Fashion advice for my GF
Post Reply
 
Thread Rating:
  • 0 Votes - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
16-07-2013, 12:34 AM (This post was last modified: 16-07-2013 01:16 AM by Thammuz.)
Fashion advice for my GF
I need some help with a rather delicate subject. My girlfriend of 8 years and I are having some fights recently because of the way she dresses. I love her and all, but this problem puts quite alot of pressure on our relationship. I don't want to be an asshole forcing his women into wearing what I like, but I'm a well-groomed guy that likes to be proud of his partner. I can't seem talk to her about it without having a huge fight.

My GF seems to hate fashion. If you think Anne Hathaway in the first part 'the devil wears Prada' was bad, think again.
-She mostly wears ill-fitting jeans revealing her buttcrack (and not in the sexy way).
-If not jeans, it's medieval 'peasant working in the field' skirts making her ass look huge and her legs look short.
-High heels? forget it! she's 2 steps away from wearing Crocs
-A nice dress? haven't seen her wearing one in years
-Make up? nope, unless the occasion is very special. Not asking for a porn star look, but just a tiny bit once in a while. I've got twice the amount of products she has.
-Grandma-style clothing? YES!!! all colors and sizes
-Cleavage? what's that?
-It's often as if she only wears stuff that makes her uglier. And the uglier it is, the more she loves it.

If I'd give her my credit card, she would ignore all fashion stores and buy the same old ugly stuff again, in a slightly different colour. And I'd just have a check of 50 bucks on my credit line (tops). What kind of woman wouldn't love to spend alot of money on nice clothing when the guy offers his credit card and says: "just go ahead and don't feel guilty, I won't buy a tablet or other expensive gadget because you deserve to look nice" ?


I've tried everything. trying to couple her with fashionista female friends of mine to go shopping together, giving her gift certificates for an expensive hairdresser and make-up restyling, fashion magazines, offering my credit card... Nothing seems to work. She might buy one piece every so often (after much pressure), wear it once and then hide it in her closet, only to dress like grandma again.

I really don't know what to do, as I often feel a bit ashamed when going out with her and seeing her wear those ugly rags again (compared to all those beautifully dressed women around me). If I bring up the subject, she goes into hyper defensive mode and says that I don't know shit about fashion (that's why she only goes to those cheap stores with her mother, cuz she apparently knows fashion Dodgy ).

I just want her to try on some beautiful clothes so that she might see the difference and realize that she can be a babe without losing herself or having to wear something uncomfortable. I'm not saying she can't wear comfortable stuff at home, but when I go out with her, I want to be proud, as she represents my other half. I don't believe I'm being selfish in doing so.

Any suggestions on how? I'm getting a bit desperate here...

"Infinitus est numerus stultorum." (The number of fools is infinite)
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
16-07-2013, 12:55 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
A seriously fucked up thing. I really don't see how can you talk to her and explain this, without her getting pissed at you, to the max. I know the type of girls who don't wear dresses and refuse to wear heals, make-up, shit like that. It goes against hers beliefs, I don't think she will ever feel comfortable looking like you would want her to, and if she does not feel comfortable ... well you are fucked.

It would be nice to dress up for you, from time to time. I mean, relationships are suppose to be a compromise, that would imply her side of compromising occasionally.

[Image: a6505fe8.jpg]
I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours.
-Hunter S. Thompson
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
16-07-2013, 01:01 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
Tell her you want her to take you shopping for whatever she wants you to try on... If she will let you pick some outfits for her to try on. Go with it and have fun, pretend nobody else is there. Try both serious and a few goofy things.
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
16-07-2013, 01:13 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
So you want to change her outward identity to suit your expectations, which she has made clear it doesnt match who she feels she is? Are you not proud of who she is as she is? Is she happy?

Maybe you have different expectations and (fashion) values. Some people don't want to change. Realistically she should be able to humor you once in awhile, though.

You could always apply to the TV show "what not to wear" but I don't know what the long term effects are from this.
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
16-07-2013, 01:19 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
Really no advice. I do wish you luck.


God is a concept by which we measure our pain -- John Lennon

Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
16-07-2013, 01:20 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
I had an ex take me shopping and everything was a pretty solid choice other than the V neck garbage. But I liked feeling more attractive... Doesn't seem like such a big deal to me. I still have my old clothes too. See if you can get her to okay a few new outfits. She doesn't have to wear em like a uniform.
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 1 user Likes WeAreTheCosmos's post
16-07-2013, 01:29 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
Somehow I have a feeling this is not going to end well, explosions in your face and that shit... Never touch a girls fashion sense, no matter what it is.

Tongue

[Image: a6505fe8.jpg]
I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours.
-Hunter S. Thompson
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 3 users Like Filox's post
16-07-2013, 01:44 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
(16-07-2013 01:29 AM)Filox Wrote:  Somehow I have a feeling this is not going to end well, explosions in your face and that shit... Never touch a girls fashion sense, no matter what it is.

Tongue

Yea that's pretty much it.


God is a concept by which we measure our pain -- John Lennon

Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 1 user Likes Momsurroundedbyboys's post
16-07-2013, 01:47 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
So basically, I'm screwed?
I don't want to break up with her for that reason. there's a million reasons to break up, but this doesn't seem one, especially after all this time.

Hate it...

"Infinitus est numerus stultorum." (The number of fools is infinite)
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
16-07-2013, 01:51 AM
RE: Fashion advice for my GF
(16-07-2013 01:47 AM)Thammuz Wrote:  So basically, I'm screwed?
I don't want to break up with her for that reason. there's a million reasons to break up, but this doesn't seem one, especially after all this time.

Hate it...

Yep pretty much.


God is a concept by which we measure our pain -- John Lennon

Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Post Reply
Forum Jump: