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15-07-2013, 01:26 PM
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You're right! Fuck em! None of my friends have gone through that -- that I know of. But I certainly wouldn't stop being their friend because of it (unless they came down hard and were completely unaccepting of it -- then I would have issues).

Big huge hugs to you and yours.


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15-07-2013, 01:33 PM
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Sounds like a gem of a family you have there. Warms my heart!
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15-07-2013, 01:37 PM
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I hope you are journaling this experience...it could be of great help to others. At the very least a wonderful testament to your love to hand down to your child.

You are a good mom.

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15-07-2013, 01:41 PM
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I had a friend, male when we met and for years to come, then turn around and tell me he was really female and he went through the transformation.

I had no issues understanding and being supportive, what I had issues with is thinking and speaking she instead of he, and calling her by her new name.

For some time I had to watch my tongue carefully around her so old habits didn't crop up and have me use the wrong gender or name. Especially since such slips of the tongue were hurtful to her.

Maybe it's just me, but getting the name and terminology correct was the hardest part. A creature of habit, the wrong thing kept wanting to slip out for some time (not anymore, it's natural now).

And yes, it is a bit like someone died and was replaced - but not really - an odd feeling.

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15-07-2013, 01:52 PM
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(15-07-2013 12:58 PM)dancefortwo Wrote:  The suicide rate among transgender people is around 40% so the choice for a mom is bringing flowers to the grave site of a son or giving flowers to a living daughter for her birthday. I choose the birthdays.

This literally sent shivers up my spine. It's so true, but it's so real and frightening. You're an amazing mother and parent, and your story is really inspirational. If only other parents of gay and transgendered children were as open to acceptance and understanding as you and your husband. Surely it's hard, but you'd think any parent that loved their child would allow themselves to adjust to anything, instead of kicking their child to the curb. Unfortunately, we don't have that many people with big hearts like you do. This was literally one of the most beautiful, awesome stories I've heard.

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15-07-2013, 02:34 PM
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(15-07-2013 01:37 PM)Anjele Wrote:  I hope you are journaling this experience...it could be of great help to others. At the very least a wonderful testament to your love to hand down to your child.

You are a good mom.

Thank you for the compliment but what other choice did I have? I could have killed my son with rejection or accepted her with life. As for a journal I haven't really recorded anything. It's only been recently that I've been able to tell several people about our daughter. It is very fresh in my mind though and I may start writing things down. Most of my very close friends are fine with it but some of the more distant friends that are rather snide and cold. Those particular friends are the ones that, as Monty Python said " I fart in your general direction". So there!

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15-07-2013, 02:48 PM
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There are, sadly, people who don't/didn't make the choice you did.

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15-07-2013, 02:59 PM
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(15-07-2013 02:48 PM)Anjele Wrote:  There are, sadly, people who don't/didn't make the choice you did.

That is sooo true and very sad.


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15-07-2013, 05:24 PM
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15-07-2013, 05:26 PM
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Thanks Cheap, good call.

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