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04-01-2016, 01:50 PM
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I've read dozens of articles on engagement rings and I can say that I don't like them at all.

Now that I'm free to discuss this, it'd be interesting hearing other people's point of view.

It seems the vast majority of people are convinced that the engagement ring is important, or magical, or whatnot. Or maybe convinced that it symbolizes love, dedication, or commitment.

Much of my issue with engagement rings is the inequality of them. I don't even agree that it *should* be the man who has to propose in the first place. Let alone "prove" his love/dedication through an impractical, over-priced, completely material object. And why is only one party marked as "taken"? I mean, seriously, is there any good reason why a woman needs to be branded while a man allowed to roam without any adornment? Does it come down to just displaying bragging rights among women? *Not even getting into the whole corrupt diamond industry since rings don't HAVE to be diamond, no matter how much people have been "brainwashed" to believe so*

Perhaps in times past when people got married without hardly knowing each other, the engagement ring was a good indicator of what the man was bringing to the table. But now, couples are living together and practically sharing everything prior to engagement anyways. So if you already in a loving and committed relationship then you probably know the status, general life direction, approximate income, and more importantly, the personality and heart of the person you plan to marry...what the hell does the engagement ring TELL you? "He spent $X dollars on my present therefore he loves me sooooo much?" Is love quantified by spending money on functionally devoid baubles?

Furthermore, what purpose does an engagement ring have if a wedding ring is to follow? Is the exchange of wedding rings not the actual promise? The actual symbols of commitment?

So please put forward your opinion on engagement rings. Do you support them? If so, why? Do they seem dated? Unequal? Please tell me why Engagement rings in modern Western culture are anything more than a successful marketing campaign. Please tell me why a woman should expect one while a man should not. Please tell me why a wedding ring's purpose doesn't completely eclipse the need for an engagement ring.

Thank you,

Was going to add a poll, but I'm more interested in reading opinions. I like to see how people think differently than me Smile.

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04-01-2016, 01:58 PM
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Adam knows the answer. Wink



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04-01-2016, 02:04 PM
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Why? Because your fiancé wants one. (drops mic)

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04-01-2016, 02:05 PM
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Ask any jewler, ya dummy. Facepalm

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04-01-2016, 02:18 PM
RE: Engagement rings....WHY?
(04-01-2016 01:50 PM)Adrianime Wrote:  I've read dozens of articles on engagement rings and I can say that I don't like them at all.

Now that I'm free to discuss this, it'd be interesting hearing other people's point of view.
It's just a tradition. I don't really care for traditions or following trends.

I did however, get my wife an engagement ring.
We discussed alot about whether to get wedding rings. I was against it, wife was sometimes against and sometimes for. In the end we bought wedding rings.

However we never wear the wedding rings and my wife doesn't wear her engagement ring.

Neither of us are accessory people. Wife doesn't wear jewelery, doesn't put on make-up. It's just not something that we care about.

I even think "marriage" is an outdated concept.
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04-01-2016, 02:23 PM
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I think one ring is enough--but here's my take on it: I would want the engagement ring and I would use that as my wedding ring. Since I want a vintage engagement ring, I don't want another ring to add to it. To me the engagement ring is part of the romance and when I got married the engagement ring would "become" my wedding ring.

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04-01-2016, 02:27 PM
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I agree they're a rather off-putting and often one-sided symbol, although I know some couples who each give and wear an engagement ring.

I hadn't intended to get one, but when we went to order our wedding rings--of which we split the cost, 50/50--the engagement ring was only an extra $19, so we got that, too. As you can imagine, the $19 ring featured a diamond that was close to microscopic. I did wear my wedding ring/engagement ring together until our tenth anniversary, when my husband's present to me was a diamond ring.

It would not have bothered me to have no engagement ring, as that was the original plan.
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04-01-2016, 02:27 PM
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(04-01-2016 02:23 PM)jennybee Wrote:  I think one ring is enough--but here's my take on it: I would want the engagement ring and I would use that as my wedding ring. Since I want a vintage engagement ring, I don't want another ring to add to it. To me the engagement ring is part of the romance and when I got married the engagement ring would "become" my wedding ring.

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04-01-2016, 02:43 PM
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(04-01-2016 02:23 PM)jennybee Wrote:  I think one ring is enough--but here's my take on it: I would want the engagement ring and I would use that as my wedding ring. Since I want a vintage engagement ring, I don't want another ring to add to it. To me the engagement ring is part of the romance and when I got married the engagement ring would "become" my wedding ring.
So what is the difference, to you, in getting an engagement ring that becomes your wedding ring, rather than just getting a wedding ring that stays your wedding ring?

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04-01-2016, 02:52 PM
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Because the De Beers Group has decreed that thou shalt buy........


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