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04-01-2013, 02:24 AM
RE: I hate autism
(04-01-2013 02:10 AM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:  Having said that...many other people have found it useful from both a parent's perspective and others right here who are on the ASD spectrum. So I don't really regret anymore writing this post -- like I did before. It's served a purpose and I'm quite happy with that.
Thanks for clarifying it, words can be a bit misleading at times, even if your intentions were different. Parents have a whole load of issues to carry when raising a kid on the spectrum, including negative reactions from other people.

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04-01-2013, 02:42 AM
RE: I hate autism
(04-01-2013 02:24 AM)pxlgirl Wrote:  
(04-01-2013 02:10 AM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:  Having said that...many other people have found it useful from both a parent's perspective and others right here who are on the ASD spectrum. So I don't really regret anymore writing this post -- like I did before. It's served a purpose and I'm quite happy with that.
Thanks for clarifying it, words can be a bit misleading at times, even if your intentions were different. Parents have a whole load of issues to carry when raising a kid on the spectrum, including negative reactions from other people.

Smile No problem...he's really a great kid, as things go fairly easy going. Right now I'm just looking forward to school starting again....for the typical reasons.


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04-01-2013, 06:38 AM
RE: I hate autism
(04-01-2013 01:59 AM)pxlgirl Wrote:  What one considers "normal" would not really fit to someone on the spectrum, but just because it's different, doesn't mean it's always bad. Neurotypicals (NT's) have a hard time to understand certain behaviors and they can't be blamed for it, but saying that they hate autism is quite shocking. Would you tell the same thing if a child would have any other disability or disorder? Would that make them less worthy? Think about it.


I don't understand your reaction. I saw the thread title and had essentially the same kind of reaction as I would had it been "I hate cancer" or "I hate diabetes":

Here is a post by someone who is facing a hurdle and probably needs to vent, share, ask for help.

You weren't the only one to react as though she said she hated the person, but I don't get it.

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05-01-2013, 12:19 AM
RE: I hate autism
hey msbb anything new happen with your son?

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05-01-2013, 12:40 AM
RE: I hate autism
(04-01-2013 06:38 AM)Chas Wrote:  I don't understand your reaction. I saw the thread title and had essentially the same kind of reaction as I would had it been "I hate cancer" or "I hate diabetes" (...)

Well, autism is not considered a desease or "mental illness, a disorder might fit here but still, many advocates on the spectrum would rather classify it as a condition, where the brain is wired differently than most of the population.

As far as my reaction goes, it has been already clarified with the OP (read posts above). Smile

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05-01-2013, 12:43 AM
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(05-01-2013 12:19 AM)Xinoftruden Wrote:  hey msbb anything new happen with your son?
He's been doing great and he can't wait for school to start next week. We played Mario Party (which ever one) and kicked my butt on the mini games Big Grin
He's currently consumed with putting together a model (some star wars thing) he got for Christmas but deemed the wood burning kit we got him completely unsafe. He's actually quite artistic so I'd like to see him give it a shot but I'm not pushing it...We'll wait for a bored rainy/snowy day and try it then...or a hot summer day...lol.

The other night we lost power so had no choice but to talk...at first he was repeating generic stuff he's heard on TV....then for some reason we started talking about Star Wars (i'm a star trek person myself), but the mythology connection...good verse evil that kinda stuff...he had some interesting things to say about Darth Vader -- He doesn't think he was ever really bad....he just forgot how to be nice.

I was actually kinda sad when the power came back on and he vanished to work on his model....which I'm completely forbidden from helping him with because....there was this incident many years ago and he NEVER forgets anything....I put something together for him but did it wrong.

I think overall the model isn't going well tho, he's probably having trouble reading the instructions (the picture diagrams probably aren't as helpful) but he's really tenacious about doing it himself -- stupid box says 8-12 years old...But it'll just take him longer to figure out I guess.

Thanks for asking!!!


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05-01-2013, 12:46 AM
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sweet! Seems like things are great! Live long and prosper.

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18-01-2015, 08:30 PM
RE: I hate autism
I found this thread, and I really regret it. I understand a need to vent, but this...

Not only is this pointing to a 13 year old boy and saying that his lack of emotional contact due to a mental illness he cannot control is driving the mother insane, but the implication that autism causes divorce. Why do we need to put more fuel on the fire for people to point to when they say people with autism are a problem? And you can't just say that it's the autism and pretend that the person is separate. They are together. This is like going up to someone who can't walk and say that you hate them being paraplegic because it causes you so much problems. How do you think they feel? What if your son read this? You do realize that he's going to develop and be able to understand this right? Autism isn't like being crippled, you learn to cope and adapt, just like any mental illness. You have to teach him that even though he doesn't want to, sometimes he has to do things he doesn't want to. That's what my mom did to me, and I'm doing a lot of things in my life, more than what most who aren't on the spectrum are.

Teaching proper coping skills is also key, teach him how to deal with his emotions when they bottle up. How to direct it in a positive manner. He's smart, you just got show him where to look. He's already trying to imitate the TV shows he watch, show him smarter shows and he'll pick up on them eventually.
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18-01-2015, 09:28 PM
RE: I hate autism
(18-01-2015 08:30 PM)GingerJack Wrote:  I found this thread, and I really regret it. I understand a need to vent, but this...
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You read 107 posts in less than 3 minutes on-line? That's impressive.

Welcome to the forum GJ.

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19-01-2015, 06:37 AM (This post was last modified: 19-01-2015 06:54 AM by earmuffs.)
RE: I hate autism
(18-01-2015 08:30 PM)GingerJack Wrote:  I found this thread, and I really regret it. I understand a need to vent, but this...

Not only is this pointing to a 13 year old boy and saying that his lack of emotional contact due to a mental illness he cannot control is driving the mother insane, but the implication that autism causes divorce. Why do we need to put more fuel on the fire for people to point to when they say people with autism are a problem? And you can't just say that it's the autism and pretend that the person is separate. They are together. This is like going up to someone who can't walk and say that you hate them being paraplegic because it causes you so much problems. How do you think they feel? What if your son read this? You do realize that he's going to develop and be able to understand this right? Autism isn't like being crippled, you learn to cope and adapt, just like any mental illness. You have to teach him that even though he doesn't want to, sometimes he has to do things he doesn't want to. That's what my mom did to me, and I'm doing a lot of things in my life, more than what most who aren't on the spectrum are.

Teaching proper coping skills is also key, teach him how to deal with his emotions when they bottle up. How to direct it in a positive manner. He's smart, you just got show him where to look. He's already trying to imitate the TV shows he watch, show him smarter shows and he'll pick up on them eventually.

And what gives you the right to lecture Moms on how to raise her son and how she should or shouldn't feel?

I'm sure raising anyone with a neurological disorder is very hard and can be very frustrating at times. That's not saying she doesn't love her son, that's just her being real and expression that sometimes she gets frustrated.

If you can't understand why someone would be frustrated occasionally given that situation than you haven't been through it and so shouldn't lecture other people on how they should and shouldn't go through it.

Oh, and fuck you.

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