Irritating friends that act like parents
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23-08-2014, 02:52 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
To clarify my "Like"...
(23-08-2014 12:41 PM)Sam Wrote: If I were you, I wouldn't hide your friendship with Jill...^^This ^^ I completely agree with. (23-08-2014 12:41 PM)Sam Wrote: It never really works when friends start a relationship... If it ends badly you can never really go back to being just friends.But ^^this^^ mmm ... no. I've had friends who've become lovers and when it didn't work out, we became friends again. Not "friends" right away, things took some time but not decades, either. The important thing is always right now and where and how one fits into it. A new type of thinking is essential if mankind is to survive and move to higher levels. ~ Albert Einstein |
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23-08-2014, 03:17 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
Jack sucks. Friends don't give ultimatums to friends. What does he think you are, incapable of choosing who you want to talk to?
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23-08-2014, 04:31 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
(15-08-2014 06:01 PM)Ferdinand Wrote: I have found myself in a very annoying situation with two friends that I don't really know how to handle. I've acknowledge that I'm basically, slowly fucking myself over in a giant web of white lies I've created to keep one of these two people from feeling hurt and betrayed. Personally, I wouldn't want a friend who cheated on my other good friend. But that's me. Be true to yourself.
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23-08-2014, 04:48 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
Friends are overrated.
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23-08-2014, 04:58 PM
(This post was last modified: 23-08-2014 05:04 PM by Anjele.)
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
The ability to forgive is great and so is loyalty. It becomes a problem when these "friends" think they can treat you badly because you are forgiving and loyal.
Friendships can change over time. Perhaps it's time to think about the importance of these friends. You can keep good memories with you always but don't have to stay so close to them that they are able to hurt you. It kind of sounds like nostalgia is holding you to these people. Hopefully you will meet new people at college and can lessen the amount of time and effort you put into the old friends that haven't done their part to keep you in their lives. You deserve better - but you have to be willing to set some boundaries. See here they are the bruises some were self-inflicted and some showed up along the way. - JF |
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23-08-2014, 05:02 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
(23-08-2014 04:48 PM)GirlyMan Wrote: Friends are overrated. Lol you might be right. The term friend has gotten watered down with the advent of face book etc.. I've learned the very hard way that e-friendships are not quite the real thing. Live n learn. :-) To the original topic, real friendships are complicated sometimes, but if a friend lies to someone they are committed to in a relationship, they won't think twice of lying to me. That's how I view it. I might get rid of both Jack and Jill though, as they don't seem to be acting like true friends anyway. That's not holding a grudge, that is having standards as to how we should wish to be treated by "friends." Be true to yourself.
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23-08-2014, 05:03 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
(23-08-2014 04:58 PM)Anjele Wrote: The ability to forgive is great and so is loyalty. It becomes a problem when these "friends" think they can treat you badly because you are forgiving and loyal. This. Be true to yourself.
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23-08-2014, 06:18 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
(23-08-2014 02:52 PM)kim Wrote: To clarify my "Like"... In my experience it's never worked out. But then I do have a habit of burning every bridge. [img][/img] |
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23-08-2014, 07:44 PM
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RE: Irritating friends that act like parents
I keep thinking about this for some reason...this topic.
In junior high and high school I had two very, very close female friends. It kind of worked out well as I went to school with one though she lived in another town and I lived in the same town with the other but she went to school in a different town. That meant that school activities and geography helped to keep me from having to choose one over the other though they wouldn't have expected me to make a choice. We met at about the same time - around 13 - that's 44 years ago. One I still consider my best friend though we don't see each other but about every five years. Our friendship is still so easy. The other became a bit hard to deal with back in our twenties. I kept in touch regardless - kind of the same nostalgia thing. There was never any bad stuff, then we just grew apart - far, far apart. I hadn't talked to her a long time but she contacted me about 4 years ago. It was good to hear her voice and hear about her life and her family. But we are still really far apart in a lot of ways. I hold no ill-will and will always remember the good stuff. But that bond is over and has been over for a long time. She is part of my past. The other friend is part of my now and always has been. By the time you are an old broad like me - you will be able to look back and see how the same kinds of things happened in your life. The mistake would be to keep the people in your life that make you stress. See here they are the bruises some were self-inflicted and some showed up along the way. - JF |
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