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05-07-2013, 09:53 PM
Casualty of Ignorance. Blood Transfusion refused.
At approximately 2:00 am yesterday, July 4th, I lost one of my best
friends to a ridiculous religious dogma. Brian was my brother-in-law,
but before he married my soon-to-be-ex-wife's sister he was already a
brother to me.

I am 31 years old and I'd known Brian for longer than I can remember.
His family moved to my hometown and started attending our local
Kingdom Hall when I was very young. Because of our age difference (4
years), we didn't actually become real friends until I was about 15.
But as we grew older, we came closer together.

We would hang out at the congregational meetings and in the parking
lot afterward and talk and joke around. We'd get together with other
young men from the Hall and play football and basketball together.
We'd have camp-outs. BBQs. Pool parties. At age 16, I took the Post
Secondary Options program that the state offers here in Ohio and Brian
and I attended university together. Not only did we spend time
together there, but we even had a local cable access show for the
campus called "The Rabid Dog and Toxic Guppy Show" where we would talk
about local events, do skits, fake celebrity interviews, and play the
music that we loved. We drank and watched movies and went driving and
got into a lot of trouble that the congregational Elders would have
disfellowshipped us for had they known.

As I mentioned, Brian married one of my wife's sisters and then, that
very fall, my older brother married one of her sisters as well. Our
families grew so close. I was there for the birth of his children and
him for my son's birth and my brother's children as well. The three of
us spent a lot of time and shared a lot of real human experience
together.

Brian died yesterday-- Thursday, July 4th, around 2 am -- at the age
of 35 after complications from surgery. He'd had serious cholesterol
and blood pressure issues, but he'd altered his diet and exercise and
seemed to be getting healthier. I don't know why, exactly, but his
doctor deemed that it would be a good idea to remove his gull bladder.
Somehow, something went wrong after the surgery. Brian returned to the
hospital with complaints of pain in his abdomen. They found he was
bleeding internally. They said they could stop it. They couldn't.

Leviticus 17:10-12 (New World Translation) says the following:
"As for any man of the house of Israel or some alien resident who is
residing as an alien in YOUR midst who eats any sort of blood, I shall
certainly set my face against the soul that is eating the blood, and I
shall indeed cut him off from among his people. 11 For the soul of
the flesh is in the blood, and I myself have put it upon the altar for
YOU to make atonement for YOUR souls, because it is the blood that
makes atonement by the soul [in it]. 12 That is why I have said to
the sons of Israel: “No soul of YOU must eat blood and no alien
resident who is residing as an alien in YOUR midst should eat blood.”"

As Jehovah's Witnesses, Brian, his wife, his children, his mother,
father, sister, inlaws, and indeed all true members of the faith
refuse blood transfusions. Brian and his wife refused a life-saving
blood transfusion yesterday and my brother, my good friend, and father
of 2 sons and 2 daughters between the ages 11 and less than 1 is dead
forever.

I am not exaggerating when I say that Brian had a genius level IQ. He
was a wizard electrician and mechanic and knew principles of physics
and energy that I will never fathom. And yet all his vast knowledge
and experience could not save him from this ignorant, backward,
insipid superstition that accepting a blood transfusion angers some
fickle, bloodthirsty, piece of shit imaginary asshole war god named
Jehovah.

I found all of this out yesterday a mere half hour before I was to
leave for work. No one bothered to tell me he was sick or was getting
an operation-- albeit one most would expect to be fairly minimal in
risk-- or even the fact that my brother had died until about 9 and a
half hours after the fact!

I was, and am, furious. I am still spitting sparks. These poor young
children have lost their father. My nieces and nephews have lost their
father. My brother is dead forever.

And yes, I do blame him. I blame his wife. I blame their families. I
blame the elders. Most of all, I blame the worthless charlatans
styling themselves "The Governing Body" in New York who said
life-saving medicine is a sin against Jehovah. Tens of thousands have
died for their superstition. No amount of washing can remove the
blood-stains on their hands.

When my son was born in 2008, a blood transfusion saved his mother
from bleeding to death after surgery. Her family-- particularly her
sister, who chose not to give Brian a blood transfusion-- said nothing
when this happened! Nothing! Yet, the fact that their own daughter or
sister is alive today because of a blood transfusion seems to mean
nothing to them in Brian's case.

I loved Brian. I loved him as a brother. He is dead now and forever
for reasons of blatant, willful ignorance and deception. My sadness is
only overcome by my fury. I want to shout it from the rooftops. I want
to call this for what it it is-- evil. Withholding a life-saving cure
from millions of people as the JWs do is nothing if not utterly
wicked.

Please understand and forgive my anger. I am writing you to tell you
these things because they need to be said, and I am hard pressed to
find someone with a listening ear and a loud voice who can expose this
evil for what it is in front of a real, vast audience.

Please warn others. Thank you for all of your work and all of your
time and for reading my experience.

---

I sent this to Seth very, very early this morning. I apologize for copying and pasting and I hope you will excuse my reluctance to type it all again, but I've been telling as many people who will listen for the past two days in hopes it may prevent someone else from being a part of this senseless tragedy.

Stay strong. Fight ignorance.

"The problem with faith is that it really is a conversation stopper. Faith is a declaration of immunity to the powers of conversation. It is a reason why you do not have to give reasons for what you believe." - Sam Harris
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05-07-2013, 10:04 PM
RE: Casualty of Ignorance. Blood Transfusion refused.
(05-07-2013 09:53 PM)SingingBear Wrote:  At approximately 2:00 am yesterday, July 4th, I lost one of my best
friends to a ridiculous religious dogma. Brian was my brother-in-law,
but before he married my soon-to-be-ex-wife's sister he was already a
brother to me.

I am 31 years old and I'd known Brian for longer than I can remember.
His family moved to my hometown and started attending our local
Kingdom Hall when I was very young. Because of our age difference (4
years), we didn't actually become real friends until I was about 15.
But as we grew older, we came closer together.

We would hang out at the congregational meetings and in the parking
lot afterward and talk and joke around. We'd get together with other
young men from the Hall and play football and basketball together.
We'd have camp-outs. BBQs. Pool parties. At age 16, I took the Post
Secondary Options program that the state offers here in Ohio and Brian
and I attended university together. Not only did we spend time
together there, but we even had a local cable access show for the
campus called "The Rabid Dog and Toxic Guppy Show" where we would talk
about local events, do skits, fake celebrity interviews, and play the
music that we loved. We drank and watched movies and went driving and
got into a lot of trouble that the congregational Elders would have
disfellowshipped us for had they known.

As I mentioned, Brian married one of my wife's sisters and then, that
very fall, my older brother married one of her sisters as well. Our
families grew so close. I was there for the birth of his children and
him for my son's birth and my brother's children as well. The three of
us spent a lot of time and shared a lot of real human experience
together.

Brian died yesterday-- Thursday, July 4th, around 2 am -- at the age
of 35 after complications from surgery. He'd had serious cholesterol
and blood pressure issues, but he'd altered his diet and exercise and
seemed to be getting healthier. I don't know why, exactly, but his
doctor deemed that it would be a good idea to remove his gull bladder.
Somehow, something went wrong after the surgery. Brian returned to the
hospital with complaints of pain in his abdomen. They found he was
bleeding internally. They said they could stop it. They couldn't.

Leviticus 17:10-12 (New World Translation) says the following:
"As for any man of the house of Israel or some alien resident who is
residing as an alien in YOUR midst who eats any sort of blood, I shall
certainly set my face against the soul that is eating the blood, and I
shall indeed cut him off from among his people. 11 For the soul of
the flesh is in the blood, and I myself have put it upon the altar for
YOU to make atonement for YOUR souls, because it is the blood that
makes atonement by the soul [in it]. 12 That is why I have said to
the sons of Israel: “No soul of YOU must eat blood and no alien
resident who is residing as an alien in YOUR midst should eat blood.”"

As Jehovah's Witnesses, Brian, his wife, his children, his mother,
father, sister, inlaws, and indeed all true members of the faith
refuse blood transfusions. Brian and his wife refused a life-saving
blood transfusion yesterday and my brother, my good friend, and father
of 2 sons and 2 daughters between the ages 11 and less than 1 is dead
forever.

I am not exaggerating when I say that Brian had a genius level IQ. He
was a wizard electrician and mechanic and knew principles of physics
and energy that I will never fathom. And yet all his vast knowledge
and experience could not save him from this ignorant, backward,
insipid superstition that accepting a blood transfusion angers some
fickle, bloodthirsty, piece of shit imaginary asshole war god named
Jehovah.

I found all of this out yesterday a mere half hour before I was to
leave for work. No one bothered to tell me he was sick or was getting
an operation-- albeit one most would expect to be fairly minimal in
risk-- or even the fact that my brother had died until about 9 and a
half hours after the fact!

I was, and am, furious. I am still spitting sparks. These poor young
children have lost their father. My nieces and nephews have lost their
father. My brother is dead forever.

And yes, I do blame him. I blame his wife. I blame their families. I
blame the elders. Most of all, I blame the worthless charlatans
styling themselves "The Governing Body" in New York who said
life-saving medicine is a sin against Jehovah. Tens of thousands have
died for their superstition. No amount of washing can remove the
blood-stains on their hands.

When my son was born in 2008, a blood transfusion saved his mother
from bleeding to death after surgery. Her family-- particularly her
sister, who chose not to give Brian a blood transfusion-- said nothing
when this happened! Nothing! Yet, the fact that their own daughter or
sister is alive today because of a blood transfusion seems to mean
nothing to them in Brian's case.

I loved Brian. I loved him as a brother. He is dead now and forever
for reasons of blatant, willful ignorance and deception. My sadness is
only overcome by my fury. I want to shout it from the rooftops. I want
to call this for what it it is-- evil. Withholding a life-saving cure
from millions of people as the JWs do is nothing if not utterly
wicked.

Please understand and forgive my anger. I am writing you to tell you
these things because they need to be said, and I am hard pressed to
find someone with a listening ear and a loud voice who can expose this
evil for what it is in front of a real, vast audience.

Please warn others. Thank you for all of your work and all of your
time and for reading my experience.

---

I sent this to Seth very, very early this morning. I apologize for copying and pasting and I hope you will excuse my reluctance to type it all again, but I've been telling as many people who will listen for the past two days in hopes it may prevent someone else from being a part of this senseless tragedy.

Stay strong. Fight ignorance.

My Deepest sympathy to you and your entire family. It is doubly sad that this was a preventable death held back by superstition.

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05-07-2013, 10:10 PM
RE: Casualty of Ignorance. Blood Transfusion refused.
(05-07-2013 09:53 PM)SingingBear Wrote:  At approximately 2:00 am yesterday, July 4th, I lost one of my best
friends to a ridiculous religious dogma. Brian was my brother-in-law,
but before he married my soon-to-be-ex-wife's sister he was already a
brother to me.

I am 31 years old and I'd known Brian for longer than I can remember.
His family moved to my hometown and started attending our local
Kingdom Hall when I was very young. Because of our age difference (4
years), we didn't actually become real friends until I was about 15.
But as we grew older, we came closer together.

We would hang out at the congregational meetings and in the parking
lot afterward and talk and joke around. We'd get together with other
young men from the Hall and play football and basketball together.
We'd have camp-outs. BBQs. Pool parties. At age 16, I took the Post
Secondary Options program that the state offers here in Ohio and Brian
and I attended university together. Not only did we spend time
together there, but we even had a local cable access show for the
campus called "The Rabid Dog and Toxic Guppy Show" where we would talk
about local events, do skits, fake celebrity interviews, and play the
music that we loved. We drank and watched movies and went driving and
got into a lot of trouble that the congregational Elders would have
disfellowshipped us for had they known.

As I mentioned, Brian married one of my wife's sisters and then, that
very fall, my older brother married one of her sisters as well. Our
families grew so close. I was there for the birth of his children and
him for my son's birth and my brother's children as well. The three of
us spent a lot of time and shared a lot of real human experience
together.

Brian died yesterday-- Thursday, July 4th, around 2 am -- at the age
of 35 after complications from surgery. He'd had serious cholesterol
and blood pressure issues, but he'd altered his diet and exercise and
seemed to be getting healthier. I don't know why, exactly, but his
doctor deemed that it would be a good idea to remove his gull bladder.
Somehow, something went wrong after the surgery. Brian returned to the
hospital with complaints of pain in his abdomen. They found he was
bleeding internally. They said they could stop it. They couldn't.

Leviticus 17:10-12 (New World Translation) says the following:
"As for any man of the house of Israel or some alien resident who is
residing as an alien in YOUR midst who eats any sort of blood, I shall
certainly set my face against the soul that is eating the blood, and I
shall indeed cut him off from among his people. 11 For the soul of
the flesh is in the blood, and I myself have put it upon the altar for
YOU to make atonement for YOUR souls, because it is the blood that
makes atonement by the soul [in it]. 12 That is why I have said to
the sons of Israel: “No soul of YOU must eat blood and no alien
resident who is residing as an alien in YOUR midst should eat blood.”"

As Jehovah's Witnesses, Brian, his wife, his children, his mother,
father, sister, inlaws, and indeed all true members of the faith
refuse blood transfusions. Brian and his wife refused a life-saving
blood transfusion yesterday and my brother, my good friend, and father
of 2 sons and 2 daughters between the ages 11 and less than 1 is dead
forever.

I am not exaggerating when I say that Brian had a genius level IQ. He
was a wizard electrician and mechanic and knew principles of physics
and energy that I will never fathom. And yet all his vast knowledge
and experience could not save him from this ignorant, backward,
insipid superstition that accepting a blood transfusion angers some
fickle, bloodthirsty, piece of shit imaginary asshole war god named
Jehovah.

I found all of this out yesterday a mere half hour before I was to
leave for work. No one bothered to tell me he was sick or was getting
an operation-- albeit one most would expect to be fairly minimal in
risk-- or even the fact that my brother had died until about 9 and a
half hours after the fact!

I was, and am, furious. I am still spitting sparks. These poor young
children have lost their father. My nieces and nephews have lost their
father. My brother is dead forever.

And yes, I do blame him. I blame his wife. I blame their families. I
blame the elders. Most of all, I blame the worthless charlatans
styling themselves "The Governing Body" in New York who said
life-saving medicine is a sin against Jehovah. Tens of thousands have
died for their superstition. No amount of washing can remove the
blood-stains on their hands.

When my son was born in 2008, a blood transfusion saved his mother
from bleeding to death after surgery. Her family-- particularly her
sister, who chose not to give Brian a blood transfusion-- said nothing
when this happened! Nothing! Yet, the fact that their own daughter or
sister is alive today because of a blood transfusion seems to mean
nothing to them in Brian's case.

I loved Brian. I loved him as a brother. He is dead now and forever
for reasons of blatant, willful ignorance and deception. My sadness is
only overcome by my fury. I want to shout it from the rooftops. I want
to call this for what it it is-- evil. Withholding a life-saving cure
from millions of people as the JWs do is nothing if not utterly
wicked.

Please understand and forgive my anger. I am writing you to tell you
these things because they need to be said, and I am hard pressed to
find someone with a listening ear and a loud voice who can expose this
evil for what it is in front of a real, vast audience.

Please warn others. Thank you for all of your work and all of your
time and for reading my experience.

---

I sent this to Seth very, very early this morning. I apologize for copying and pasting and I hope you will excuse my reluctance to type it all again, but I've been telling as many people who will listen for the past two days in hopes it may prevent someone else from being a part of this senseless tragedy.

Stay strong. Fight ignorance.

Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. AND....don't worry about being angry: you have the right to be outraged at such a stupid and destructive doctrine and all those that should preach it.
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05-07-2013, 10:34 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss.


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05-07-2013, 10:35 PM
RE: Casualty of Ignorance. Blood Transfusion refused.
(05-07-2013 09:53 PM)SingingBear Wrote:  At approximately 2:00 am yesterday, July 4th, I lost one of my best
friends to a ridiculous religious dogma. Brian was my brother-in-law,
but before he married my soon-to-be-ex-wife's sister he was already a
brother to me.

I'm very sorry for your loss. This is yet another of thousands of tragic stories each year which scream an answer to the puerile question "What's the harm in letting people believe what they want?". Even those religions sects which don't adhere to the more vicious and absurd admonitions in their "holey" books, can cause otherwise intelligent people to fall into the trap of giving reverence and obedience where their own or their families' very survival depends on violating those arbitrary ignorance and superstition based rules.

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05-07-2013, 11:37 PM
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Very sad, Hugs

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07-07-2013, 10:20 PM
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I am sorry for your loss.


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07-07-2013, 10:44 PM
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I am truly sorry.

Hopefully one day we will see a world where people aren't blinded the mythology of those that came before them.
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07-07-2013, 10:54 PM (This post was last modified: 08-07-2013 01:24 PM by Scully.)
RE: Casualty of Ignorance. Blood Transfusion refused.
I'm so sorry for your loss.

As an exJW myself, I feel your outrage at the loss of your dear friend, and for the loss to his family as well. As a nurse, my frustration and anger toward this act of martyrdom and the corporate fools at the helm of the Watchtower knows no bounds.

I have said on another forum that the number of JW men, women, and children who have died for adherence to this death dealing doctrine - if they were to occur all at once - would shock the world with numbers in excess of ten Jonestowns. The fact that these tragic deaths occur here and there, over many years, doesn't make headlines the way a mass suicide would, but that's exactly what it is.

Confounding matters even further, the Watchtower Society has invoked the use of Advance Medical Directives signed by individual JWs confirming their refusal of blood transfusions and blood products. These documents lets the organisation off the hook legally, because the individual signs the document and takes responsibility for the outcome of that decision.

I hope one day the people in charge of the Watchtower Society will be held accountable for the lives lost by way of this doctrine. They do have blood on their hands, and should have to pay.

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07-07-2013, 10:55 PM
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Below is a link the the Grief Beyond Belief facebook page. I'm pretty sure they have a private forum too. I hope they can help you during this time. I can't imagine the pain and anger you are going thru on so many different levels with so many people that are involved. sending love to you and all of the children involved.

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