(08-11-2012 04:45 PM)TrainWreck Wrote: It is silly to believe it would "work."
The reason it does "work" for some is because they are stupid people, and do not understand that they are bouncing around in their larger than normal margin of human error.
You really think I'm silly and stupid, SidewalkCynic? I seriously doubt that you do. And if you really do ... there's always the dohyō.
(06-10-2012 01:33 PM)RMTomb Wrote: Hey,
I'm new to the forum, but here's my two cents worth. My current, and only, wife and I dated for two years. She was a Catholic from a militantly Catholic family and I am an atheist who has a pretty good grasp of the bible from Jesus camp and my own reading. We were married 21 years ago and are still going strong. Unfortunately, I have a nasty habit of asking questions like: why do you do X? Where X could be: go to confession, pray, bother with church, ect. She remained religious for many years while we were married and it never caused a problem. Admittedly, I didn't have a problem when she wanted both the children baptized. What's the big deal with a little water on a kid who's to young to remember? Although I did shamelessly require that she buy me a hunting rifle as payment for my involvement. Nevertheless, I held firm about First communion and other religious ceremonies. She eventually walked away from her faith, but not because of me. I was just a reminder that it was possible to live without the church. The church itself did all the heavy lifting by alienating women, insisting on constant donations, running magdaline houses and finally the pedophilia scandals. She could be a Christian today and it wouldn't be a problem for me. Whereas, I understand that everyone's situation is different. I would advise not doing anything rash. One of the great thing about not having to follow dogma is the flexibility of action. Take your time, maybe thing will change, maybe it won't matter if they do. But, in at least some cases it can work. Just remember, your views are valid too.
Sounds like me and ManlyGirl some 30 years later. Metaphysical differences are merely incidental distractions to a solid personal relationship, they really don't mean dick.