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26-02-2012, 12:07 AM
Atheist Funeral
I had never really given this much thought before...mainly because I have better things to do than think about my own demise. Big Grin

However, we had a death in the family this week. My cousin had been estranged from the family for many years and his wife passed away in the fall. So, no one really knew anything about him or his beliefs or what kind of funeral he would want, so they made a decision based on the family's Catholic beliefs.

And it got me thinking...
When I die, what kind of memorial service would I have as an atheist?

Now, when I got married two years ago it was not in a church...mainly because it was on Halloween and a Halloween-themed wedding (with the guests all in costume and everything), so no church would have allowed it anyway...but also because our DJ was an ordained minister and offered to marry us for free (who could say no to free?!) Smile But I made sure that the word "God" was never mentioned during the service (much to the chagrin of my future mother-in-law).

My lack of religious beliefs has never been a secret...my family all know how I feel. So if I tell them, "When I die, can you make sure God and Jesus aren't mentioned, it would really put a damper on my service." ...they would respect my wishes.

Part of me says, "Who cares what they do? I'll be dead so it won't matter!" But the other part of me says, "They better not bury me with rosary beads and a crucifix!"

Do any of you have specific funeral instructions all laid out for family members in case of your demise?
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26-02-2012, 12:59 AM
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Probably scattering various chemicals in my coffin, then burying it. There will be a great fireworks display for those pesky graveyard venturing teenagers.

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26-02-2012, 01:36 AM
 
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One thing I can tell you after working in the ICU for five years--it's all what the living next of kin wants to do. You have no say in it whatsoever. I'm not trying to be crass; it's just a fact. The funeral is for them, not for the dead.
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26-02-2012, 02:32 AM
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(26-02-2012 12:07 AM)jinun Wrote:  I had never really given this much thought before...mainly because I have better things to do than think about my own demise. Big Grin

However, we had a death in the family this week. My cousin had been estranged from the family for many years and his wife passed away in the fall. So, no one really knew anything about him or his beliefs or what kind of funeral he would want, so they made a decision based on the family's Catholic beliefs.

And it got me thinking...
When I die, what kind of memorial service would I have as an atheist?

Now, when I got married two years ago it was not in a church...mainly because it was on Halloween and a Halloween-themed wedding (with the guests all in costume and everything), so no church would have allowed it anyway...but also because our DJ was an ordained minister and offered to marry us for free (who could say no to free?!) Smile But I made sure that the word "God" was never mentioned during the service (much to the chagrin of my future mother-in-law).

My lack of religious beliefs has never been a secret...my family all know how I feel. So if I tell them, "When I die, can you make sure God and Jesus aren't mentioned, it would really put a damper on my service." ...they would respect my wishes.

Part of me says, "Who cares what they do? I'll be dead so it won't matter!" But the other part of me says, "They better not bury me with rosary beads and a crucifix!"

Do any of you have specific funeral instructions all laid out for family members in case of your demise?

No but i have thought about this myself.

I need to get a will going and about my funeral arrangements if such were to happen.

My whole fam is so religious that they prob won't even go if they knew that i didn't want to mention god. But my funeral would be about my life and about how important it is to have the courage to accept the truth and that you don't need religion as a coping mechanism for death.

Forget Jesus. Stars died so you could live.-Lawrence Krauss

For god loved the world so much he tortured his only begotten son, gave him a 3 day nap only to wake up in ultimate awesomeness and called it a sacrifice.
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26-02-2012, 04:19 AM
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It's a stupid question to ask. Once your dead you wont know anyway. It's linsane to think that a atheist would care what is said at their funeral. Now with that said, get your head out of your ass and get back to realizing that your life has no purpose.
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26-02-2012, 04:27 AM
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(26-02-2012 04:19 AM)satan69 Wrote:  It's a stupid question to ask. Once your dead you wont know anyway. It's linsane to think that a atheist would care what is said at their funeral. Now with that said, get your head out of your ass and get back to realizing that your life has no purpose.

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26-02-2012, 05:20 AM
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I want to be made into a big human panyata and have my relatives smash fuck out of me till I eventually burts open with sugary treats.

Failing that cremation will do Big Grin

I also have an agreed codeword with my sister.....because we go to a lot of ghost hunts and in case I do "come through" on a visit the codeword will confirm without a shadow of a doubt its me Big Grin

For no matter how much I use these symbols, to describe symptoms of my existence.
You are your own emphasis.
So I say nothing.

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26-02-2012, 08:11 AM
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Baby burgers are a priority.

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26-02-2012, 08:50 AM
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(26-02-2012 01:36 AM)Egor Wrote:  One thing I can tell you after working in the ICU for five years--it's all what the living next of kin wants to do. You have no say in it whatsoever. I'm not trying to be crass; it's just a fact. The funeral is for them, not for the dead.

Not necessarily. Some families try to respect the wishes of the deceased. My grandparents both died last year and in making their arrangements there was a lot of "this is what he/she would have wanted". Not to say there aren't families out there that would disregard the deceased's wishes, but some might be accommodating.

(26-02-2012 04:19 AM)satan69 Wrote:  It's a stupid question to ask. Once your dead you wont know anyway. It's linsane to think that a atheist would care what is said at their funeral. Now with that said, get your head out of your ass and get back to realizing that your life has no purpose.

True, since I'd be dead I won't really care. But at the same time...my purpose in life is to get my way and I think I'd want that in death as well. Smile
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26-02-2012, 08:51 AM
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In the aftermath of my parents funeral I noticed, that it was not only a burden to get things organised, it was also a serious cost (€6800!). All this in a period of your life where you are already down and sensitive. I want to prevent the same burden to fall upon my wife/daughter.

I'm going to enrol in a funeral service insurance. It’s a full service where you organise your own funeral, tell them what music you want to... eeuh... hear. They calculate the cost and you pay them a monthly fee. In that way I slam 2 flies with one sweep. No priests, and no burden for my family and the others I love.

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Disclaimer: Don’t mix the personal opinion above with the absolute and objective truth. Remember to think for yourself. Thank you.
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