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26-10-2015, 04:33 PM
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(26-10-2015 03:47 PM)Escape Artist Wrote:  Well, my mom knows about Rev now. Apparently my ex-husband called her up and told her about the situation (he has known about Rev for a while now) just like he "tattled" to my mom when I deconverted - when I told him about my atheism in private and expected him to respect my privacy. Dodgy

Anyway, she is not happy. Said it is dangerous to bring a stranger into my home that I've only "talked to on Facebook" and don't know anything about, said my dad would be upset with me if he were here, warned me not to bring Rev to meet her or my brother (especially my brother) for reasons she can't say. If that was some kind of threat or like my brother might do something (which, he is a paranoid gun nut, so maybe he would, who fucking knows - they are all nuts) if Rev did meet them.

I just... I told her I was not surprised she was upset about it. Knew that would be her reaction which is why I kept my mouth shut about it. I didn't even bother trying to defend Rev to her. There is no point. She said that "this sounds like [insert my ex's name here] all over again".

On the one hand I am aloof about it. The first e-mail she sent to me just said that if I ever feel worried about my new guy to let her know and she'd try to help. Sounded all reasonable and shit, so I wrote back and said they could meet him Wednesday and we could plan a get-together then, so the next e-mail I get is the "I'm going to use your dead father to try and make you feel guilty" e-mail.

Ready to go home to Rev now. Thanks, mom. I can always count on you to be disappointed in me. Once the kids are grown and on their own, Rev and I can maybe move far away and I will cut off with my mom completely. It is just the end of the line with this stuff.
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26-10-2015, 04:42 PM
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(26-10-2015 03:47 PM)Escape Artist Wrote:  Well, my mom knows about Rev now. Apparently my ex-husband called her up and told her about the situation (he has known about Rev for a while now) just like he "tattled" to my mom when I deconverted - when I told him about my atheism in private and expected him to respect my privacy. Dodgy

Anyway, she is not happy. Said it is dangerous to bring a stranger into my home that I've only "talked to on Facebook" and don't know anything about, said my dad would be upset with me if he were here, warned me not to bring Rev to meet her or my brother (especially my brother) for reasons she can't say. If that was some kind of threat or like my brother might do something (which, he is a paranoid gun nut, so maybe he would, who fucking knows - they are all nuts) if Rev did meet them.

I just... I told her I was not surprised she was upset about it. Knew that would be her reaction which is why I kept my mouth shut about it. I didn't even bother trying to defend Rev to her. There is no point. She said that "this sounds like [insert my ex's name here] all over again".

On the one hand I am aloof about it. The first e-mail she sent to me just said that if I ever feel worried about my new guy to let her know and she'd try to help. Sounded all reasonable and shit, so I wrote back and said they could meet him Wednesday and we could plan a get-together then, so the next e-mail I get is the "I'm going to use your dead father to try and make you feel guilty" e-mail.

Ready to go home to Rev now. Thanks, mom. I can always count on you to be disappointed in me. Once the kids are grown and on their own, Rev and I can maybe move far away and I will cut off with my mom completely. It is just the end of the line with this stuff.

Is her name Brenda...I swear we have the same mother. Dodgy

Glad the weather didn't delay things and hope Revs is digging his new camo recliner. Tongue

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26-10-2015, 04:48 PM
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Can't wait to hear from Revs too. How are you adjusting to TX so far?

Oh, and now that these two are sharing an IP, we'll need to make sure Moms doesn't cock pimple one of them Laugh out load Tongue:

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26-10-2015, 04:52 PM
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(26-10-2015 04:48 PM)Smercury44 Wrote:  Can't wait to hear from Revs too. How are you adjusting to TX so far?

Oh, and now that these two are sharing an IP, we'll need to make sure Moms doesn't cock pimple one of them Laugh out load Tongue:

It seems he is chained to the kitchen. (where he belong?)
So we'll have to wait for wifi that reaches him.
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26-10-2015, 04:54 PM
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EA don't worry about your mom, she'll come around or she'll just be a bitch and miss out on knowing a fantastic guy. Smile

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26-10-2015, 04:59 PM
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(26-10-2015 04:54 PM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:  EA don't worry about your mom, she'll come around or she'll just be a bitch and miss out on knowing a fantastic guy. Smile

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26-10-2015, 06:27 PM
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TTA: A Second Family, For When Your Own Family Just Sucks

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26-10-2015, 06:29 PM
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(26-10-2015 03:47 PM)Escape Artist Wrote:  Well, my mom knows about Rev now. Apparently my ex-husband called her up and told her about the situation (he has known about Rev for a while now) just like he "tattled" to my mom when I deconverted - when I told him about my atheism in private and expected him to respect my privacy. Dodgy

Anyway, she is not happy. Said it is dangerous to bring a stranger into my home that I've only "talked to on Facebook" and don't know anything about, said my dad would be upset with me if he were here, warned me not to bring Rev to meet her or my brother (especially my brother) for reasons she can't say. If that was some kind of threat or like my brother might do something (which, he is a paranoid gun nut, so maybe he would, who fucking knows - they are all nuts) if Rev did meet them.

I just... I told her I was not surprised she was upset about it. Knew that would be her reaction which is why I kept my mouth shut about it. I didn't even bother trying to defend Rev to her. There is no point. She said that "this sounds like [insert my ex's name here] all over again".

On the one hand I am aloof about it. The first e-mail she sent to me just said that if I ever feel worried about my new guy to let her know and she'd try to help. Sounded all reasonable and shit, so I wrote back and said they could meet him Wednesday and we could plan a get-together then, so the next e-mail I get is the "I'm going to use your dead father to try and make you feel guilty" e-mail.

Ready to go home to Rev now. Thanks, mom. I can always count on you to be disappointed in me. Once the kids are grown and on their own, Rev and I can maybe move far away and I will cut off with my mom completely. It is just the end of the line with this stuff.

Obviously your Ex can't be trusted with any information. I'd keep him on a strict "need to know basis" going forward.

As for your mom, sorry she rained on your parade. But, in general, she's not completely wrong. Having someone you have mostly a virtual relationship with move half way across the country to be your live-in boyfriend is something that is going to raise some eyebrows with people other than your mom. I don't know much about your relationship with her, but I can understand her perspective. Her delivery clearly leaves much to be desired, but I suspect there is so much history between you two that there is no way she can say it that you won't react to anyway.

There is an old saying that goes "the best revenge is living well". I'd add to that and say it's also being happy. So, I hope you and Rev are happy forever and prove all the naysayers wrong.

You guys are certainly brave, though. I'm not sure I'd be able to do what you two are doing. Good for you for following through.

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26-10-2015, 06:37 PM
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Best of luck to you two, so happy you found each other!

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26-10-2015, 06:49 PM
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(26-10-2015 04:52 PM)Nishi Karano Kaze Wrote:  
(26-10-2015 04:48 PM)Smercury44 Wrote:  Can't wait to hear from Revs too. How are you adjusting to TX so far?
It seems he is chained to the kitchen. (where he belong?)

I would like to see proof of life that Rev is not an ingredient in the kitchen.

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