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14-08-2015, 11:54 AM
My feels are broken
I just got a call from my best friend to let me know that his father has just died. Less than a month after my father died, I can't take this shit. I've gone from sad to numb.

I want to be sad, but I'm afraid if I start crying I'll never stop.

Excuse me, I'm making perfect sense. You're just not keeping up.

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14-08-2015, 11:55 AM
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14-08-2015, 12:01 PM
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(14-08-2015 11:54 AM)itsnotmeitsyou Wrote:  I just got a call from my best friend to let me know that his father has just died. Less than a month after my father died, I can't take this shit. I've gone from sad to numb.

I want to be sad, but I'm afraid if I start crying I'll never stop.

Crying is like taking an opiate, it releases chemicals in your brain that will calm you. Go ahead and let it rip!

It sucks when you get older and people around you start dying. Unfortunately, it only gets worse. You never get used to it, but you do learn to handle it a bit better.

If you need to cry, you will. If you suppress it, it will pop up on it's own at unexpected times. It's part of your body regulating it's chemistry.

Sorry to hear you are dealing with this, your people dying is probably the worst thing life dishes out.

Best I can tell you is to just flow with your feelings, we all handle grief differently. You are grieving your dad, and your friend's loss brought it back up to the surface. Grief comes in waves, you aren't done with it yet.

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14-08-2015, 12:03 PM
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(14-08-2015 11:54 AM)itsnotmeitsyou Wrote:  I just got a call from my best friend to let me know that his father has just died. Less than a month after my father died, I can't take this shit. I've gone from sad to numb.

I want to be sad, but I'm afraid if I start crying I'll never stop.

Hug My dad passed away awhile back. This time of year is always hardest for me because it marks the time of his passing. I completely know how you feel. I cried at my Dad's funeral, but I didn't completely break down until I was driving home from the airport days later. I was holding on to one of his possessions and I just broke down and cried all the way home. You'll cry for your dad when you are ready. Everyone deals with losing someone in their own way and in their own time.

I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it does get easier. You will never ever stop missing him and you will never forget him, but day to day things do get easier. I am so sorry for your loss. Heart

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14-08-2015, 12:04 PM
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(14-08-2015 11:54 AM)itsnotmeitsyou Wrote:  I just got a call from my best friend to let me know that his father has just died. Less than a month after my father died, I can't take this shit. I've gone from sad to numb.

I want to be sad, but I'm afraid if I start crying I'll never stop.

Cry anyway. It will stop, and once it has done so, you'll find that those tears will have washed you clean.

I'm so sorry for your losses. Hang in there, sweetie.
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14-08-2015, 12:07 PM
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(14-08-2015 12:03 PM)jennybee Wrote:  
(14-08-2015 11:54 AM)itsnotmeitsyou Wrote:  I just got a call from my best friend to let me know that his father has just died. Less than a month after my father died, I can't take this shit. I've gone from sad to numb.

I want to be sad, but I'm afraid if I start crying I'll never stop.

Hug My dad passed away awhile back. This time of year is always hardest for me because it marks the time of his passing. I completely know how you feel. I cried at my Dad's funeral, but I didn't completely break down until I was driving home from the airport days later. I was holding on to one of his possessions and I just broke down and cried all the way home. You'll cry for your dad when you are ready. Everyone deals with losing someone in their own way and in their own time.

I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it does get easier. You will never ever stop missing him and you will never forget him, but day to day things do get easier. I am so sorry for your loss. Heart

I've cried for my dad plenty. I've had several bouts of uncontrolled sobbing over the last month. I didn't think I could be an sadder than I already was. I was wrong.

Excuse me, I'm making perfect sense. You're just not keeping up.

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14-08-2015, 12:11 PM
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(14-08-2015 12:07 PM)itsnotmeitsyou Wrote:  
(14-08-2015 12:03 PM)jennybee Wrote:  Hug My dad passed away awhile back. This time of year is always hardest for me because it marks the time of his passing. I completely know how you feel. I cried at my Dad's funeral, but I didn't completely break down until I was driving home from the airport days later. I was holding on to one of his possessions and I just broke down and cried all the way home. You'll cry for your dad when you are ready. Everyone deals with losing someone in their own way and in their own time.

I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it does get easier. You will never ever stop missing him and you will never forget him, but day to day things do get easier. I am so sorry for your loss. Heart

I've cried for my dad plenty. I've had several bouts of uncontrolled sobbing over the last month. I didn't think I could be an sadder than I already was. I was wrong.

That's all a normal part of the grieving process. It is so painful, I know.

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14-08-2015, 12:12 PM
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good luck mate. Be sad and cry if you must. it'll do you a world of good.

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14-08-2015, 12:13 PM
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We're here any time you need us. Hug

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14-08-2015, 12:15 PM
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It is really hard to lose someone you love--but at the same time, I was so lucky to have a dad like mine for the time I did have him. That is what I try and hold on to.

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