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29-06-2013, 08:56 PM
RE: I'm so scared!
(29-06-2013 07:26 PM)TheGulegon Wrote:  The part that troubles me the most is she's threatened her father with calling child services before.

You will have a long car ride to discuss these things...bring up that you know, ask her to explain what happened, and then tell her that if pulls that shit with you, she will be out on the street.

a big part of this is listening to her, give her some choices when you can, no one wants to be dictated to, we all need to feel a sense of love and accomplishment.

lots of structure mixed with lots of love.


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29-06-2013, 08:57 PM
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She might actually be looking forward to coming with you to escape the drama.


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29-06-2013, 08:58 PM
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Thank you Bows, Dom, Scully, and everybody else! I've got to get to sleep.
...early day tomorrow Confused
fucking hell *deep breath*

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29-06-2013, 10:12 PM
RE: I'm so scared!
The concept of "doubt means don't" would mean that people would have died out a long time ago. I don't know of many parents that never have a doubt regarding becoming a parent.

Having no doubt would mean you think you have all the answers, rest assured that you don't and nobody else does either.

I still say, sit down and talk to her and see where she stands and if she grasps the seriousness of this arrangement.

I took in many a throwaway kid over the years...you can be the authority without being the dictator. I didn't have an issue with not being respected because I didn't make it optional.

If you weren't scared to jump into a 'parenting' role with a teen-aged girl, I would be certain you were hopelessly naive at best.

I still think this shows what a great person you are for even considering this...cause it's a big job.

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30-06-2013, 04:35 AM
RE: I'm so scared!
(28-06-2013 07:03 PM)TheGulegon Wrote:  But in all honesty it's the responsibility of my niece that's the worst part. I'm not a role model for anyone under drinking age.

You don't need to be. Very few people are.
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30-06-2013, 02:47 PM (This post was last modified: 30-06-2013 02:53 PM by GirlyMan.)
RE: I'm so scared!
(28-06-2013 06:38 PM)TheGulegon Wrote:  No one else in the family seems to give a shit. I'm not kidding, though! I guess I am weak; I'm so fucking scared Weeping

I can't imagine how lonely and abandoned that poor girl must feel. You're doing a good thing GillyWag. Take the advice you've gotten from the Archer, Dom, Doc Scully, Angie and others here. I went through a similar situation a decade ago now but my circumstances were different than yours. Neighborhood Nigerian kid got kicked out of his home at 16 yo when his mother discovered gay porn on his computer. (Think it's more of a cultural taboo than religious for them, but either way they're quite visceral and vindictive in their response.) Kid was my kids' best friend. What else Ima gonna do? I got the extra bedroom and a stable family environment. Ain't gonna let the kid live on the street. His mom was pissed at me but fuck her, I was more pissed at her. Dude lived with us for a few years and went on to graduate Uni, become a Baltimore Ravens cheerleader and is currently going to medical school. I am very proud of how fabulous the fag turned out and consider him a son. You're doing the right thing GillyWag.

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His mother did eventually come around to accepting his fabulousness. What else she gonna do? Tongue

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30-06-2013, 03:08 PM
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TheGulegon

"I don't even know how to say this." , etc.

I live with and take care of my mentally ill brother. And I feel that physical hurt every day! It's one of the reasons I am here (on the Thinking Atheist) At least I have someone to talk to. I don't know you, don't know your situation. But I am almost totally alone! And, yes, it physically hurts!
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30-06-2013, 03:15 PM
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I'm scared too! My youngest brother was murdered. My favorite uncle died in a fire. Both parents are dead. I am a grown man (50) and cry every time I see happy couples in a movie. Because I don't get to have that. So, I can't help you. But want you to know that others are alone.
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30-06-2013, 04:12 PM
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(((Ameron1963)))

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30-06-2013, 06:50 PM
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(30-06-2013 03:08 PM)Ameron1963 Wrote:  TheGulegon

"I don't even know how to say this." , etc.

I live with and take care of my mentally ill brother. And I feel that physical hurt every day! It's one of the reasons I am here (on the Thinking Atheist) At least I have someone to talk to. I don't know you, don't know your situation. But I am almost totally alone! And, yes, it physically hurts!

Giirly's got hugs, brother, bigass Girly hugs. Hug

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