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18-02-2015, 08:12 PM
RE: My cousin died yesterday
My condolences. Sorry for your loss.

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18-02-2015, 10:08 PM
RE: My cousin died yesterday
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19-02-2015, 07:53 PM
RE: My cousin died yesterday
Thank everyone. It's still sinking in, I think. Still upsetting, but I know there's nothing I can do about it. She was a great gal, though, I was proud to be her cousin. c:

ghostexorcist Wrote:Sorry to hear that. I went through something similar with my cousin, who also died from brain (and throat) cancer when she was in her early 30s. She lapsed into a coma just before the end. Family and friends bedecked the area around her bed with hand written quotes from the bible, held prayer circles, and even invoked strange, new age "prayer stones". The amount of religious crap was revolting to me, but it was how my family dealt with the pain. Luckily none of it happened during the times I came to visit.

I understand that one, my cousin's mom had people do that laying of hands in prayer thing regularly. I just hope she didn't do that burning of incense thing like she and her church friends did to our uncle before he passed away (from cancer, fucking hell...) back when my cousin and I were in high school.

For anyone curious, they published her obit here.

She was the least judgmental Christian I have ever met, she was always the sweetest person, always there to crack jokes, listen to other people's problems, and offer encouragement. She was genuine and honestly the change that she wanted to see. I'm just really glad that she was able to do a lot before the end, she got to enjoy the time that she had. And now she's not suffering, though I wished they'd been able to deal with the cancer and keep it from coming back. But I'm glad the doctors she had did what they could.

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21-02-2015, 06:40 AM
RE: My cousin died yesterday
many people find comfort in Why You Want a Physicist At Your Funeral. i hope it brings you some comfort.

You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her eyes, that those photons created within her constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly. Amen.

-Aaron Freeman.


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21-02-2015, 09:10 AM
RE: My cousin died yesterday
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How can anyone become an atheist when we are all born with no beliefs in the first place? We are atheists because we were born this way.
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