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25-05-2017, 05:26 PM
Losing my dog
I lost my mum in december. Yesterday I lost my dog to cancer. It was my first dog. Actually, it was my mums old dog. When it became obvious that she could not care for it anymore, the dog moved in with me and my family. I knew the dog and I liked the dog, and I had promised her that I would take care of Happy if and when she couldn't. So when the dementia came creeping, a family of three became a family of four.

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The Duchess of Snout. A Softcoated Wheaten Terrier called Happy

I never thought of myself as a dogperson. But caring for the dog for almost two years has created patterns in my life, that I now can't live without. I am completely devastated. It's all darkness, not a ray of light anywhere. I am reduced to a crying and sobbing wreck of man. I feel pain and sorrow like I never felt before.

And I shamefully have to admit that losing my dog was worse than losing my mum. By far.

The one, true, and real Harvey

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25-05-2017, 05:30 PM
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Oh, I am so very sorry Sad Losing a beloved pet is so very hard. It sounds like you gave him a wonderful two years.

Many hugs to you!

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25-05-2017, 05:35 PM
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(25-05-2017 05:26 PM)Harvey Wrote:  And I shamefully have to admit that losing my dog was worse than losing my mum. By far.

I think maybe it's that you've now lost a connection to her too? Don't beat yourself up over it, our emotions are all over the place when we lose a beloved friend.

You gave him a good life. It's what any dog would like. A loving home. I link you to an oatmeal comic, which is very doggy and has a kinda Sadcryface ending.

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25-05-2017, 05:42 PM
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I am very sorry. I lost two last year and I feel their absence every day. Sad

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25-05-2017, 06:03 PM
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(25-05-2017 05:26 PM)Harvey Wrote:  I lost my mum in december. Yesterday I lost my dog to cancer. It was my first dog. Actually, it was my mums old dog. When it became obvious that she could not care for it anymore, the dog moved in with me and my family. I knew the dog and I liked the dog, and I had promised her that I would take care of Happy if and when she couldn't. So when the dementia came creeping, a family of three became a family of four.

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The Duchess of Snout. A Softcoated Wheaten Terrier called Happy

I never thought of myself as a dogperson. But caring for the dog for almost two years has created patterns in my life, that I now can't live without. I am completely devastated. It's all darkness, not a ray of light anywhere. I am reduced to a crying and sobbing wreck of man. I feel pain and sorrow like I never felt before.

And I shamefully have to admit that losing my dog was worse than losing my mum. By far.

Losing Happy just finalized the loss of your mom. It's interconnected.

Happy's departure was just the catalyst for you to let your grief flow. Grief will always flow eventually. Let it happen, flow with it. It is good for you, even if it makes you think you are going nuts.

It's a chemical process you can't control except for short periods of time. It will come in waves until your brain stops processing the empty slots.

It's best to just let it happen, so it can resolve.

And - there is no shame in finding a special bond with an animal that is not human. Quite the opposite. It's something to be proud of.

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25-05-2017, 06:12 PM
Losing my dog
I don't know what it is about dogs but they can get in your heart like nothing else can.

I'm sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel.
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25-05-2017, 06:12 PM
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Sorry to see this. It's always sad to lose the ones we care for. I agree, you are probably looking at the dog as the last real living link to your mother. Hug
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25-05-2017, 06:28 PM
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Hug I wish I had the words to make this easier for you.

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25-05-2017, 06:40 PM
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Harvey

I'm so sorry man

Looks like the coolest little dude

I understand it makes you so sad. You don't have to feel guilty about how you process grief or what makes you grieve. It's incredible how deeply some of us love our dogs. Some people might think it's ridiculous but your relationship with your dog can just be simply gigantic. I don't want to go overboard trying to explain it because it won't help anyway. I get it though, for whatever that's worth. Much love.
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25-05-2017, 06:44 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. *hugs* A much loved little dog that's for sure.

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