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29-03-2012, 01:45 AM
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(29-03-2012 12:38 AM)Stardust Wrote:  I'm reading the same message in some posts here that I got on the other forum from atheists, like satan69's post. The message goes: If you don't want to have sex, and especially if you are a virgin, then if you call yourself an atheist, something is wrong with you, because a real atheist is sexual.
I am a bit shocked by that and do not stand in position with some of the other posters. I initially glossed over this thread after looking at it to begin with figuring the topic would understood but it seems to be at odd.

There is nothing wrong with someone being asexual. It could very well be a condition born the same as homosexuality. The idea of so many jumping to the issues that it must be driven because of a strong religious childhood indoctrination is basically and it's the person not choosing to be free from that. If a person has always felt that way from as far back as they remember, it's likely a drive of their brain chemistry. While Asexuality is extremely rare it's far form unreasonable or a result of non-trying.

In regards to a public reference, I'm pretty sure the character Sheldon Cooper on The Big Bang Theory is considered Asexual.
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29-03-2012, 01:59 AM
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It's actually an interresting comparison of the biggest issues in life.
Sexuality makes you think of the things in life that you can choose, control, practice as you see fit. Just like religion.
Also you can have a closeted orientation and coming out can be quite hard.

But religious judging atheist for being too sexual? I can't even begin to list all the sexscandals involving the church. Or go to a club on saturday and see people grinding up against eachother, most of them will also be in church on sunday though...

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29-03-2012, 05:56 AM
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Seriously wow.

No I"m not shy around women at all. I've only ever kissed about 7 to 8 women in my life and most of those were women grabbing me and forcing me into it.

I'm not attracted to guys at all but I can't say that I ever often catch myself stopping and commenting on a woman's attractiveness. I have had a few moments of noting when someone is particularity attractive but not often.

That's not to say that at my age I don't have thoughts about wanting to start a family but I've always thought of sex as something you do when you want to make kids not as something to be done for fun.

Of course being Christian really helps support the above sentence and now having turned towards the truth that there is no good evidence for a god has made me quite embarrassed to talk to women about it to be honest.

The vast majority of people just don't even begin to understand. Christians are also usually far too willing to pin it on an ability to keep myself "pure".

Honestly I have been considering seeing a shrink but I just started my first relationship in years with the goal of getting settled to have kids so I think I want to see where that goes first.
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29-03-2012, 06:28 AM
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So you are in a relationship? Eventually, she will want to have sex..... another possibility is you have low testosterone levels... I can see how being religious can make you scared of sex. I was when i was a kid. I thought i was going to hell for everything. thats why i say when you become a atheist it should be more freeing and you dont have that guilt anymore. One thing is for sure: your first time will be horrible! let us know what happens. we can have a whole thread on you losing your virgnitySmile
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29-03-2012, 08:45 AM
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I honestly don't think pinning the whole thing on a Christian upbringing is a good idea. I mean there is a reason the success rate for Chastity hovers around 5% irrespective of which religion a person adheres to according to most studies I have seen.
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29-03-2012, 03:58 PM
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Hi Godless, I agree with Satan69 that you should get your hormone levels checked out. While sexual drive can vary greatly from person to person, having absolutely no interest in sex can surely bring about negative consequences. It at least doesn't hurt to get it checked out and understand what possibilities there are for your low/non-existent drive. You mentioned therapy and that is another avenue I would pursue if I were you. Make sure you find a licensed sex therapist, if you can. Good luck and keep us posted, if you feel so inclined.
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29-03-2012, 04:23 PM
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29-03-2012, 04:41 PM
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(29-03-2012 05:56 AM)Godless Wrote:  I've always thought of sex as something you do when you want to make kids not as something to be done for fun.

I just started my first relationship in years with the goal of getting settled to have kids so I think I want to see where that goes first.
Hmm, I'm not sure how that works for a guy. If you aren't enjoying it, doing it just to procreate, how can you have an erection? (you might need viagra to help you perform!).

Personally I think you are best not to worry about it. If you develop a relationship with someone, and fall in love, maybe you would start to enjoy kissing, enjoy touching, being close. When you are close to someone, it may feel natural, it may feel desirable.
But maybe it won't for you, which is fine if you are OK with the single life. It might be a problem if you do want a partner and a family. I'm assuming your partner would want sex, but maybe you could find a partner that is asexual as well.

It seems that you are reasonably young, my suggestion is to not dwell, simply make friends with whomever, and live a life that seems natural to you, don't seek an asexual partner just yet as you probably don't know yourself well enough to make this life decision. You might find you get a special bond with someone and you might find that this does not happen. But take it as it comes. Don't force it and don't put pressure on yourself. Just enjoy life.
(29-03-2012 03:58 PM)Noelani Wrote:  Hi Godless, I agree with Satan69 that you should get your hormone levels checked out. While sexual drive can vary greatly from person to person, having absolutely no interest in sex can surely bring about negative consequences. It at least doesn't hurt to get it checked out and understand what possibilities there are for your low/non-existent drive. You mentioned therapy and that is another avenue I would pursue if I were you. Make sure you find a licensed sex therapist, if you can. Good luck and keep us posted, if you feel so inclined.
No harm in doing this, if you feel you want to. But it might work to substantiate in your mind that there is a psychological issue with you, especially if the doctor finds nothing wrong. It might simply be that you are asexual or that you just aren't ready yet, (which might be because you haven't found the right person).
(29-03-2012 04:23 PM)Jodienda76 Wrote:  I'm a self proclaimed horniest bitch on the planet. Evil_monster
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29-03-2012, 04:52 PM
RE: An Asexual Atheist
(29-03-2012 12:38 AM)Stardust Wrote:  I'm reading the same message in some posts here that I got on the other forum from atheists, like satan69's post. The message goes: If you don't want to have sex, and especially if you are a virgin, then if you call yourself an atheist, something is wrong with you, because a real atheist is sexual.
Your major concern seems to be whether atheists are sexier than believers

I don't really think there is much difference at all. Some hard liners take chastity vows, but that doesn't prove much.
Christians can also look to forgiveness, confess, pray etc over their sexual encounters and this option may lead to more of the same.

As for atheists I see little reason why some would lack desire simply as part of their nature and the option is always there to take remedial action if so desired.
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29-03-2012, 05:57 PM
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(29-03-2012 04:41 PM)Stevil Wrote:  
(29-03-2012 05:56 AM)Godless Wrote:  I've always thought of sex as something you do when you want to make kids not as something to be done for fun.

I just started my first relationship in years with the goal of getting settled to have kids so I think I want to see where that goes first.
Hmm, I'm not sure how that works for a guy. If you aren't enjoying it, doing it just to procreate, how can you have an erection? (you might need viagra to help you perform!).

Personally I think you are best not to worry about it. If you develop a relationship with someone, and fall in love, maybe you would start to enjoy kissing, enjoy touching, being close. When you are close to someone, it may feel natural, it may feel desirable.
But maybe it won't for you, which is fine if you are OK with the single life. It might be a problem if you do want a partner and a family. I'm assuming your partner would want sex, but maybe you could find a partner that is asexual as well.

It seems that you are reasonably young, my suggestion is to not dwell, simply make friends with whomever, and live a life that seems natural to you, don't seek an asexual partner just yet as you probably don't know yourself well enough to make this life decision. You might find you get a special bond with someone and you might find that this does not happen. But take it as it comes. Don't force it and don't put pressure on yourself. Just enjoy life.
(29-03-2012 03:58 PM)Noelani Wrote:  Hi Godless, I agree with Satan69 that you should get your hormone levels checked out. While sexual drive can vary greatly from person to person, having absolutely no interest in sex can surely bring about negative consequences. It at least doesn't hurt to get it checked out and understand what possibilities there are for your low/non-existent drive. You mentioned therapy and that is another avenue I would pursue if I were you. Make sure you find a licensed sex therapist, if you can. Good luck and keep us posted, if you feel so inclined.
No harm in doing this, if you feel you want to. But it might work to substantiate in your mind that there is a psychological issue with you, especially if the doctor finds nothing wrong. It might simply be that you are asexual or that you just aren't ready yet, (which might be because you haven't found the right person).
(29-03-2012 04:23 PM)Jodienda76 Wrote:  I'm a self proclaimed horniest bitch on the planet. Evil_monster
Phone number please!

I'll give you a clue. The last two digits are 69... Angel
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