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16-11-2012, 02:25 AM
How do you think you would respond to the news that you will never have sex again?
When I was in my early 20's, my dad died of cancer. It started in his prostate before metastasizing into his bones. Anyway, about a year before he died he had a double orchiectomy to try to halt what his fucking prostate was doing to his body. I remember my dad talking to me about it as I sat by his bed as he was trying to decide if he was willing to go through with it or just keep things intact and go meet The Lord a littler sooner. It was one of the most bonding moments in my life to my dad. He expressed how scared he was to lose his boys. He grew up on a farm and had participated in plenty of castrations having seen neuteredness close up. He was 59 and I was 23. At first I didn't get it. Why would it bother him to not have sex ever again. Old people don't have sex, and certainly not my saintly parentals. But he explained that the act of removing his stones left him feeling like he was literally losing his manhood. I started to get it a little bit, but later I really did get it.

How would you react (or maybe for some, you've already reacted) if you found you cannot ever have sex again?

Suicidal?
Relieved?
Just another day?

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16-11-2012, 02:35 AM
RE: How do you think you would respond
Just another day. There are much worse things to lose.
May be different for a man though.

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16-11-2012, 02:44 AM (This post was last modified: 16-11-2012 02:48 AM by Free Thought.)
Title's too damn long!
"Well, that's another thing I wont get to experience."

Honestly, in that (or a similar) case, I've lost nothing.

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16-11-2012, 02:57 AM
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I wouldn't mind. It takes time. It's messy. Wouldn't mind to live without it.

Hell, I'm living without it now.
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16-11-2012, 06:09 AM
How do you think you would respond to the news that you will never have sex again?
It's not true that castration prevents erections or ejaculations. There is just no fertility.

However, the hormone levels go down and the desire may disappear.

If you don't desire it, you don't miss it either. But, if you want it anyway, there is always Viagra.

Personally I would be happy to be rid of that vulnerable stuff dangling between my legs. But then, if you're used to having it there, you likely miss it.

What younger people don't get is that lower hormone levels are a good thing in many ways. I am not talking about very low hormone levels caused by malfunction of something, that's not good, but lower, balanced and sufficient hormone levels. After such a surgery, hormone supplements are prescribed to balance things.

The mating drive in many overpowers a lot of other needs and desires, and that's not a good thing. But at the time you don't know it, it's the status quo that you feel that way, it's "you".

Ask me about being post-menopausal. It's heaven! It's liberating in so many ways. It feels like after being a slave to instincts for so many years, I am finally free to pursue what I actually want. Hormones are responsible for so many behaviors that make no sense when you think about it. Having a lower level of balanced hormones doesn't mean one cannot enjoy sex, it means that one is in total charge of it. And none of the emotional side effects.

I'm not saying I didn't enjoy my hormone riddled youth, I enjoyed it very much, those were the pre-aids hippie days and it was great fun. And I never realized how much the procreation instinct dominated my life until way later in life. I wouldn't change a thing, there was much pleasure to be had.

But now that I am post-menopausal I see it very differently. It is much more of a conscious choice, I am not driven by an instinctual need but it's more like enjoying some great chocolate truffles when I feel like it. It's hard to describe the difference. All I can tell you is that it's liberating and I am a much more levelheaded, balanced, and happier person.

So, if you take away the psychological impact of the loss of a body part and the prejudice of society, it's not such a bad thing at all.

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16-11-2012, 06:18 AM
RE: How do you think you wouldrespond to the news that you will never have sex again?
I 1/2 come close when I was younger. I had a fight with a guy in school and he booted me in the balls. A few days later my left nut had swollen to the point where I couldnt move or do anything. I had to have an operation to cut open my scrotum and to untwist my testicle. They said if I left it any longer they would of had to remove it.

If I had to have my testicles removed then I think I would be sad that I would never be able to have my own biological children. I wouldnt miss the lust side of sex, caus I probably wouldnt have urges without testosterone... what I would miss though is the closeness that sex brings with your partner.... proper "love making"

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16-11-2012, 06:46 AM
RE: How do you think you wouldrespond to the news that you will never have sex again?
(16-11-2012 06:18 AM)bemore Wrote:  what I would miss though is the closeness that sex brings with your partner.... proper "love making"


Oh but these days that's not a problem anymore. Viagra and other pills can take care of that for you.

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16-11-2012, 06:52 AM
RE: How do you think you wouldrespond to the news that you will never have sex again?
(16-11-2012 06:46 AM)Dom Wrote:  
(16-11-2012 06:18 AM)bemore Wrote:  what I would miss though is the closeness that sex brings with your partner.... proper "love making"


Oh but these days that's not a problem anymore. Viagra and other pills can take care of that for you.
I dont mean it that way Dom.... I mean more the emotional closeness it brings rather than the physical.

For no matter how much I use these symbols, to describe symptoms of my existence.
You are your own emphasis.
So I say nothing.

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16-11-2012, 07:03 AM
... news that you will never have sex again
I was castrated for fourteen years.
It happened one fateful day when I accidentally said "I do".

Now I have that part of my life back again... well, I know I can live without it... but I don't wanna.

Does not compute.

Change the subject.

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16-11-2012, 08:38 AM
RE: How do you think you would respond
I'd say, what else is new? Drinking Beverage

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