My uncle murdered during home burglary
Post Reply
 
Thread Rating:
  • 0 Votes - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
06-01-2012, 03:20 PM (This post was last modified: 06-01-2012 04:19 PM by ddrew.)
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
(06-01-2012 12:33 PM)The_observer Wrote:  Can I ask you something?
Is it the powerlessness that hurts you the most as well?
That incredible sadness that overwhelms you with the thought that nothing can be done or said anymore?

I think the combination of both. Powerless that I cannot control the processes going on to find and catch the murderer. The sudden news comming so abruptly. The initial news of it was surreal at first... I got the news but I didn't really accept it. Then when I found the short and brief news article on it... That's when the powerlessness, the sadness of thinking that there was nothing I could have done, that was when it became real.. that hollow gut feeling that it's already done and theres not a damn thing I can do about it. The only thing I can think of that would help me feel better is knowing that the murderer gets the justice he or she deserve.

I've started the healing process.. I've been spending the day talking with friends that knew him and so on. I will get over it eventually and life will return to whatever "normal" is for me. I've got my son and he's got me. Life goes on.

Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. -- Voltaire
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 8 users Like ddrew's post
09-01-2012, 02:54 AM
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
Let's all pray together for his soul










Seriously though,take it easy comrade what happened happened,you should focus on cheerful things and socialize to forget about this unfortunate event.

The meaning of peace is the absence of opposition to socialism.
-Karl Marx


Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 1 user Likes znk666's post
09-01-2012, 03:24 AM
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
Ddrew, I'm sorry to hear about your Uncle.

Try to focus on the good memories you had with him.

I know when I lost my mother I took some comfort in the idea that the reason I felt so much sadness and pain at her loss was because she had given me so much joy and love while she was alive. That helped me get through the darker moments.

"I am a knowledgeable man, I have knowledge. If I knew how I knew what I know, I would know half as much, because it would be clogged up with where I knew it from...that is why I cannot always cite my sources. - David Mitchell
"If we're going to be damned, let's be damned for what we really are." - Captain Picard
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 3 users Like unsapien's post
09-01-2012, 03:47 AM
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
I raise my glass. Not to his death but to the happiness he brung unto your life. May those memories continue to make you who you are and I hope you pass even more happiness to your son.

Like Unsapien has said, we feel so much sadness because they gave us so much happiness.

"Mankind must put an end to war, or war will put an end to mankind." -John F Kennedy

The way to see by Faith is to shut the eye of Reason.” -Benjamin Franklin

It has been a long time. How have you been?
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 3 users Like ShirubaDangan's post
09-01-2012, 04:27 AM
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
My condolences man. Sorry about your loss.

[Image: a6505fe8.jpg]
I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours.
-Hunter S. Thompson
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 1 user Likes Filox's post
09-01-2012, 09:56 AM
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
(06-01-2012 03:20 PM)ddrew Wrote:  I've started the healing process.. I've been spending the day talking with friends that knew him and so on. I will get over it eventually and life will return to whatever "normal" is for me. I've got my son and he's got me. Life goes on.

Give yourself time; you will need a lot of time to just get your head together. Being with your son a few extra moments each day will help in so many ways. Appreciating that relationship will help you gain greater understanding for how Uncle Jim cared for you.... you can be proud for him, and for yourself. You and Uncle Jim probably shared some difficult moments, and even what you might think of as negative situations, were necessary to strengthen your bond. Uncle Jim helped you to be a man, and now the man is a father; that itself is a tribute to your relationship with him.

Heart Always be generous with time; whether you are giving it to a loved one or yourself.

A new type of thinking is essential if mankind is to survive and move to higher levels. ~ Albert Einstein
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[+] 3 users Like kim's post
09-01-2012, 10:30 PM
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
No new news.. The Philippine justice system is slow apparently... There were some life insurance policies. I was a beneficiary of one of them.. ... great.. money is not going to replace him tho. I wonder if that might have been a motive for his wife.. the investigation is ongoing...

Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. -- Voltaire
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
10-01-2012, 04:41 AM
RE: My uncle murdered during home burglary
(09-01-2012 10:30 PM)ddrew Wrote:  No new news.. The Philippine justice system is slow apparently... There were some life insurance policies. I was a beneficiary of one of them.. ... great.. money is not going to replace him tho. I wonder if that might have been a motive for his wife.. the investigation is ongoing...

Glad to hear from you, man. I've been wondering how you're doing. Like Kim and others have said, be good to yourself. Spend that time with your son. And do something that may seem silly: eat some nutritious meals, not fast food. Drink lots of water. Get some sleep. Get some exercise. Grieving alone will often cause folks to forgo these simple care-taking habits that your body really does need to have to function through your pain. That's what it means to "take care of yourself" and to "hang in there." So, my friend, take care of yourself, and hang in there.

It was just a fucking apple man, we're sorry okay? Please stop the madness Laugh out load
~Izel
Find all posts by this user
Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Post Reply
Forum Jump: