Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
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04-01-2013, 01:11 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
(04-01-2013 01:02 AM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:I understand where you are coming from, but you seem to be assuming that these scenarios do not include the consent of all parties involved. I am under the assumption that all parties are aware of all expected consequences.(04-01-2013 12:47 AM)Logica Humano Wrote: This.I've know quite a few polygamy based relationships and few have lasted. The undoing seems to be jealousy -- No matter how hard they try the jealousy thing seemed to be end game for them. I've known two that are successful with an awesome dynamic. But both have rules respecting privacy and maintain somewhat separate living spaces (one owns adjoining condos and the other lives in a duplex). Both are triads and are married to one of the partners -- "one couple" owns the condo and the other owns the other condo and they do make all medical decisions together, But those are the exceptions not the rule... Occasional TTA returner then leaverer. |
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04-01-2013, 01:21 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
(04-01-2013 01:11 AM)Logica Humano Wrote:Oh no!!! These are fully done with complete consent. The "open marriages" are more limited consent (there is consent that one or both may step outside the marriage) but they rarely share details. That's what I meant by 'don't ask, don't tell'.(04-01-2013 01:02 AM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote: I've know quite a few polygamy based relationships and few have lasted. The undoing seems to be jealousy -- No matter how hard they try the jealousy thing seemed to be end game for them. I've known two that are successful with an awesome dynamic. But both have rules respecting privacy and maintain somewhat separate living spaces (one owns adjoining condos and the other lives in a duplex). Both are triads and are married to one of the partners -- "one couple" owns the condo and the other owns the other condo and they do make all medical decisions together, But those are the exceptions not the rule...I understand where you are coming from, but you seem to be assuming that these scenarios do not include the consent of all parties involved. I am under the assumption that all parties are aware of all expected consequences. Having said that with the poly relationships the jealousy 'thing' is really a button issue even with eyes wide open and full consent, what i've seen happen is that the relationship dynamic suffered because they just didn't anticipate feeling that way and it became impossible to reconcile. But in every situation (and there are others I do know a great deal about) consent is paramount from outset. While all relationships require good communication, those involved in 'alternative' (and those go beyond poly and open marriages) require a higher level of communication that isn't normally needed in "traditional" relationships. But as if to knock me down, reality came around And without so much as a mere touch, cut me into little pieces |
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04-01-2013, 03:06 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
Are you using monogamous in the sense of having only one sexual partner during their lifetime or only one at any one time? Because they're kinda different, at least to me. Either way, what I think people have evolved to be, is incredibly more diverse when it comes to behaviour and traits than any other species, so such generalisations are not always possible.
Also, a bit of a tangent, but I find this very interesting. "The findings indicate that, even in birds, the drive to find a mate is far more complicated than simply the need to reproduce. "A pair-bond in socially monogamous species represents a cooperative partnership that may give advantages for survival," said Dr Elie. "Finding a social partner, whatever its sex, could be a priority." "E se non passa la tristezza con altri occhi la guarderĂ²." |
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04-01-2013, 04:10 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
(03-01-2013 10:27 PM)LadyJane Wrote: Monogamy is what much of the human species has evolved to.What makes you say that ? Monogamy is more a result of religious, social and cultural conditioning rather than evolution. You've no idea whether primitive man was going around screwing every female he could lay his hands on or not. Most modern men still would if they could get away with it ! |
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04-01-2013, 07:16 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
Let me get this straight, I was referring to long-term relationships when I said monogamy.
My bad. Cool story, bro. ![]() |
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04-01-2013, 07:19 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
(03-01-2013 10:27 PM)LadyJane Wrote: Monogamy is what much of the human species has evolved to.The while point of survival is to reproduce, so why not have as much sex as you can in order to create offspring? Monogamy is a result of society. Cool story, bro. ![]() |
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04-01-2013, 07:22 AM
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(04-01-2013 07:19 AM)Refuting_Ignorance_Every_Day Wrote: Monogamy is a result of society.As is our survival. "E se non passa la tristezza con altri occhi la guarderĂ²." |
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04-01-2013, 08:10 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
Considering there are 7billion people on this planet it's a bit shit to generalize everyone under the same category.
People are different. Take this forum for example, Girly has been with his wife since high school (I'm pretty sure it's girly, someone correct me if I'm wrong). Monogamy works for him. We have members that have expressed their desire for polygamous relations. Polygamy could work for him. People get divorced. Some marry for a year and get divorced. Some get divorced after decades of marriage. Some people get married, get divorced and never marry again while others may have many husbands/wives of their life time.. People are different. |
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04-01-2013, 08:16 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
Ludacris says yes
![]() I think its different courses for different horses. When I was a younger I was like a dog with two dicks, I loved it and couldnt get enough of many different casual sex partners. However with all of my GFs in the past someone comes along who you cant get enough of tapping and as your feelings/attachements grow you want no one else tapping them. So if its reciprocated normally a relationship can form. So I have allways stuck to my word when forming a relationship that I will never cheat. (sods law dictates that when this promise is made, you will have ridiculous amounts of offers off of extremely fine ladies) On the whole though I think monogamy occurs possibly more in hostile enviroments in nature (as in enviroment)... I could be wrong though ![]() I feel so much, and yet I feel nothing. I am a rock, I am the sky, the birds and the trees and everything beyond. I am the wind, in the fields in which I roar. I am the water, in which I drown. |
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04-01-2013, 08:21 AM
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RE: Humans Aren't Supposed To Be Monogamists
(04-01-2013 08:16 AM)bemore Wrote: When I was a younger I was like a dog with two dicks,Sorry, Bob, but this is all I could think of when reading your post. Also - tapping? Really? ![]() And Muffs is right (as am I ![]() "E se non passa la tristezza con altri occhi la guarderĂ²." |
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