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23-04-2015, 02:38 AM
RE: Closure
(23-04-2015 01:47 AM)morondog Wrote:  Credit to you for trying again. IMO... it's gonna be really hard even if he does agree.

Good luck Heart

I know I'm a fool for even trying. I just...arghh. I don't know. I don't know what I'm doing. Guess I'll see his response when he wakes up in a few hours.

If I get into a relationship with another person, I'll likely find myself back here again. I'm so broken hearted I don't know if I could let someone else in like that. At least with him...I know him. And I wouldn't have to spend so much time away from my son.

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23-04-2015, 03:48 AM
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(23-04-2015 01:13 AM)Nurse Wrote:  I can't spend the rest of my life in regret over not speaking up. There's no perfect person or perfect relationship

I really agree with you here. If you think it's worth giving a try, then give it a try.

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23-04-2015, 07:14 AM
RE: Closure
(23-04-2015 02:38 AM)Nurse Wrote:  
(23-04-2015 01:47 AM)morondog Wrote:  Credit to you for trying again. IMO... it's gonna be really hard even if he does agree.

Good luck Heart

I know I'm a fool for even trying. I just...arghh. I don't know. I don't know what I'm doing. Guess I'll see his response when he wakes up in a few hours.

If I get into a relationship with another person, I'll likely find myself back here again. I'm so broken hearted I don't know if I could let someone else in like that. At least with him...I know him. And I wouldn't have to spend so much time away from my son.

If you felt there was a chance and you would want it to work, then you had to try or spend the rest of forever wondering "what if...".

It takes guts to put yourself out there.




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23-04-2015, 08:03 AM
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I would tell him that you just want more time before signing. You both made alot of decisions when you were both wounded, hurt, confused, and now that the dust has settled, and you both have had a breather, and awhile to process it and get a full grasp of the situation, that you just want to make sure that a life changing decision isnt made in haste,

that you want to just stop and breathe for a moment before going to the next step.


no harm in that.


there is a reason why there is a 30 day wait period, some places have longer.


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23-04-2015, 10:12 AM
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There's nothing wrong with going back and trying again. When my son's mom and I broke up, we went to couples counseling for six months -- something I would never have done had it not been for the fact that my son's best interest demanded redoubled efforts.

It still didn't work.

I'm not given over to second or third efforts, but love makes demands all its own.
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23-04-2015, 10:36 AM
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(23-04-2015 02:38 AM)Nurse Wrote:  I know I'm a fool for even trying. I just...arghh. I don't know.

There is nothing foolish about trying, don't be so hard on yourself.

(23-04-2015 02:38 AM)Nurse Wrote:  If I get into a relationship with another person, I'll likely find myself back here again. I'm so broken hearted I don't know if I could let someone else in like that. At least with him...I know him. And I wouldn't have to spend so much time away from my son.

So don't get into a relationship. Get yourself into a good place first. You really can't love someone else if you don't first love yourself. Take care. Hug

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23-04-2015, 01:39 PM
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He doesn't want to try, it's completely over for him. His mind's made up.

So. Time to go find a notary...and be done with it.

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23-04-2015, 02:58 PM
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"Seize the day / pull the trigger, drop the blade / and watch the rolling heads ... "

Sorry it came out this way for you, Nurse. Keep your child's needs first and know that being in a valley means that there are heights nearby.
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23-04-2015, 05:08 PM
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(23-04-2015 01:39 PM)Nurse Wrote:  He doesn't want to try, it's completely over for him. His mind's made up.

So. Time to go find a notary...and be done with it.

Sorry.

I know it hurts, but it's best. You don't want to be with someone who not only doesn't want to be with you but can't live without you. You deserve more.

And, on plus side, we can still date without me fearing for my life every time an Alabama cop came near. It's just less awkward this way.

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23-04-2015, 07:51 PM
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I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, Nurse. He may not know it yet, but I'm pretty sure he is the big loser in this deal.
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