Being afraid of one's own body
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05-03-2011, 12:33 PM (This post was last modified: 05-03-2011 02:06 PM by Observer.)
Being afraid of one's own body
In Belgium you have the right on 10 free visits of a breastfeeding coach. The one who visits us now is a very competent middle age woman who is also midwife. (I call her "The specialist from Venus" in a reference to "Men are from Mars, woman are from Venus")

While talking and babbling with my wife she gave us tips that you should have a "breast feel". By that she means that you should touch your breasts often. On a side-note she said that some woman are afraid to touch their breasts (not my wife). Later, she told us that she once had a patient that stated she had "spiders in her vagina". She (the patient) was too embarrassed to ask someone or to even look at the period bandage where she found the "spider". She, however, kept it and showed it to our "Venusian specialist". What happened: A piece of degradable wire from the episiotomy stitches came loose and got stuck in the blood.

We laughed about that a bit. but then it struck me...
The more I thought about it, the less funny it got...
I asked her, "Why did that poor women not check it for herself?"
She said that she was to embarrassed to do so. Turns out that there are normal people in the world who live normal lives but who are afraid of their own body. Woman (I don't know about men) who are afraid to touch their breasts, who don’t dare to have an orgasm, who think their ladyparts are too filthy to even touch or look at.

I think that’s kind of sad!


Any thoughts of you people?

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05-03-2011, 01:53 PM
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We are a screwed up species, no doubt about it. I'm sure the common view here is going to be that this is just another wonderful impact brought to us by religion, but I doubt that the origin of it was based on religious beliefs. I suspect (and this is really just a supposition on my part) that the origin of a lot of this behavior was that women were considered property in most early cultures, and making women fear their own bodies and sexuality was a form of control and keeping them in line. They were there for the mans pleasure, not their own pleasure. Religion is just a way of keeping people afraid to challenge what they are being told. "Do this or face eternal damnation!" is a powerful threat and a good way to keep people in line, so that is most likely what we did.

The result? Thousands of years of social evolution later and women are still afraid and ashamed of their own bodies.

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05-03-2011, 03:16 PM
 
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I can almost understand being scared of the vagina, it's like a mystery zone down there, but breasts?? That's like being scared of you arm. Rolleyes
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05-03-2011, 05:38 PM
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I wouldn't say afraid. More disgusted, than again I don't count this shell as my own either. My mind may be solely dependant on this body but does that mean it belongs to me? if you are hanging by a chain around your ankles over a chasm than does the chain belongs to you?
I don't want this body, whatever person ever said humans were perfect than this shell is a monument to reality.

Hey brother christian, with your high and mighty errand, your actions speak so loud, I can't hear a word you're saying.

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06-03-2011, 08:49 PM
RE: Being afraid of one's own body
I hate my body for being fat and having a slow metabolism.
I hate my brain for an over-active imagination for negative things.

Am I scared of it ? No.

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06-03-2011, 09:21 PM
 
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Ha, just wait until you see what is living in your body.
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06-03-2011, 09:46 PM
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It is really sad. I don't completely understand it either. Here in the US most of us are raised to believe that sex is WRONG but that's not all you're talking about here.

We all have the same parts. Big deal. It both sad and funny to met at the same time that when I go to the gym, I'm one of the only people who actually changes my clothes in front of the lockers. Most of the women go and hide in the one changing room, or a toilet or shower stall. Really, people?

I think it's good to be in touch with your own body, so to speak. There's nothing to be squeamish about. This gives me a good opportunity to bring up this:

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I'm a big proponent of these. Ladies, you should check this out. To see more:

http://www.gladrags.com/c-51-the-lunette-cup.aspx

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08-03-2011, 12:47 AM
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Are those menstruation cups? How do they work?

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08-03-2011, 12:59 AM
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I have a friend who's so frightened of his own penis that he can't even touch it to aim when he uses the toilet. He did think for a while that he was born into the wrong gender, but then decided he doesn't like breasts and vagina either.

He's not scared of sex with others though, and for that is heterosexual. He does however hate porn. Still I think it's kinda bad...

Personally I could be classed in with that sort of thing, as my own penis repulses and angers me, though only because I've never mentally recovered from being circumcised.

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08-03-2011, 02:21 AM
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Cetaceaphile I have to ask , what religious faith or idea was your friend thought ?
It could be that being indoctrinated with the idea that sex is something dirty he may grow repulsed by his own genitalia.Did he try therapy ?

Also , sorry to hear your circumcision is getting to you - did you think of singing up for new procedures ? Maybe they can regenerate your foreskin :
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/7354458.stm
(this news story really impressed me in regard to medical technology)

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