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09-09-2013, 10:06 AM
RE: Need an accountability buddy...
(06-09-2013 02:36 PM)LadyJane Wrote:  I'd suggest using someone in real life that can access you to hound you into proper discipline. Big Grin My sister and I are accountability buddies, we started training 8 or so months ago and we've seen some awesome results, but it has been a daily struggle and accomplishment. I was much like you, too... just felt I needed that little bit more, I am 31 yrs/o. Some other things to do are journalling or blogging (I don't, but I know some fitness junkies who do and it really works for them), joining fitness forums, report back here, watch motivational vids (there are a lot of awesome ones on youtube, they really illustrate how far one can push one's self!), if you're on FB there are some good groups that have encouraging quotes/tips on your news feed (doyoueven and sportsmotivation and some clean eating ones are my favourites). It's as much a mental game as a physical one.

Personally I think a fit lifestyle is so much more than staying trim, it can positively influences your moods, energy, confidence, memory and wellbeing. I used to get massive migraines and foggy head and now, through exercise and diet change, I have pretty well zero headaches anymore and a clearer overall feeling. I'm not picky about food though, I'll eat almost anything... some things were, however, an acquired taste.

Good luck, let us know how it goes!

Someone irl, huh? Blush Yeah, I don't do so well with friends. I've a horrible track record - one friendship gone down the tubes after another - and just honestly feel like I don't have the energy to try anymore. But to be frank, I have, according to my husband, a strange definition of "friend" and I tend to agree.

Most people seem to categorize their friendships according to activity, i.e. this is my drinking buddy, this is my workout buddy, and so on and so forth, but even just thinking of having a different friend for all the activities and interests in my life is absolutely exhausting. I don't have that kind of social energy.

For me, the above such people would be acquaintances, not friends. If I don't have a deep emotional connection with someone, they're not really a friend. They're someone I have one small thing in common with and that is just about it. I tend to want "catch-all" friends or in other words a friend who shares a lot of my interests, that way I can get the most bang for my buck, lol. But I'm pretty sure that person exists nowhere except in my mind so I figure, why try anymore?

Sure I get lonely but that's so few and far between that I feel like taking on a friend that I would rarely even want to hang around with would be awfully shitty of me. They are better off without me, surely.

Anyway, tangent aside, when I do exercise I of course feel good. It wasn't until after I got out of school that I finally could work out and feel that good burn that everyone always talks about. Problem is, I have a lot of ways to feel good, and they tend to be sedentary activities (reading, writing, video games, etc.).

I've found that the best time for me to exercise is right after work, as soon as I get home. If I just come in, get my workout stuff on and get to it w/o giving my brain a chance to formulate an excuse, then I'm good.

(06-09-2013 03:53 PM)Luminon Wrote:  You know how to be good and consistent at exercise, without an accountability buddy? This is a good and tried advice, from someone who hates exercise, sucks at it, yet managed to keep going.

1) Get some mp3 player and earbud headphones. If you have one, good.

2) Get some trippy, pumping music. Psychedelic, progressive or goa trance works for me, so I can recommend, but whatever keeps you going. I think a regular 4/4 trance beat is the best.

3) Get something to read. You like to read, huh? So get books, best some sci-fi series, I can recommend. Using an e-reader is advised. Nook Glow is the best one - you can change the OS to an Android (makes it a super-efficient tablet) and make it read any format. If you have a reader, good.

4) Now, shit's going to get serious. You need to buy an exercising machine. Exercise without machine is likely going to be so painful that you won't do it much, or so dangerous that you'll pull your muscle or something. Running will probably fuck up your knee joints and leave your arms neglected. And arms are the most useful things to keep the house from breaking apart.
So put in some buck and buy an elliptical cross trainer or whatever the fuck it's called. It looks lame as hell, but it makes you do something both with your legs and arms and the belly is going to fix itself if you persist.
It needs to be fairly heavy-duty and it needs to have a book holder. If it doesn't have a book holder, get a type which has two smaller holding bars in front of a display, you can put a bar there and put an e-reader on it. Worked for me.

If you're embarrassed, or think that cross trainer is a device for women and old ladies, in the 8th series of the Dexter serial, Dexter, the serial murderer who primarily goes after murderers like him went to the gym store. He was checking out precisely this type of machine, a cross trainer, heavy-duty, with a book holder. It was sold by a guy who was secretly a killer and a cannibal, Dexter was there to check him out and then kill him. So this cross-trainer device can't be that lame, if even serial killers aren't ashamed of it.

5) Now the important test that will decide everything: do you have a room in your living place where nobody is going to bother you? Which you can lock, yet which you can ventilate fairly well? A cold room is good, the colder, the better. This is going to be your room of shame, pain, sweat, tears and self-punishment.

6) Finally, go listen to some groovy music, go read a fascinating book, go where nobody can see you, set your mind free and leave behind your biological body torture itself as Mother Evolution intended. Don't return until the album ends or until there's the ending chillout track, customary on goa trance albums.

This is how I managed to exercise 1 hour per day for 2 months, at the highest difficulty setting and wasn't too traumatized. The digital dial on the machine always showed about 10 km of running distance or so, when I was finished, not too bad even considering it includes the arms work too. I'd keep at it, if I didn't have to move to the college.

At high school I got D from the gym class and my gym teacher begged my mom to get me a doctor's leave, because I ruined her class score. So this means something. If it worked for me, it will work for everyone. I know it's very demanding, but desperate ends need desperate means.

1. Check.

2. Check. I've got some stuff that gets me going, from rock to pop to dubstep. Nero's "Welcome Reality" is a good album to listen to while I'm walking as is Chris Cornell's "Scream" since one track leads right into another...

3. Check. I have a Nook HD+, but either it can't or I just haven't tinkered enough with it to figure out how to get it to read shit to me. What books would you recommend? I do enjoy sci-fi.

4. Big Grin I am a woman, Lumi, so no embarrassment here. Wink I write books (not published yet) and I have a female character similar to Dexter. <---not that this is pertinent to the conversation at hand, but I'll jabber about my writing to anyone within earshot so Tongue Anyway, guess I better start scraping some bucks together...

5. Oh, gawd. This is the toughie. My bedroom does have a lock on the door but doesn't have just tons of extra room. Well, except for that little corner that doesn't really have anything in it. Hmm...

6. Heh. Yeah, when I was working out with more regularity (some time before we moved) I used to walk up and down our long, country driveway and when I'd get back to the house, my legs would be begging me to stop and I'd say, "Just one more lap, promise" and then? Evil_monster Eh, heh, heh - I'd say the same thing again. It was kind of fun in a strange, self-torturous way.

Thanks for such a thoughtful post! Heart

(06-09-2013 09:07 PM)Stark Raving Wrote:  I'll try to help out in my way if you like.

A big mistake I see often is people saying they are picky and resigning themselves to a boring, and often unhealthy diet. Just doesn't gotta be that way. You tell me what you DO like, and let's see if we can come up with some other ideas for a varied and healthy diet.

Oh, boy. Honestly I probably eat like a child. I don't care for my foods to touch, don't want to eat foods that look like they've just been vomited up (most casseroles, etc.), I rarely if ever use condiments (can't understand why everyone seems to want their food all slimy and wet! Confused )and I have a problem with textures (i.e., if it feels weird in my mouth, I won't eat it). So... yeah.

Okay. Enough with the negative. I like...

Fruits: Oranges, apples, and... holy crap can I really not think of any other fruits? Bananas? No Don't like those. Pears? Maybe, but never tried 'em. Berries of all sorts look good but never tried 'em, either.

Vegetables: Lettuce (I like romaine best! iceberg? no), I think I've eaten raw spinach before, too, at a company luncheon but I can't be sure (not good at identifying the veggies, I'm afraid, but it looked like just leaves to me...), broccoli (raw - again, hate slimy textures so cooked veggies are out), carrots are okay, celery is okay, and now I'm drawing a blank on anything else...

Meat: meat isn't so much of a problem with me as the texture doesn't bother me - hell, I've even tried moose once - so I like beef, chicken, turkey, deer (venison, methinks?), pork, you get the idea. No lambs, though!!! I guess I should list eggs here as well, since they're a protein (they are a protein, right? Blush ) I also like almonds (okay, I frickin' love almonds, especially the plain, unsalted ones), peanuts, and walnuts.

Dairy: I love milk (I drink 1% now), love cheese, love yogurt.

Breads: I actually like whole wheat stuff so that's not a problem, but I'm not a big pasta eater in general. Just don't see what the big deal is (everyone is always going on about their love affair with pasta and I don't get it). So the whole wheat / whole grain stuff I like tends to come in the form of cereals or breads or tortillas, etc.

My weaknesses: Coffee (not the decaf kind, either!), chocolate, sodas, beer, and general snacky-stuff like chips and whatnot.

My health issues: I was, earlier this year, diagnosed with an underactive thyroid and am currently taking the lowest dosage of Levothyroxine, in case that's of any importance to your suggestions.

I'm interested to see what you come up with.

(07-09-2013 12:50 AM)Regular_Joe Wrote:  I know it's early in the morning here, but when you come back to this thread, I want you to see that one of us asked you this question, "Did you exercise yesterday and what time do you plan on getting out to exercise again today?"

Today is your day to get started. So start.

Wishing you great success.

Sadcryface I have to admit I didn't exercise a bit this weekend. Alas, Lady Despair has gotten hold of my ankles and is threatening yet again to drag me into a bottomless pit of depression. Part of it is situational and part of it cyclical (I seem to go through seasons of depression from time to time). I mostly sat around and read this weekend, though I did clean house all by myself.

(07-09-2013 05:32 AM)DLJ Wrote:  Consider

Having an affair seems to be a good motivator.

My ex-wife always looked irresistible when she was screwing someone else.

Rolleyes

That's awful. Just... Hug

At any rate, an affair doesn't seem to be in the cards for yours truly. For some reason unfathomable to me, men are not lining up to boink me. Laugh out load

(07-09-2013 05:44 AM)Anjele Wrote:  Thanks to having to have a Physical Education credit to graduate I will be heading to class soon for a Walking and Fitness class. IPod is ready, headphones ready, working on getting my mind ready.

I hope I like it cause I really need to get some exercise, this is the motivation I needed to get started. Maybe after 3-4 months of this it will become a habit.

Good luck! I will keep my fingers crossed for the both of us.

(07-09-2013 09:32 AM)GirlyMan Wrote:  Why exercise when you can romancercise?





Or just prancercise if you're not in a romantic mood.




You so silly...

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09-09-2013, 10:22 AM
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(09-09-2013 10:06 AM)Escape Artist Wrote:  
(07-09-2013 09:32 AM)GirlyMan Wrote:  Why exercise when you can romancercise?





Or just prancercise if you're not in a romantic mood.




You so silly...

Yes, but he is profoundly silly. Drinking Beverage

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09-09-2013, 02:53 PM
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Since when are cooked veggies slimey??

I don't really like going outside.
It's too damn "peopley" out there....
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09-09-2013, 03:03 PM
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(09-09-2013 02:53 PM)Lightvader Wrote:  Since when are cooked veggies slimey??

Okra

(31-07-2014 04:37 PM)Luminon Wrote:  America is full of guns, but they're useless, because nobody has the courage to shoot an IRS agent in self-defense
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09-09-2013, 03:19 PM
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Lightvader,

They just always look soggy and mushy to me. And therefore are not appealing.

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09-09-2013, 03:25 PM
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I just don't have a good relationship with food, period. Sad

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09-09-2013, 03:45 PM
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(09-09-2013 03:19 PM)Escape Artist Wrote:  Lightvader,

They just always look soggy and mushy to me. And therefore are not appealing.

Those are over-cooked. Yes

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09-09-2013, 03:56 PM (This post was last modified: 09-09-2013 04:04 PM by Luminon.)
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(09-09-2013 10:06 AM)Escape Artist Wrote:  3. Check. I have a Nook HD+, but either it can't or I just haven't tinkered enough with it to figure out how to get it to read shit to me. What books would you recommend? I do enjoy sci-fi.
I recommend all of the Uplift series by David Brin. Brin is a scientist and he puts a lot of biology, astronomy, planetology and ecology into it.
Next, The Culture series by Iain M. Banks. Absolutely awesome read. A delight for a wannabe sociologist like me, looking at the interaction of a pan-galactic anarcho-socialist extremely hi-tech civilization with civilizations less developed and more barbaric, often from their point of view. Points of view, I love these. Banks can be a little disturbing sometimes, in a good, good way.

As a side note, recently I randomly grabbed by Spiderworld series by Colin Wilson. A fairly easy and pleasant enough read, easier than Brin and Banks. What makes it stand out is the author's philosophic talent. This guy is a very wise thinker, both in ethics, psychology and occult metaphysics, I give him my stamp of approval.

I chose series to keep you occupied for the exercise. The Sheherezad effect. Ending one book and starting with a completely different book might disturb your routine.
You might want to check out bookos dot org, that's one of my favorite bookstores. Grab Consider Phlebas right away Smile

(09-09-2013 10:06 AM)Escape Artist Wrote:  4. Big Grin I am a woman, Lumi, so no embarrassment here. Wink I write books (not published yet) and I have a female character similar to Dexter. <---not that this is pertinent to the conversation at hand, but I'll jabber about my writing to anyone within earshot so Tongue Anyway, guess I better start scraping some bucks together...

5. Oh, gawd. This is the toughie. My bedroom does have a lock on the door but doesn't have just tons of extra room. Well, except for that little corner that doesn't really have anything in it. Hmm...
Oh, you are a woman? Congratulations! (that's probably the right thing to say)
The bedroom sounds well enough, if the machine fits into the corner. If you're the lady of the house and have no little children, you probably don't need the lock, but I appreciated it, I like privacy. Big families and shared rooms do that to people.


Btw, I find Dexter morally pretty much all right, considering the reality of today and his nature. What he does is much better than the actual American foreign policy, if it can be called that way. If 18 years old American kids can get a gun and get sent to Iraq or Afghanistan as invaders, I find Dexter more like a slaughterhouse worker and a garbage man, doesn't kill innocents, just takes out the trash. He really protects his country in the true sense, within its borders. What's weird about the serial is, how few people understand it, just his temporary mother-in-law, with very right-wing conservative values.
So I think there is a lot of good space for you to cover in books, both the morally utilitarian point of view, and the greater social point of view. Murder is unfortunately common today and so we might at least stop being hypocritally hysterical about it, yet let the government commit it in a glorified way en masse. Yet from a greater perspective, Dexter actually does not solve the problem, that the environment creates the serial killers and taking them out doesn't change anything in the long run. What if the real killers are those who run the society and set the financial and drug policies? Who puts stress on mothers and families? Who makes drugs a profitable business? Who sends soldiers into a war for minimum wage, yet pays weapon producers full price? Poor Miami Metro cops, well-meaning people, but woefully philosophically unequipped to handle these great moral and philosophical questions, blindly following the dead letter of the law, their code. Dexter follows a code too, but his was made by his father for his needs, not by some ignorant law-givers far away long ago.
I don't read detective stories, but if there was one like that, I'd love to read. Make sure you post a topic here on TTA when you finish something. Tell us what is it about.
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09-09-2013, 04:40 PM
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Okra =/= veggie,its shit from hell. My mom puts it in soup(yeah,i know. Puke!)

I don't really like going outside.
It's too damn "peopley" out there....
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09-09-2013, 04:45 PM
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Yeah,probably overcooked. My ma loves to do that(its kinda the style to cook here). Sometimes,i just boil water, add salt and throw the hot water over the veggies. It leaves the crunch i want,and it leaves the raw taste and texture that i like.

I don't really like going outside.
It's too damn "peopley" out there....
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