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04-08-2015, 06:32 PM
I blame DLJ!
At one point DLJ suggested that I was an introvert.

It caught me off guard - popular in school, successful in business, public speaker, friends, 2 marriages, outspoken, not a shy bone in my body.... I certainly didn't think of myself as introvert.

But - the more time passes since DLJ said that, the more I realize that I am definitely an introvert. And that it has had and still has a lot of influence over my life.

I love being alone. I wake up and think - oh yes, no one is coming here today and I have no reason to go out! Yeah! I LOVE days like that, and since hubby passed, I enjoy as many "alone days" as I possibly can.

Friends want to know when I will start dating again, invite me to parties and dinners and cook-outs and I find excuses. I am definitely not getting married again, nor will I have a room mate. And I don't like groups of people engaging in small talk. It bores me to death and I think of ways to escape. When I get home from a gathering, I am exhausted and doubly appreciate being alone.

I do like going out to lunch with just one or two friends. I chat with people online, I email and text, so I am not incommunicado. I am not the least bit shy, I am outspoken. I am easy to get along with and find people from all walks of life interesting. I have more than enough empathy and I don't hate anyone.

People just don't get that I don't know the meaning of the word lonely and enjoy being by myself. "People are social animals." is a phrase I keep hearing. Well, I am "people" and I don't have a social bone in my body, yet managed to go through life thinking I was a normal extrovert - until DLJ called me an introvert. Tongue

Jokes aside, I owe DLJ a thanks because he prompted me to think about this and now I understand myself a lot better.

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04-08-2015, 06:44 PM
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04-08-2015, 06:47 PM
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I think everyone needs to do what they feel comfortable with and not not feel pressure from others to conform. Sometimes, I love being alone and going off and hiking in the woods (just me and my dog). Other times, I love being in the city and being around a ton of people. It really depends on my mood. If money was no object, I would have a loft in Boston and a secluded cabin in either Maine, New Hampshire, or Vermont.

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04-08-2015, 06:47 PM
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It was either him or Obama.
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04-08-2015, 06:50 PM
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Yay, me too. I already spend 40 hours a week around other people, so I take all the me-time I can get.
High five for new-found self-awareness *poundit*

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04-08-2015, 06:53 PM
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(04-08-2015 06:32 PM)Dom Wrote:  At one point DLJ suggested that I was an introvert.

It caught me off guard - popular in school, successful in business, public speaker, friends, 2 marriages, outspoken, not a shy bone in my body.... I certainly didn't think of myself as introvert.

But - the more time passes since DLJ said that, the more I realize that I am definitely an introvert. And that it has had and still has a lot of influence over my life.

I love being alone. I wake up and think - oh yes, no one is coming here today and I have no reason to go out! Yeah! I LOVE days like that, and since hubby passed, I enjoy as many "alone days" as I possibly can.

Friends want to know when I will start dating again, invite me to parties and dinners and cook-outs and I find excuses. I am definitely not getting married again, nor will I have a room mate. And I don't like groups of people engaging in small talk. It bores me to death and I think of ways to escape. When I get home from a gathering, I am exhausted and doubly appreciate being alone.

I do like going out to lunch with just one or two friends. I chat with people online, I email and text, so I am not incommunicado. I am not the least bit shy, I am outspoken. I am easy to get along with and find people from all walks of life interesting. I have more than enough empathy and I don't hate anyone.

People just don't get that I don't know the meaning of the word lonely and enjoy being by myself. "People are social animals." is a phrase I keep hearing. Well, I am "people" and I don't have a social bone in my body, yet managed to go through life thinking I was a normal extrovert - until DLJ called me an introvert. Tongue

Jokes aside, I owe DLJ a thanks because he prompted me to think about this and now I understand myself a lot better.

Glad you were able to figure stuff out Smile.

(04-08-2015 06:47 PM)pablo Wrote:  It was either him or Obama.

Always DLJ. Tongue

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04-08-2015, 06:54 PM
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Being an introvert isn't a bad thing.

I get all the people time I need, and then some, at work.

When I used to be around people more...I found I really needed time to myself to recharge. I used to be a bartender and I really liked it...lots of people all the time. So I can function in an extroverted manner but it was something I learned to do.

Check out my signature...pretty much covers it. Smile

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04-08-2015, 07:01 PM
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04-08-2015, 07:27 PM
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(04-08-2015 06:32 PM)Dom Wrote:  At one point DLJ suggested that I was an introvert.

It caught me off guard - popular in school, successful in business, public speaker, friends, 2 marriages, outspoken, not a shy bone in my body.... I certainly didn't think of myself as introvert.

But - the more time passes since DLJ said that, the more I realize that I am definitely an introvert. And that it has had and still has a lot of influence over my life.

I love being alone. I wake up and think - oh yes, no one is coming here today and I have no reason to go out! Yeah! I LOVE days like that, and since hubby passed, I enjoy as many "alone days" as I possibly can.

Friends want to know when I will start dating again, invite me to parties and dinners and cook-outs and I find excuses. I am definitely not getting married again, nor will I have a room mate. And I don't like groups of people engaging in small talk. It bores me to death and I think of ways to escape. When I get home from a gathering, I am exhausted and doubly appreciate being alone.

I do like going out to lunch with just one or two friends. I chat with people online, I email and text, so I am not incommunicado. I am not the least bit shy, I am outspoken. I am easy to get along with and find people from all walks of life interesting. I have more than enough empathy and I don't hate anyone.

People just don't get that I don't know the meaning of the word lonely and enjoy being by myself. "People are social animals." is a phrase I keep hearing. Well, I am "people" and I don't have a social bone in my body, yet managed to go through life thinking I was a normal extrovert - until DLJ called me an introvert. Tongue

Jokes aside, I owe DLJ a thanks because he prompted me to think about this and now I understand myself a lot better.
Personally I much prefer my own company 95% of the time.
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04-08-2015, 07:29 PM (This post was last modified: 04-08-2015 07:56 PM by Dom.)
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Oh no, someone break the poor man's cookie in half for him! Tongue

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