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04-08-2016, 11:30 PM
Hello! So glad to finally find y'all.
Hello! Glad to have found the forum (finally... lol) I found Seth's YT channel about 2 years ago and have gradually realized that I no longer believe so many things I used to FERVENTLY believe... My husband and I had been very active in a large Assemblies of God church in the Midwest... I was a church and recording/performing musician, always up on the platform every Sunday morning and evening - I've "fallen" a long way. Big Grin Anyway, husband is still very active, very much a believer, and I'm still "in the closet" (as you may have guessed from my name) Wink All he knows is that I haven't attended church in a few years, and in the beginning I told him I didn't like our new pastor, and had differences of opinion about certain things happening at the church (like Rodney Howard Brown type crap, and similar guests "healing evangelists" "prophets" etc. who came through regularly)

Now I look back on the time I participated in that whole show with deep embarrassment that I could have fallen for such BS. We raised our children with fundamentalist ideas, taught creationism - even attended a Ken Ham workshop for homeschool families when he came to our town (I seriously cannot believe how STUPID I was... don't tell anyone!! Haha!) Now I struggle with knowing that I influenced our children into that belief-system. I want so badly to sit them down and say how WRONG it was and is, but don't know quite how to do it. (they are young adults now, and doing well out on their own, and only occasionally go to church with husband, but I do think they still believe)

I'm not sure when I'll be able to come clean with the family. I truly fear the reaction I might get from my husband, who practically LIVES for church. (and here's something even scarier - when we were talking about the election the other day, I mentioned the reports of Donald Trump repeatedly asking, in a briefing, "Why can't we just nuke them?" and how appallingly terrifying it is to think of him being in the White House... husband said "well, if he does it, we just get to heaven sooner" GaspShocking Facepalm SERIOUSLY!!! That is a TERRIFYING response, and probably very common among bible literalists! YIKES!! I had no words and had to walk away before I exploded. I love the man and he loves me, but I don't know what his reaction might be if I tell him what I REALLY think these days. But really, I am aghast at this reaction, and the more I think about it, the more fearful I become that perhaps a lot of Christians who support Trump have that exact same mindset. They're not worried about nukes in this man's hands, because, hey, it's just a faster trip to meet Jesus in their minds... No

OK, I wasn't intending to go off on a tangent, really just wanted to say hi, and express my appreciation to Seth and all the people here. It is wonderful to have some fully SANE people to visit with, and all the great resources Seth provides. I am (eternally?) grateful!

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04-08-2016, 11:36 PM
RE: Hello! So glad to finally find y'all.
Welcome to TTA!

This is not the section of the forum to give out advice and stuff but there are many people here in your situation (or similar) who will be able to share their experience.

I'm tempted to ask if it's too late to get a new husband ... but I won't.

Have fun here and bask in the semi-sanity.

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05-08-2016, 12:05 AM
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Welcome Smile
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05-08-2016, 12:30 AM
RE: Hello! So glad to finally find y'all.
Welcome.

The first revolt is against the supreme tyranny of theology, of the phantom of God. As long as we have a master in heaven, we will be slaves on earth.

Mikhail Bakunin.
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05-08-2016, 02:45 PM
RE: Hello! So glad to finally find y'all.
Welcome to the Forum. You'll find you're not the only one with a Believer/ Atheist marriage. Consider this your safe haven. a place to vent and to throw out ideas or suggestions. You're not alone.

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05-08-2016, 02:57 PM
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Welcome aboard.
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05-08-2016, 03:00 PM
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Hello! Big Grin
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05-08-2016, 03:33 PM
RE: Hello! So glad to finally find y'all.
Why hello there.
Sorry to hear about your difficult situation.
If you seek advice with this, we have a section called Personal Issues and Support http://www.thethinkingatheist.com/forum/...nd-Support

Other than that, Welcome in our midst and may the FSM touch your soul with its holy appendix.
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05-08-2016, 04:23 PM
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I picture the singing couple skits from Saturday Night Live Tongue

Welcome to TTA! Shy

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05-08-2016, 04:47 PM
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Welcome to TTA, I hope we can help.
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