I Need Relationship Advice - An Atheist together with a Theist
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26-03-2014, 08:19 PM
RE: I Need Relationship Advice - An Atheist together with a Theist
What if she and her entire family believed the moon was made of cheese and prayed to the great wheel of cheese in the sky ?

Is there any way in which you can ignore this and not think they are all lunatics ?

One day she is going to realize how you see her and her whole family and that's when the shits going to hit the fan.

Until then, its all gravy

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27-03-2014, 06:43 AM
RE: I Need Relationship Advice - An Atheist together with a Theist
I am in a similar boat as Robby. I was a believer when my wife and I married. She is still very much catholic. If you girlfrind and her family are catholic you can use offical church positions on science and set them straight on things like evolution. I have used information direct from the vatican web site on more than one occasion to back up my positions. Most catholics do not even know the church's offical position on things.
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27-03-2014, 08:58 AM
RE: I Need Relationship Advice - An Atheist together with a Theist
You should inform the pope that her parents aren't following church doctrine and then post a copy of that lettet at their church. That will keep them off your back for a while.

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27-03-2014, 11:47 AM
RE: I Need Relationship Advice - An Atheist together with a Theist
I'm not going to say a theist and an atheist can't have a good relationship. My ex-husband was a theist (our split was amicable, and had nothing to do with our religion). It is possible. But you both have to be comfortable with your differences. Hell, my boyfriend is a socialist and I still love him Tongue

The problem I see is that it sounds like she's not comfortable. There are moderate theists who would have no problem with atheists but it sounds like this gal or her family isn't in that group.
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30-03-2014, 05:56 PM
RE: I Need Relationship Advice - An Atheist together with a Theist
It can work. I've been with a Christian for over 4 years now. However, he does not go to church or practice much, he's one of the more individualist Christians who think internal belief is enough to keep him out of the fire and brimstone. He knows I can't make myself believe and can't NOT question, and I realize cultural conditioning is hard for many people to question. As long as you respect who the other is, you'll be ok. The mother sounds like a handful!

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31-03-2014, 07:49 AM
RE: I Need Relationship Advice - An Atheist together with a Theist
(25-03-2014 10:07 PM)Aristotle Wrote:  Earlier today I went over to my girlfriends house, she knows I'm an Atheist and I know she's a Catholic.
Quick back story; She practices her religion headstrong, I have nothing against it. We've discussed many times about this, I don't have any problems with practicing religion with our children and she agreed to let our children choose for themselves what to believe. Her mother, too, is a Catholic. But anyways..

Earlier today we were sitting on her couch just watching a movie when her mother comes over, apparently she didn't know I was Atheist. Even though my girlfriend said right in front of us that she told her three or so times.
Her mother didn't like mentioning the word Atheist, she was asking what I believe in, what I practice, etc.. She would say things like "So you believe that we came from monkeys." I didn't take any offence to this because she said herself that she has never met an Atheist person before, how else would she act.
During this whole time my girlfriend would be acting uncomfortable(not her usual self).
After this encounter I later told her that I hope me being an Atheist won't affect our relationship and how your mother views us being together because I truly love her, and she does too. She told me it won't be a problem, but the way she said it, the tone in her voice, the face she had told me other wise. She hasn't been acting like she normally does, and I ask if anything is wrong and she smiles and says otherwise.

What should I do?
In the first place, what sort of atheist are you? If you consider the God hypothesis implausible, you should have no major difficulty getting along. If on the other hand you believe with certitude that there is no God, get ready for serious conflicts. You may as well deal with it sooner rather than later.
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