I'm a bit new at this

[Smooshmonster]

What did your parents say? Did they say it seemed like she liked you too? I think that you are such good friends, that if you just ask her out now, you risk making things awkward between the two of you if she doesn't feel the same way. Since you're such good friends this awkwardness is unlikely it'll last long, but nobody likes being rejected.
Test the waters first. Watch her and see how she reacts when you're alone together. Does she laugh at your bad jokes or only the good ones? (always a good indication)
When you do ask her out, make sure she knows there's no pressure to say yes or lose the awesome friendship you have already.

Oh yeah, the butterflies. They don't really go away I think. Not at 16, not at 30. Butterflies are evil creatures that sabotage us when we need to be cool. Just be cool (or try some relaxation techniques ). But if you do feel nervous and end up making yourself look silly or something, don't worry about it so much. She seems to know you well enough not to judge you by it.

Good luck, and let us know how the date goes. Take her to the zoo. That's the advice I gave my other school-age friend and she is now his special lady-friend. There's just something about cute little monkeys I think.

Smooshmonster,
Dispensing relationship advice since two weeks ago.

[Logica Humano]

I've only been in three romantic relationships throughout my teen years. I figure what's the use? I am only a teenager, it's not like this love will last. The experience is nice though, so I will help you out.

In my experience, girls love it when they see you are being all nervous over them. ;D

[bemore]

I can dispense lots of advice..... things to look out for body language wise.... signs etc etc and im sure everybody can chip in somehow with their own tales of courting.

All of it might not be relevant to you... may confuse you/complicate things etc etc.

I think you need to work out if you can handle if she says no...... if you can handle that then you should simply tell her how you feel about her.

[Misanthropik]

I'm sorry, I'm seeing a lot of advice here, but everyone seems to support the idea of making this potential relationship an "official" thing.

Just let it ride, my friend. The best kind of relationship isn't one that's been stamped as "OFFICIAL" on the record books, because then it sparks the subconscious pressure to "maintain" things. No, a truly wonderful relationship is just as you're describing it: two people, friends since birth, who have grown up together and gotten into god-knows-what sorts of shenanigans together; gradually becoming closer and closer based on the trust and respect and intimacy that's been building up over the years. You two have been there for one another since the begining. You've laughed, you've cried, you've fought, you've consoled and supported. At this point, you each know every love and hate and facial-twitch of the other person, and in time, this may very well draw you ever-closer together until one day you both look at each other and realize you've been "dating" for the last 16+ years. At that point, you can't imagine life without her, nor she without you, and you decide to put what has become "love" into practice. Putting her interests before your own and vice versa on her part. Many a life-long partnership has started this way.

If you want to get rid of the butterflies, I'm sure you're close enough to her by now to be frank with her. Tell her that it's not something you're upset about, but that you're feeling things and you thought she should know, because you respect her enough to be honest with her (something that, at this point, should just be a given). Just being candid with her will put your mind at ease, and it shouldn't cause any ungodly backlash the way that "asking her out" could.

Additionally, you're 16, which means that hormones are running absolutely RAMPANT in your system right now. Inside you're all twitchy and you just wanna grab her and scream "I LOVE YOU!" and fuck things up. Trust me; the 'mones make a guy stupid. In mind and in action. Just try to keep your more primal urges at bay, and let the friendship blossom into the partnership that it's waiting to. As the two of you get older together, you'll find that the "blossoming" gets easier, because you become more logical and mature.

It'll work out.

[DLJ]

Good advice Miso.

Or to get rid of the butterflies... practice with a hooker.

[Filox]

You are friends from your first days? So what seems to be the problem? With a friend like that, can you not talk to her about anything? About your feelings as well? It is a bit hard, but if you are such old and good friends, I have a feeling that it should not be so hard to be open and talk to her.

The other problem I have encountered with good friends is that she might think of you as a true friend, ending up like a brother, so there is no way in making anything romantic/sexual. I had more sisters in my life than I would ever want. Now I do not make female friends anymore, only if they are ugly enough to be my friend.

But whatever you do, you will feel bad until you do it.

[ABC]

As Misanthropik said, you are close enough with her where there is space to express your feelings. Do so, not in an overly emotional way, but do be honest. You both deserve it. Whatever happens next will happen. Good luck

[TrainWreck]

(14-09-2012 09:10 PM)Xinoftruden Wrote:  hey guys, overly awkward nerd here.

So there's this girl (of course) that I grew up with. . . so plz anything you can say to make me less nervous is helpful.

Yo, Adrian, you wanna do something, like go to the movies, or something - I thought you might wanna do something.

Please, tell me you cannot handle that???

She'll be rolling on the floor ready to suck your dick before you know it.

[Xinoftruden]

oops forgot I made this. It's going well. We meet on sundays every week and I work for her dad so we spend a lot of time together. She's about as awkward as I am so it balances out.

[TrainWreck]

(08-11-2012 08:26 PM)Xinoftruden Wrote:  oops forgot I made this. It's going well. We meet on sundays every week and I work for her dad so we spend a lot of time together. She's about as awkward as I am so it balances out.

You know, you guys never cease to amaze me. What with all the problems in the world, and the propaganda machine of Christianity, I come across messages like this and sense that there is hope for the cause of atheism. I sense that you could make the argument that atheists do have family values, and can go to meetings on Sundays just like the Christians - wouldn't it be wonderful if we could get the Christians to understand that we do community, as well, as they try to do.

Kum-Bi-Ya my lord,
Kum-Bi-Yah,
oh lord,
Kum-Bi-Ya