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17-12-2016, 04:52 PM
RE: Polite or Frank?
One can be politly honest, without being blunt. It's not what you say u say it, that leaves the impression. Ithe also depends on who I'm talking to. I can say something like "Come here you fuckng basterd!" To a friend as a term of humor and indeerment, and the same asize a threat to the asshole that cut in line.

Times when I think I'm being polite can be misconstrued as having some alterative motive.

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17-12-2016, 05:04 PM
RE: Polite or Frank?
I would say it really depends on the situation~.
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17-12-2016, 07:52 PM
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I'm naturally polite in person. Online I can be a dick.
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17-12-2016, 08:25 PM
RE: Polite or Frank?
I see this as a false dichotomy -- one can be both polite and honest, especially when you factor in nonverbal communications like body language and vocal tone -- both of which can soften or harden the message being given.
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18-12-2016, 02:16 AM
RE: Polite or Frank?
(17-12-2016 08:25 PM)Thumpalumpacus Wrote:  I see this as a false dichotomy -- one can be both polite and honest, especially when you factor in nonverbal communications like body language and vocal tone -- both of which can soften or harden the message being given.

That is a good point. While I appreciate courtesy I also appreciate people who are disclosive and forthcoming, and who will take some risks socially. Why not be as honest as you can while also being as courteous as possible. Accepting either choice exclusively would miss the mark.

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18-12-2016, 02:23 AM
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(17-12-2016 09:03 AM)sneroul the thinker Wrote:  I personally find being polite to be so fake and forced and being frank to be more honest but can seem rude. I would like to hear some other thoughts 2 or 3 or 4 monkeys working together is better than one.Thumbsup

When my mate referred to his buttcrack as a sandwich, I told him to put a slice of ham and cheese into it with mustard pickles.

He was horrified. Perhaps he prefers mustard? Huh

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18-12-2016, 02:37 AM
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(18-12-2016 02:23 AM)Banjo Wrote:  
(17-12-2016 09:03 AM)sneroul the thinker Wrote:  I personally find being polite to be so fake and forced and being frank to be more honest but can seem rude. I would like to hear some other thoughts 2 or 3 or 4 monkeys working together is better than one.Thumbsup

When my mate referred to his buttcrack as a sandwich, I told him to put a slice of ham and cheese into it with mustard pickles.

He was horrified. Perhaps he prefers mustard? Huh

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18-12-2016, 02:40 AM
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(18-12-2016 02:37 AM)morondog Wrote:  Laugh out load You're even more delightfully deranged when you're off the meds than on Smile

I don't think my mind is coming back. I think chemo destroyed it. I keep waiting.

Nothing's happening. Consider

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18-12-2016, 08:41 AM
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(17-12-2016 09:03 AM)sneroul the thinker Wrote:  I personally find being polite to be so fake and forced and being frank to be more honest but can seem rude. I would like to hear some other thoughts 2 or 3 or 4 monkeys working together is better than one.Thumbsup

Polite and frank are NOT mutually exclusive things.

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18-12-2016, 08:46 AM
RE: Polite or Frank?
I think there are times for both. Also, one could probably be both polite and frank. Politeness does not equate to being dishonest.

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