the interests and friends...

And I found I didn't care. None of that mattered.

I realized that, apart from the hardware, there was nothing really defining men and women. People come in a spectrum. There are females who look like males, males who look like females, males who, by gender, fit more in the women category, and females who fit better in the men category. Of course, many people aren't either.

There's no reason to place limits on yourself. If you are attracted to a certain kind of personality and appearance, what does it matter if you find that in a male or female? If you find yourself liking someone, just go with it, cultural notions and labels be damned.

If something can be destroyed by the truth, it might be worth destroying.

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26-11-2013, 09:17 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
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26-11-2013, 09:45 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
(26-11-2013 09:12 PM)Elesjei Wrote:  Because I feel like sharing a story;

I used to think I was heterosexual. I thought of people as being in one category or the other - man or woman, with different defining attributes for each category. Men were supposed to be manly, women were womanly. They dressed a certain way, they liked certain things, and you liked one or the other.

Then I became attracted to someone in one of my high school classes at the beginning of one semester, who I'd describe as androgynous. I honestly couldn't tell between the mixed messages of the clothes, the voice, the appearance, the interests and friends...

And I found I didn't care. None of that mattered.

I realized that, apart from the hardware, there was nothing really defining men and women. People come in a spectrum. There are females who look like males, males who look like females, males who, by gender, fit more in the women category, and females who fit better in the men category. Of course, many people aren't either.

There's no reason to place limits on yourself. If you are attracted to a certain kind of personality and appearance, what does it matter if you find that in a male or female? If you find yourself liking someone, just go with it, cultural notions and labels be damned.

Well, yes and no. Consider

If the software is compatible, we can share data.

But I want the hardware to be plug compatible. Yes

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26-11-2013, 09:49 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
(26-11-2013 09:45 PM)Chas Wrote:  
(26-11-2013 09:12 PM)Elesjei Wrote:  Because I feel like sharing a story;

I used to think I was heterosexual. I thought of people as being in one category or the other - man or woman, with different defining attributes for each category. Men were supposed to be manly, women were womanly. They dressed a certain way, they liked certain things, and you liked one or the other.

Then I became attracted to someone in one of my high school classes at the beginning of one semester, who I'd describe as androgynous. I honestly couldn't tell between the mixed messages of the clothes, the voice, the appearance, the interests and friends...

And I found I didn't care. None of that mattered.

I realized that, apart from the hardware, there was nothing really defining men and women. People come in a spectrum. There are females who look like males, males who look like females, males who, by gender, fit more in the women category, and females who fit better in the men category. Of course, many people aren't either.

There's no reason to place limits on yourself. If you are attracted to a certain kind of personality and appearance, what does it matter if you find that in a male or female? If you find yourself liking someone, just go with it, cultural notions and labels be damned.

Well, yes and no. Consider

If the software is compatible, we can share data.

But I want the hardware to be plug compatible. Yes

The hardware is plug compatible. Drinking Beverage

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26-11-2013, 09:51 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
(26-11-2013 09:49 PM)earmuffs Wrote:  
(26-11-2013 09:45 PM)Chas Wrote:  Well, yes and no. Consider

If the software is compatible, we can share data.

But I want the hardware to be plug compatible. Yes

The hardware is plug compatible. Drinking Beverage
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26-11-2013, 10:02 PM (This post was last modified: 27-11-2013 01:22 AM by Elesjei.)
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
Of course plug design is a valid concern, but it's at the bottom of the list of concerns for me. Sure I might like one model better than the other, but if I find something with all the necessary features I was shopping for, I'm getting that one. I can always get an adapter for the plug, and then it should work just fine.

edit: I just realized that this thread is the first time I've said anything serious about my own sexuality to anyone. Well, it's better if it's to some people I don't know living far away via an anonymous account, I suppose. I know enough people in my life who wouldn't approve. 99% of my relatives, for one. Tongue Pretty much conservative Anglicans and devout Catholics, all of them.

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28-11-2013, 12:26 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
(11-11-2013 07:16 PM)The_Thinking_Theist Wrote:  Hello, TTT here.

I was considering myself straight for a while, lately I've been "questioning"/bisexual. Now I may be facing facts that my spot on the sexual spectrum is shifting to homosexuality more and more. I still appreciate the women, of course, but less and less. It's actually starting to concern me.

Maybe it's some paraphilia I have that is making me favor men more, but the cold facts are still indicating that I'd rather sit next to a good looking guy in the movies.

Is this common for young people? It's such a dramatic change that I am fearing it may be permanent.

Is this normal?

(And yes Vosur, I hurried up this thread just for you Tongue )

I truly love intimate connection with men, being able to let my guard down, etc. I often don't trust men and I'm scared to connect and let my guard down, both because I don't trust them, and because I'm afraid of it being seen as homosexual/homoerotic. I'm sure I don't really want to stick my cock in a man's ass. I think that might be why women are more accepting of homosexuality in men as men are- in that men think about sex more and women think about emotions more. When men think about homosexuality they naturally think sexual thoughts, which they don't want to think about, so they don't think about homosexuality except to joke about it. This creates shame for those who feel they might 'be' homosexual.

I dislike the labeling and the use of the word IS in this instance. You are what you are at any given moment. Just flow and go with it. Don't lock yourself into anything. Why do you need to restrain yourself like that?

I find personally that when I bond with other men, I have less pressure to chase women- because all my emotional eggs are not in one basket- as warren farrel says. I think there is a male crisis today and a gender crises- men's emotional eggs are too much in one basket- that of women, or a given particular woman. This makes men needy around women and drives them away. Women are also so independent and they work hard so they can often become angular. These things together can be very frustrating and confusing to the male psyche. At least that is how I feel.

I love bonding with men and I regret not having bonded more with them in high school. In fact I was bullied a little bit. I understand the reasons or causes now. First of all my father was weak (and still is) and didn't instill in me enough masculinity and sex drive permissability), and two, my mother was VERY Importunate- and still is. Look up that word importunate! Also, besides blaming the parents, even worse was I didn't have a job or direction in my life. I gravitate now to construction and physical labor type jobs even as I go for my CPA- which I also like- because in doing those I feel more like a man- AND I bond with men more, who I work with. I'm working at a factory. We joke- and how different it is from working at amazon.com. I wish every man could experience this working with a male team like this. It is a new world inside. You can't experience it from books. I think we all should live life to the fullest. I want to experience everything I'm missing- to not be in a rush or haste but to not be idle and to start experiencing all that I'm missing and long for. After all, life is short if we let it go by. And so because I was a geek with weak parents and opinionated idealistic hypermoralistic mother, I attracted a bit of bullying or hazing. Hazing has a function- men want to see if the man they are accepting into the group has what it takes to be an integral team member. Women make the worst fathers, and a matriarchy or nanny state is a nightmare for men, but slip out of it and go where there is male space.

And when I'm doing well in work and study- which requires constant work- Arbeit macht frei rememeber. There is no freedom but through work and application, even when it seems the reward is far off or non-existent- work as though it is there- and when I'm doing well bonding with men or just not caring- then it takes the pressure off my 'hunt for women', which is never healthy. We need to attract women to us or not at all- and to do so we need to be powerful and secure and independent and in control, which means we have to be in control of our environment, which means we have to be good with finances, understand a little bit about business, about law, we have to be good in a profession, we have to have other social skills like how to incentivize people, we have to be in control of whom we associate with. I call all this 'controlling the perimeter'. A garden needs walls and fences before it can be grown to make a delight. In the Ancient Near East they needed walls, and a tower.

And I find the more homophobic I am the farther from freedom I am, the less homophobic I am, the closer to freedom I am. The less homophobic I am and the less I'm afraid of intimacy from men, including any necessary hazing and bullying, because when one bullies another- a bond is formed, or a relationship- and maybe that's the point all along- then the closer I am to freedom, including success with women, which really to a large extent only means making babies.
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28-11-2013, 01:34 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
(28-11-2013 12:26 PM)viking Wrote:  [quote='The_Thinking_Theist' pid='414582' dateline='1384218970']
because when one bullies another- a bond is formed, or a relationship- and maybe that's the point all along-

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04-04-2014, 08:38 PM
RE: Am I becoming a homosexual?
Very interesting question for me. Took some tests they all are showing i am gay
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