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15-03-2017, 11:40 PM
RE: Girls night out - social anxiety hell
(15-03-2017 04:10 PM)kim Wrote:  So, Ukatheist ... how did it all go on Ladies' Night? Was it better than you thought it might be or was it a total drag? Shy

That only happens in Australia Tongue

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17-03-2017, 03:00 PM
RE: Girls night out - social anxiety hell
(15-03-2017 11:40 PM)morondog Wrote:  
(15-03-2017 04:10 PM)kim Wrote:  So, Ukatheist ... how did it all go on Ladies' Night? Was it better than you thought it might be or was it a total drag? Shy

That only happens in Australia Tongue

Now - that would be a fun ladies night out!!! Wink

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17-03-2017, 05:19 PM
RE: Girls night out - social anxiety hell
(15-03-2017 11:40 PM)morondog Wrote:  
(15-03-2017 04:10 PM)kim Wrote:  So, Ukatheist ... how did it all go on Ladies' Night? Was it better than you thought it might be or was it a total drag?

That only happens in Australia Tongue

Hey... I represent that altitude! Big Grin

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18-03-2017, 10:06 AM
RE: Girls night out - social anxiety hell
(15-03-2017 04:10 PM)kim Wrote:  So, Ukatheist ... how did it all go on Ladies' Night? Was it better than you thought it might be or was it a total drag? Shy
It was.......ok. Managed just under 4 hours (although the last hour or so was spent calculating when I could excuse myself without appearing rude).

Can't say I really enjoyed it, but also didn't want to throw myself into a river afterwards. Not drinking meant that I could escape, but being the only sober one (and trust me, those girls can draaaaaaank) wasn't much fun.

They all agreed not to spend the evening talking about the kids/football, so that was one of my main talking points gone straight away Undecided Did use a lot of the other tips here though - they helped a lot!

I think I'll be approaching the next one with a little less trepidation (albeit still not quite at the stage of actually looking forward to it) although one of the ladies offered me her spare room for the night next time so I can taxi share....whole new can of anxiety worms right there!

On the bright side, the fact that I'm being included in future plans must mean I wasn't too weird, right?
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18-03-2017, 10:31 AM
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(18-03-2017 10:06 AM)ukatheist Wrote:  ---
On the bright side, the fact that I'm being included in future plans must mean I wasn't too weird, right?

Thumbsup Sweet.
You disproved weirdness.
You disproved human spontaneous combustion.
You disproved (so far) that this was an anomaly that will never happen again.

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18-03-2017, 11:45 AM
RE: Girls night out - social anxiety hell
(18-03-2017 10:06 AM)ukatheist Wrote:  
(15-03-2017 04:10 PM)kim Wrote:  So, Ukatheist ... how did it all go on Ladies' Night? Was it better than you thought it might be or was it a total drag? Shy
It was.......ok. Managed just under 4 hours (although the last hour or so was spent calculating when I could excuse myself without appearing rude).

Can't say I really enjoyed it, but also didn't want to throw myself into a river afterwards. Not drinking meant that I could escape, but being the only sober one (and trust me, those girls can draaaaaaank) wasn't much fun.

They all agreed not to spend the evening talking about the kids/football, so that was one of my main talking points gone straight away Undecided Did use a lot of the other tips here though - they helped a lot!

I think I'll be approaching the next one with a little less trepidation (albeit still not quite at the stage of actually looking forward to it) although one of the ladies offered me her spare room for the night next time so I can taxi share....whole new can of anxiety worms right there!

On the bright side, the fact that I'm being included in future plans must mean I wasn't too weird, right?

Sounds to me like you did spectacularly well! Four hours is a long time.

Maybe you'll never really get into the swing of being one of a large party, but if you can handle a few girls' nights, you'll get to know the personalities in the group. Maybe one or two of them could turn into closer friends.
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18-03-2017, 12:39 PM
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Unless you are willing and able to never leave your home, there are times when interacting with a group is going to happen. It may be an school event for your child, or a sporting event. It could be a wedding or baby shower. It might just be a gathering at work. Becoming more comfortable when forced into a group social situation is a good thing. At least now you know you won't burst into flames as much as you may want to - secretly, of course.

Glad to hear that it wasn't awful.

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18-03-2017, 02:20 PM
RE: Girls night out - social anxiety hell
(18-03-2017 10:06 AM)ukatheist Wrote:  
(15-03-2017 04:10 PM)kim Wrote:  So, Ukatheist ... how did it all go on Ladies' Night? Was it better than you thought it might be or was it a total drag? Shy
It was.......ok. Managed just under 4 hours (although the last hour or so was spent calculating when I could excuse myself without appearing rude).

Can't say I really enjoyed it, but also didn't want to throw myself into a river afterwards. Not drinking meant that I could escape, but being the only sober one (and trust me, those girls can draaaaaaank) wasn't much fun.

They all agreed not to spend the evening talking about the kids/football, so that was one of my main talking points gone straight away Undecided Did use a lot of the other tips here though - they helped a lot!

I think I'll be approaching the next one with a little less trepidation (albeit still not quite at the stage of actually looking forward to it) although one of the ladies offered me her spare room for the night next time so I can taxi share....whole new can of anxiety worms right there!

On the bright side, the fact that I'm being included in future plans must mean I wasn't too weird, right?

You aren't weird. Even if you think you are. You're totally cool and it shows.

I'm pretty fucking weird. But I embrace this fact.

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