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23-05-2013, 07:44 AM
I want to go to Skepticon
I'm sure my wife would rather I didn't. I have not brought up the subject.

I'm sure it would upset her. She's the most religious person I know. There's no way I could go and not tell her.

So should I ask her permission? Or just tell her I'm going and that's it? Should I ask her to go with me (I don't think she would)? Or just forget the whole thing?

The more I think about it the more I want to go. For 50 years we've gone to church together, weddings, baptisms, funerals. Surrounded by people with a common belief, while I just keep my mouth shut and smile. It would be great to be surrounded by people who think as I do (more or less).

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23-05-2013, 08:01 AM
RE: I want to go to Skepticon
You should acknowledge the well being of the people you care for, and those people should acknowledge your well being as well. Go with what you think is reasonable, and maximizes the most happiness for everyone (you, and the people you care for) that are involved.
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23-05-2013, 08:47 AM
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You should put on your big boy pants and lay down the law, tell her how it's gonna be and what's going down, and that she should make you a sandwich.

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23-05-2013, 01:41 PM
RE: I want to go to Skepticon
Personally, I would approach it in this manner:

"Hey, babe. Listen, there's a convention that I really want to go to; it's geared toward skeptical thinking and such. I've started saving up money to go and I was hoping that maybe you'd like to go with me? I would really enjoy your company and the event itself means a lot to me. It's atheistic and stuff, so I don't know how you'd feel about all that. I don't want to make you uncomfortable, so you obviously don't have to go. But it's something I'm looking forward to and I'd just be really happy if you decided to share it with me."


This "lays down the law", as Muffs said, by suggesting almost as an axiom that you'll be going. As it does so, it gears the option of whether or not to go toward her. So, you're asking permission without actually asking permission.

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23-05-2013, 02:16 PM
RE: I want to go to Skepticon
At least its a skeptics meeting, rather than an atheist one right? Smile

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24-05-2013, 08:15 AM
RE: I want to go to Skepticon
(23-05-2013 01:41 PM)Misanthropik Wrote:  Personally, I would approach it in this manner:

"Hey, babe. Listen, there's a convention that I really want to go to; it's geared toward skeptical thinking and such. I've started saving up money to go and I was hoping that maybe you'd like to go with me? I would really enjoy your company and the event itself means a lot to me. It's atheistic and stuff, so I don't know how you'd feel about all that. I don't want to make you uncomfortable, so you obviously don't have to go. But it's something I'm looking forward to and I'd just be really happy if you decided to share it with me."


This "lays down the law", as Muffs said, by suggesting almost as an axiom that you'll be going. As it does so, it gears the option of whether or not to go toward her. So, you're asking permission without actually asking permission.

(Adjust as needed to fit circumstances)
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I've gone to church for many years with you and just this once I would really appreciate you doing this for me.


As a side note be careful what you wish for, it might be more than she can handle if she attends and might blow up into a huge problem you may or may not be prepared for.


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