How should I approach this?
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20-01-2016, 12:57 PM
RE: How should I approach this?
(20-01-2016 09:54 AM)Aliza Wrote:  
(20-01-2016 09:39 AM)WeAreTheCosmos Wrote:  My gf has previously expressed interest in cosmetic surgery.

For quite some time she was interested in a boob job, but I have recently managed to actually convince her she doesn't need them done, and she's been more confident because she trusts me... That, and we've been watching porn together lately, and she can see I'm legitimately uninterested in big boobs.

She had also expressed concern that her lips were too thin. Again, I explained to her that I love her lips, and they aren't thin, just small like her other petite features. They still have beautiful shape and they're so soft. She's happy with that.

The problem is, though, that I'm a terrible liar, so I am having a bit of trouble with this last one... she's most interested in maybe lipo or some kind of tuck under her chin. Now, I don't think she needs it, however, I can't exactly pretend her appearance wouldn't benefit from it. She's only 5'2" and about 105 lbs if I had to guess, but she has what looks like a near double chin at times, and has had it since highschool. Some extra fat deposits under her otherwise petite face and chin... I honestly think she's outstandingly beautiful, but I also think that's the weakest point of her appearance. I havent seen any other otherwise slim/fit women with anything like that. And while I'm perfectly content, I know she isn't, and I don't know what to say to her about it. Again, I'm terrible at lying, so I'm more looking for a way to agree without insulting or damaging her confidence.

I think you should support her decision to have cosmetic surgery. If you're both up for it, then why should there be a problem?

Society has demonized cosmetic surgery as being for the vain and vapid, but I'm of the opinion that body image is very important, and people should feel comfortable in their own skin. We have a means to correct the little things that irk us, so why not take advantage of it? There should be nothing wrong with a person choosing to make a few changes, just as there's nothing wrong with a person feeling comfortable in their bodies "as is".

Yes and no. There are extreme cases all be they few, that people get addicted to it and end up looking bizarre. Going to that extreme repeatedly is an addiction which is covering up a mental insecurity. But no, if all you are doing is correcting something to make you more mentally happy those things are fine.

Again, it isn't a do it or don't do it, just make sure it is right for you.

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