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31-05-2013, 02:23 AM
I Needed To Vent
So I need to vent. Just need to write my thoughts and know that somebody who is unrelated to the situation is reading it. I don't even care if anybody responds lol.

So I was with this girl for over 4 years. We got engaged and then had a wedding. Didn't turn in the paperwork but to us we were married. Things started to go down hill and she said she was no longer in love with me. She split up. Finally doing it through text. Anyway, things were civil. I lived in the house on my couch for about a month before getting my own place. She had a bf within a week and stayed at his house. I then moved out.

So from that point to now, which was about 8 months, I have gone about my life. I have had her family tell friends of mine that she cheated and her friends say she was hitting on a mutual friend. Whatever. Hurts but I don't care. I have moved on.

Fast forward to today. I guess I clicked the add friend button for her cousin. Somebody who I got along with. Didn't think anything of it. Well I got chewed out for supposedly spreading rumors, talking crap and not being able to move on. Funny thing is I have said nothing, I didn't start anything and I have dated a few girls with not a thought of my ex.

I live in a small town. There is bound to be drama. And I know that all sounds like some Jerry Springer crap without chairs being thrown. I haven't taken part and I have been the better man in this entire situation. However, living in a small town you see people and get dirty looks. You can tell yourself to not let it bother you but sometimes it just doesn't work.

So I guess if anybody advice I am seeking.....how do you just let it not bother you. Knowing that you have not done these things and have moved on but also knowing that people look at you as less of a person because of these accusations. I just want to live my quiet life and not get dirty looks wherever I go.

PS. I didn't cheat on her to cause her to leave. We just grew apart. Amicable for the most part.
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31-05-2013, 05:42 AM
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It'll pass. All you can do is slog through it. Don't get defensive, don't respond, it'll pass that much quicker.

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31-05-2013, 05:51 AM
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Dress up like The Emperor from Star Wars, point your hands at anyone who fucks with you and shout "UNLIMITED POOOWAAAAAAA!!!". Works for me.

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31-05-2013, 07:35 AM
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(31-05-2013 05:51 AM)ELK12695 Wrote:  Dress up like The Emperor from Star Wars, point your hands at anyone who fucks with you and shout "UNLIMITED POOOWAAAAAAA!!!". Works for me.

This.

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31-05-2013, 08:07 AM
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Move to a bigger city and enjoy your successful life FTW. Thumbsup

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31-05-2013, 09:29 AM
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Erxomai gave the advice I was going to suggest, but I like Elk's much better.

If you can't move than go with House of Cantor. if someone says something to you and you feel you must respond something along the lines of "that was a long time ago, we have both moved on, maybe you should too"

they say those things to upset you, and if you take the bait then it will never end. People will always talk 'he use to date her-and it was ___ fault they broke up" You can only escape that crap by moving.


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31-05-2013, 10:31 AM
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In the UK we have fish and chip shops. Many years ago they used to serve the food wrapped in old newspapers.... hence the quote.

"Today's news is tomorrows fish and chip papers"

My advice would be to simply ignore it. If you can't then if you catch someone looking down upon you ask them what the problem is? In my experience a large majority of people will act like pussies and say "Nothing"... to the few who do comment you can.

A: Put them straight on the matter
B: Ask "what the actual fuck has it got to do with you anyway?"

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31-05-2013, 01:22 PM
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Rise, is that Felix in your avatar? Nice! Thumbsup

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03-06-2013, 05:34 AM
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Thank you very much for all the advice. I took a couple days off from the Internet. For the most part I don't let these things get to me. Sometimes it just boils over and I feel like strangling somebody. The past is the past and I have moved on. I am better without her. But the thought that people have this opinion of me based on false information is difficult to swallow. But they don't know the real story or the real me.
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03-06-2013, 05:35 AM
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(31-05-2013 01:22 PM)Erxomai Wrote:  Rise, is that Felix in your avatar? Nice! Thumbsup

Sure is. That was an amazing game. Mariners fan?
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