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24-04-2014, 03:25 PM
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Thanks guys !

Yeah we had the respite care for a few months already, things just got to bad and I got really stressed and burned out trying to be Mr Doitall. I cant remember the last time I've slept through the night.

Even with the 5 nights at respite care, it took me a good 3 days to start to decompress, and then I felt totally drained.

I know this is best for all involved, but it sure does suck.

After 27 years of marriage it will take some getting used to, having her gone, even if she was driving me crazy. Undecided

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24-04-2014, 03:28 PM
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(24-04-2014 03:19 PM)Hobbitgirl Wrote:  Give yourself time. You did what you needed to do.

Enjoy the fresh air. Smile

Yeah, I know, but it doesnt make it any easier.

Tho I'll try to get in some time on the bike this weekend to clear the cobwebs. Shy

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24-04-2014, 03:33 PM
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(24-04-2014 03:28 PM)War Horse Wrote:  
(24-04-2014 03:19 PM)Hobbitgirl Wrote:  Give yourself time. You did what you needed to do.

Enjoy the fresh air. Smile

Yeah, I know, but it doesnt make it any easier.

Tho I'll try to get in some time on the bike this weekend to clear the cobwebs. Shy

I understand that. Just remind yourself when you're feeling down that you did the right thing. Shes safer now.

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24-04-2014, 03:34 PM
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We are here for you when you need us.

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24-04-2014, 03:35 PM
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Good luck mate.

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25-04-2014, 05:25 AM
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Bad night..... this is harder than I thought it would be. Undecided

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25-04-2014, 05:44 AM
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Hug

I have found at stressful times in my life, when I drink, I can't sleep. I got a small dose (1/2 tablet) of Ambien....works great for me. Good sleep helps us deal with stress better.


find a project. get your mind working on something......plan a special ride this weekend , maybe go farther than you normally do or someplace you haven't been before.


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25-04-2014, 05:56 AM
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It is going to take some adjustnig. I suspect you both miss her and feel guity for putting her in the care facility. Things will get better. Go spend some time with her and let her know you still love her. Make seeing her everyday part of your routine.
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25-04-2014, 06:00 AM
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(25-04-2014 05:44 AM)Bows and Arrows Wrote:  Hug

I have found at stressful times in my life, when I drink, I can't sleep. I got a small dose (1/2 tablet) of Ambien....works great for me. Good sleep helps us deal with stress better.


find a project. get your mind working on something......plan a special ride this weekend , maybe go farther than you normally do or someplace you haven't been before.

I'm sure the 6 beers in 2 hours didnt help, nor did the 2 sleeping pills.

My mind just wouldnt shut down, and I kept seeing all those faces of the people there. Such hopelessness, fear and depression just left a huge impact on me.

I'm affraid that this may take some time for me to get under control. I've just never had to deal with anything like this before and the feeling of guilt is overwhelming.

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25-04-2014, 06:04 AM
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(25-04-2014 05:56 AM)wazzel Wrote:  It is going to take some adjustnig. I suspect you both miss her and feel guity for putting her in the care facility. Things will get better. Go spend some time with her and let her know you still love her. Make seeing her everyday part of your routine.

Well, the staff told me to wait a few days before I come to see her again.

The problem is that she's been getting quite hateful towards me in the last few months, so I'm not even sure she wants to see me right now. Confused

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