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22-03-2014, 09:23 PM
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(22-03-2014 03:13 AM)Archipater Wrote:  So my grandfather recently passed away, and I am traveling home to attend the funeral mass.

However, my mother is telling me about this rosary service that will take place a few days earlier and mentions it as if we are all going. I used to go to these things as a kid since I was raised Catholic, and they seriously suck dick. I do not want to waste three hours of my life rubbing some beads and chanting nonsense...but...

Should I suck it up and just go through with it to prevent any conflict or misunderstanding? Or should I put my foot down and ask for a little respect concerning my own beliefs?

She basically kind of knows that I am an atheist, but we never talk about it and she has never really stopped with any of the stuff we used to do when we were all still religious. Like saying grace at the table and stuff. So we always have to say join in and say grace and it is kind of annoying and awkward...but anyways, getting off topic lol. Just a little back story for you.
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22-03-2014, 09:27 PM
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23-03-2014, 01:49 AM
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So we talked about everything and they were pretty disappointed, not angry or anything really. They don't fully understand why I am putting my foot down on this, but they did kind of see where I am coming from. I don't know, they are just sad because they wanted it to be a family thing, and I guess I can understand that. I am considering just going anyways because I love them and I don't want them to be unhappy and feel like there is some kind of tension between us. It's definitely not going to kill me to go to this thing. And I think I made a sort of point with everything.

What do you guys think?
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23-03-2014, 02:04 AM
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(23-03-2014 01:49 AM)Archipater Wrote:  So we talked about everything and they were pretty disappointed, not angry or anything really. They don't fully understand why I am putting my foot down on this, but they did kind of see where I am coming from. I don't know, they are just sad because they wanted it to be a family thing, and I guess I can understand that. I am considering just going anyways because I love them and I don't want them to be unhappy and feel like there is some kind of tension between us. It's definitely not going to kill me to go to this thing. And I think I made a sort of point with everything.

What do you guys think?

Go then Smile You've made your point. It *is* only a few hours of your life. Funerals are always awkward times though... just do what you feel is right for you.

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23-03-2014, 02:52 PM
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Just go an play it by ear. They are aware of the possibility of your not going to the service. If you feel you can handle it and it would be very helpful once you are there, go ahead. if you dread it, don't go.

Just depends on how strongly you feel.

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23-03-2014, 03:33 PM
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(22-03-2014 03:13 AM)Archipater Wrote:  So my grandfather recently passed away, and I am traveling home to attend the funeral mass.

However, my mother is telling me about this rosary service that will take place a few days earlier and mentions it as if we are all going. I used to go to these things as a kid since I was raised Catholic, and they seriously suck dick. I do not want to waste three hours of my life rubbing some beads and chanting nonsense...but...

Should I suck it up and just go through with it to prevent any conflict or misunderstanding? Or should I put my foot down and ask for a little respect concerning my own beliefs?

She basically kind of knows that I am an atheist, but we never talk about it and she has never really stopped with any of the stuff we used to do when we were all still religious. Like saying grace at the table and stuff. So we always have to say join in and say grace and it is kind of annoying and awkward...but anyways, getting off topic lol. Just a little back story for you.

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23-03-2014, 03:33 PM
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Tough one. My family is super catholic and even when I was a believer I would not go to the pre-funeral rosary service if they had one. No one ever made a big deal out of it.
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23-03-2014, 04:11 PM
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Be real and true.

Tell them you won't be part of the mind numbing brainwashing invented by the catholic church to bolster their coffers.

Tell them you respect your grandfather too much to allow commercialism to tarnish his memory.
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28-03-2014, 02:00 AM
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I thought I would just conclude with what happened tonight:

So I went to the thing, and honestly was not prepared for how different things feel now. It has been a year since I dropped the religion and became an atheist, and it is almost like a nightmare sitting through that stuff, even though I used to do it all the time back in Catholic school. Crazy how a change in perspective can really hit you.

I just sat there all awkwardly with this huge pit in my stomach. One minute everyone is being normal, talking to each other and sharing memories (the actual IMPORTANT stuff), next just mindless ignorant chanting. I felt frustrated and sick through the whole thing. I know they mean well, but it is scary to see such ignorance and know how it indirectly fuels the evil that is religion in this world.

Definitely will not be going to another one of these any time soon. I am just sad that my parents and I had to have an argument over something that shouldn't even warrant one in the first place. They don't understand why it bothers me so much. I mean I guess I could have just been quiet about it, continuing through my whole life just living a lie, but I deserve some respect too, right? I kept explaining to them that it's not like I am asking for much. I just didn't want to attend one part of the thing because I had a feeling it would make me uncomfortable. And they think that's arrogant and disrespectful to the family. And that I am imposing my beliefs on them, even though that's not even remotely true. If that was the case, then I would be telling them to tear down all the religious parts of the ceremony and make it non-religious.

I feel bad, but I didn't really do anything wrong? I guess I am just coming here for validation, honestly. I feel terrible right now. It sucks doing this, but change has to start somewhere, right?
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28-03-2014, 02:28 AM
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(28-03-2014 02:00 AM)Archipater Wrote:  I thought I would just conclude with what happened tonight:

So I went to the thing, and honestly was not prepared for how different things feel now. It has been a year since I dropped the religion and became an atheist, and it is almost like a nightmare sitting through that stuff, even though I used to do it all the time back in Catholic school. Crazy how a change in perspective can really hit you.

I just sat there all awkwardly with this huge pit in my stomach. One minute everyone is being normal, talking to each other and sharing memories (the actual IMPORTANT stuff), next just mindless ignorant chanting. I felt frustrated and sick through the whole thing. I know they mean well, but it is scary to see such ignorance and know how it indirectly fuels the evil that is religion in this world.

Definitely will not be going to another one of these any time soon. I am just sad that my parents and I had to have an argument over something that shouldn't even warrant one in the first place. They don't understand why it bothers me so much. I mean I guess I could have just been quiet about it, continuing through my whole life just living a lie, but I deserve some respect too, right? I kept explaining to them that it's not like I am asking for much. I just didn't want to attend one part of the thing because I had a feeling it would make me uncomfortable. And they think that's arrogant and disrespectful to the family. And that I am imposing my beliefs on them, even though that's not even remotely true. If that was the case, then I would be telling them to tear down all the religious parts of the ceremony and make it non-religious.

I feel bad, but I didn't really do anything wrong? I guess I am just coming here for validation, honestly. I feel terrible right now. It sucks doing this, but change has to start somewhere, right?

Well done! Don't feel bad. You're a pioneer.
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