I'm athiest : he's a Christian: can it work

[RMTomb]

Hey,
I'm new to the forum, but here's my two cents worth. My current, and only, wife and I dated for two years. She was a Catholic from a militantly Catholic family and I am an atheist who has a pretty good grasp of the bible from Jesus camp and my own reading. We were married 21 years ago and are still going strong. Unfortunately, I have a nasty habit of asking questions like: why do you do X? Where X could be: go to confession, pray, bother with church, ect. She remained religious for many years while we were married and it never caused a problem. Admittedly, I didn't have a problem when she wanted both the children baptized. What's the big deal with a little water on a kid who's to young to remember? Although I did shamelessly require that she buy me a hunting rifle as payment for my involvement. Nevertheless, I held firm about First communion and other religious ceremonies. She eventually walked away from her faith, but not because of me. I was just a reminder that it was possible to live without the church. The church itself did all the heavy lifting by alienating women, insisting on constant donations, running magdaline houses and finally the pedophilia scandals. She could be a Christian today and it wouldn't be a problem for me. Whereas, I understand that everyone's situation is different. I would advise not doing anything rash. One of the great thing about not having to follow dogma is the flexibility of action. Take your time, maybe thing will change, maybe it won't matter if they do. But, in at least some cases it can work. Just remember, your views are valid too.

[Bucky Ball]

I broke up with this friend I was going out with for a while, as we had different religious beliefs.
She was an atheist. At the time, I thought I was god.

[TrainWreck]

It is silly to believe it would "work."

The reason it does "work" for some is because they are stupid people, and do not understand that they are bouncing around in their larger than normal margin of human error.

I'm an insecure Starbucks manager, and she's a high-end prostitute - do you think it is going to work for us?

[maffooo]

its midnight. my girlfriend is crazy so im shunned to the couch tonight. hopefully in time users will get to know me and i will change lives. hopefully i can pass some couch-time by seeking the wisdom of others.

now to the question. I only read the title, sorry for the laziness, but heres my bit on it.. and its purely opinion.

the thing that makes a couples difference in beliefs look more unimportant than.. i dunno, the kardashians, are a couples philosophy. me and my girlfriend seem to need to agree on everything, mainly because we're stubborn and very different to the crowd. she believes in god, and i believe that it is naive to believe in god; instead wiser to accept the possibility that a god may or may not exist, its pointless and destructive to speculate in the first place. that is part of my philosophy.

so the universe of our arguments is: 1) i believe a god exists 2) i believe it's unwise to believe in a god because of many reasons, however, i could not deny the possibility of something some would regard as a 'god', even if it hasnt consciousness there could be something god-like out there. who knows who cares.

right, but its all about whats important in a relationship (each one is TOTALLY freakin different), and what sort of things u guys talk / think / lose sleep about. we (samantha and i) talk about people, politics, science, life, all sorts. ive only very recently come to accept she believes in a god!

some would call that big-headed. but we feel the same about religions, totally bash em. yay us.

if ur like us, and talk about very intimate things, and have the need for agreement, then it would not work.
if ur unlike us, and focus on the more practical sides of a relationship, then it could work.

however, if it works today doesnt mean it will work in a months time.
it all depends on how strongly u feel against religion.

does it matter to u? u have ur reasons for being atheist, religious people have somewhat delusional reasons for being religious (religious, not god-believing).

it really only depends on the kind of people u are.. thats how arbitrary the issue is here.. its a sure no for me and a who knows for u.. u are the only person who can analyze urself to the point of reason.

its strange tho.. if i met a really hot christian girl who i really really liked before knowing she was christian.. i would almost feel like i could make it work.. of course, that is just my penis talking, and if i didnt stop and think about it, i would be engaged in a doomed relationship.

u really just need to think about it. i can handle someone who believes in god.. she has had experiences and shit like that which have somehow convinced her of it.. but she believes in the big bang and evolution and science so for now im satisfied.

i hope ive given u something to think about..

its all about what kind of people are you. that is the only determining factor in this issue.

[GirlyMan]

(08-11-2012 04:45 PM)TrainWreck Wrote:  It is silly to believe it would "work."

The reason it does "work" for some is because they are stupid people, and do not understand that they are bouncing around in their larger than normal margin of human error.

You really think I'm silly and stupid, SidewalkCynic? I seriously doubt that you do. And if you really do ... there's always the dohyō.

(06-10-2012 01:33 PM)RMTomb Wrote:  Hey,
I'm new to the forum, but here's my two cents worth. My current, and only, wife and I dated for two years. She was a Catholic from a militantly Catholic family and I am an atheist who has a pretty good grasp of the bible from Jesus camp and my own reading. We were married 21 years ago and are still going strong. Unfortunately, I have a nasty habit of asking questions like: why do you do X? Where X could be: go to confession, pray, bother with church, ect. She remained religious for many years while we were married and it never caused a problem. Admittedly, I didn't have a problem when she wanted both the children baptized. What's the big deal with a little water on a kid who's to young to remember? Although I did shamelessly require that she buy me a hunting rifle as payment for my involvement. Nevertheless, I held firm about First communion and other religious ceremonies. She eventually walked away from her faith, but not because of me. I was just a reminder that it was possible to live without the church. The church itself did all the heavy lifting by alienating women, insisting on constant donations, running magdaline houses and finally the pedophilia scandals. She could be a Christian today and it wouldn't be a problem for me. Whereas, I understand that everyone's situation is different. I would advise not doing anything rash. One of the great thing about not having to follow dogma is the flexibility of action. Take your time, maybe thing will change, maybe it won't matter if they do. But, in at least some cases it can work. Just remember, your views are valid too.

Sounds like me and ManlyGirl some 30 years later. Metaphysical differences are merely incidental distractions to a solid personal relationship, they really don't mean dick.

[Erxomai]

I think it works, like in Girly's case, when the other partner is not "sold out to Jesus." In other words, if one of the parties is a Fundie, you're screwed. They have been commanded to not be "unequally yoked" with a non-believer. Even if they ignore their indoctrination, they'll feel guilty about it and things are going to have a pretty tough time being good for very long. Not to mention the hell they'll catch from their parents, friends and pastors.

But if someone likes the thought of believing in God without having to put too much effort into it, then they're probably going to be okay with an atheist. The less they read the Bible, the less they pray, the less they go to church...all these things will work in your favor, as it has with the GirlyFam.

[GirlyMan]

(20-11-2012 11:26 PM)Erxomai Wrote:  I think it works, like in Girly's case, when the other partner is not "sold out to Jesus." In other words, if one of the parties is a Fundie, you're screwed. They have been commanded to not be "unequally yoked" with a non-believer. Even if they ignore their indoctrination, they'll feel guilty about it and things are going to have a pretty tough time being good for very long. Not to mention the hell they'll catch from their parents, friends and pastors.

But if someone likes the thought of believing in God without having to put too much effort into it, then they're probably going to be okay with an atheist. The less they read the Bible, the less they pray, the less they go to church...all these things will work in your favor, as it has with the GirlyFam.

Think that's right, Hellbound. That pretty much captures GirlyFam over the last 30 years. ... But now I feel like I need to find me a Fundie to fuck the God out of. ... I can only hope she's attractive.

[Erxomai]

(20-11-2012 11:43 PM)GirlyMan Wrote:  

(20-11-2012 11:26 PM)Erxomai Wrote:  I think it works, like in Girly's case, when the other partner is not "sold out to Jesus." In other words, if one of the parties is a Fundie, you're screwed. They have been commanded to not be "unequally yoked" with a non-believer. Even if they ignore their indoctrination, they'll feel guilty about it and things are going to have a pretty tough time being good for very long. Not to mention the hell they'll catch from their parents, friends and pastors.

But if someone likes the thought of believing in God without having to put too much effort into it, then they're probably going to be okay with an atheist. The less they read the Bible, the less they pray, the less they go to church...all these things will work in your favor, as it has with the GirlyFam.

Think that's right, Hellbound. That pretty much captures GirlyFam over the last 30 years. ... But now I feel like I need to find me a Fundie to fuck the God out of. ... I can only hope she's attractive.

They are pretty good.
The downside is, when you've fucked the God out of her, she gets all mopey and guilty feeling and wants to start going back to church and wants to make a pact with you to not fuck until we get married. Or at least wait until next week when she gets horny again and it's okay to fuck her brains out. It's best not to let her cum to keep the cycle from starting all over again.

[GirlyMan]

(21-11-2012 12:40 AM)Erxomai Wrote:  

(20-11-2012 11:43 PM)GirlyMan Wrote:  Think that's right, Hellbound. That pretty much captures GirlyFam over the last 30 years. ... But now I feel like I need to find me a Fundie to fuck the God out of. ... I can only hope she's attractive.

They are pretty good.
The downside is, when you've fucked the God out of her, she gets all mopey and guilty feeling and wants to start going back to church and wants to make a pact with you to not fuck until we get married. Or at least wait until next week when she gets horny again and it's okay to fuck her brains out. It's best not to let her cum to keep the cycle from starting all over again.

Fuck 'em then, not worth the cumshot.

[TrainWreck]

(20-11-2012 11:13 PM)GirlyMan Wrote:  

(08-11-2012 04:45 PM)TrainWreck Wrote:  It is silly to believe it would "work."

The reason it does "work" for some is because they are stupid people, and do not understand that they are bouncing around in their larger than normal margin of human error.

You really think I'm silly and stupid, SidewalkCynic? I seriously doubt that you do. And if you really do ... there's always the dohyō.

Does she like Top 40, or Metal?
Chances are your spouse doesn't believe in God, and is playing your stupid ass, because you are a lame-ass whimp, and her game is the only way to keep you confident. It's not that difficult to figure out - all the old worn-out whores play it on me. Your wife, is she blond, brunette, or ravin?

If that is not true, then prove it. Please, advise us of your witness depositions...and so on, and so forth. You are going to have a difficult time convincing me that you can provide the adequate information necessary to make a critical judgement, otherwise. Does she like to have sex after church?

You are both fucked up!... Yeah, you're doing alright, but you could probably be doing better if you were both of the same ontological and political orders. As it is, you have found your level of tolerance - maybe, you're above trailer park trash, but you certainly are not above the tree line on Fifth Avenue. Have either of you had an extramarital affair?

And I am going to claim that this is probably a scientific fact, except for the reason that it has not been possible to carry-out the testing, because the Christians, Jews, and Ragheads, won't let us; and ding bat atheists, like you, don't want to be subject to the scrutiny, because if you were as elite as you believe yourselve to be, you certainly would not be spending this much time on the Internet and not recognize that I am ultimately intellectually superior. Now, do you ever talk to her about my ideas on rewriting the Constitution and Dewey Decimal System?

You have reviewed my knowledge classification and constitutional systems, and you are going to acqueisce that I am just an average atheist, and no where near deserving better respect???And, you think you deserve better respect than me, because you are above the idiot threshold???Who is going to fix this fucked-up world, you, or me? Why, can't you figure out some" intellectual plan" of attacking stupidity?

You want to be the first man to receive the Secular Library Bitch Slap Award?
I can't stand you embarassing white atheist men shit heads - fucking embarrassing fuck wads. Don't get to thinking that you are the only candidate, either - just the latest.

You know, I am sure I have met women like your wife - what is her maiden name?