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07-12-2012, 08:55 PM
New Beginnings, Starting Anew...
I’m not too fond of the place where I live. I grew up in my city. I preached in my city. My family (whom I don’t talk to anymore) live here. Work here. There is a high chance of my seeing them every single day. I’ve had traumas here. I’m not comfortable with this city anymore. I feel like I know every corner of it.


I want to start anew.


I don’t know where the hell to start.


I tried looking online for good cities in Canada to start anew in, and you’ll never guess it: google seems to think I’m searching for Jesus. I don’t know of any city named Jesus, and the one I usually hear of is a hippy who most likely never lived.


So part of me thinks there is no way in hell I could actually move out of this city. Part of me questions if it really is something I should go for. Part of me thinks, well, you’ve survived all the crap life has thrown at you already and you’re still living in this city, why not stay?


I remember the days when praying over an issue like this and asking for divine guidance was my first plan of action. Now, it seems so moot. But I really don’t think I should think on this
alone. I don’t think I should be left to my own brains devices, because it sometimes can just die like an old Chevy giving me the significant finger and telling me it’s bad luck.


I only know a handful of stories from those on this site, but one thing I do know is that you’re resourceful people, for the most part.


Has anyone had to start new? Is anyone willing to give some guidance? Just so you know, I’m not the type to pack up and go, so to speak. I’m the type to carefully plan something. Or at least I think I do. I’m (1) getting this off my chest (2) hoping to get some responses.


Thanks for reading.

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07-12-2012, 09:15 PM
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A good brainstorm might be to list some of things about your current city that you do like, then try to find a city with similar qualities. It's a beginning. Let this be an adventure, not a chore. Smile Good luck!

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07-12-2012, 09:18 PM
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Thank you, Perception. Maybe my google search query was inputted wrong. For all I know Jesus is in someone's trunk!

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07-12-2012, 09:42 PM
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Well, where are you and what might you like?

Do you speak French?

I like Montreal, Toronto, and Halifax.

Smaller cities like Waterloo/Kitchener?

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07-12-2012, 10:09 PM (This post was last modified: 07-12-2012 10:31 PM by cheapthrillseaker.)
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(07-12-2012 09:42 PM)Chas Wrote:  Well, where are you and what might you like?

Do you speak French?

I like Montreal, Toronto, and Halifax.

Smaller cities like Waterloo/Kitchener?
Halifax was one of the places I was thinking of. But if it came down to it, a town like Perth Andover NB. It most likely would be a place I would move to later on in life, but if the chance arose, I'd move there in a heartbeat.

For smaller towns, resources are more scarce but it's what I'm looking for. I currently live on a busy street that is currently getting major work done at the nearby tracks. Whenever I go
out in the country, I prefer to come back at night so it's not so much of a shock.

Did you live in the areas you mentioned?

I'd like to know how one gets through those Big Moves. My city is pretty big, but not the biggest. I don't know if it's plainly a fear of the unknown or just inexperience that's held me back so far. I want to take the deep plunge, but my brain is making a mountain out of a molehill for this type of subject.

Strangely enough, arriving at the destination and expanding from there is the trickiest part in my head.

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08-12-2012, 12:37 AM
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Vancouver is one of the most beautiful cities I've been too. And they have amazing BC Bud!

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08-12-2012, 12:45 AM
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You talked about moving... a big move.

I have done this a few times.

It's a lot easier when there is a specific purpose. In my case, being offered a job in a different continent (twice) so I had something to occupy the recesses of my mind where any doubts might have been lingering.

I have also done a big move with no specific purpose and that's more exciting (more risk).

I think the best thing to do is to make it real by creating a plan.
More specifically, create a budget plan (there are apps to make this easy but I used Excel) covering all first-year expenses and taking into account exchange rates and 'cost of living' differences (there are on-line indexes that quantify this).

The plan makes it viable.
When you take the plunge, don't expect the plan to actually happen (as planned) cos it won't.

And therein lies the thrill.



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08-12-2012, 12:49 AM
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If you're having doubts about to do it or not, I'll give you the same advice my father gave me.
"son, use a condom!"

wait.. wrong advice.
Oh yes this is it.

"Grow some balls and get the fuck out of my house so I can finally have my man cave"
Yeah that sounds better.

Just do it.
Also I hear Australia is nice this time of year.

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08-12-2012, 12:56 AM
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I've been all across Canada in every major city. My favourites are Vancouver (and surrounding areas, too), Montreal and Halifax. I live in neither, but I have family and friends in my home city that I couldn't part with for now. I deff wouldn't stay if it weren't that way, though. I'd be moving probably to Van, but that's because I have more friends and family there and I'm a west coaster- less of a shock. It might be easier to stay in east Canada since it's more familiar and you seem hesitant to leave. It is a culture shock from one end to the other and that can be an added stress.

If I were going to move I'd make sure to have a bit of savings and a job and place lined up first. I'd have a plan B, too. I've moved cities/towns before and my biggest advice would be to have a job lined up (so don't move and then look for work thinking you'll get it within a couple months). It's not impossible to do it that way (look for work) but it is a lot more stressful.

Having said that, according to Numbeo this year, Canadian Cities are ranked: Edmonton, Calgary, Montreal, Toronto, Vancouver. I suspect economy is a big reason for the relation to quality of living- a lot of work in Alberta.
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08-12-2012, 01:09 AM
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Abbottsford has a new Lingerie Football team, so they must have something going on up there.

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