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25-08-2012, 02:50 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion.
(25-08-2012 02:31 AM)Alice Wrote:  This group is essential I think. I have also been to the Recovery from religion website but it was not as updated it seemed to me. This presents itself as a much bigger community. I can't believe in god, I have tried, and tried desperately. We didn't go to church a lot but my family is very very religious, like evangelical religious, I couldn't even listen to secular music till I was like 14. My personal issues are with death, as I see I am not the only one. I have searched for something helpful but nothing gives me comfort. I started on this journey because I didn't want my geography and family to define such a large part of my life, I wanted to be able to say that I actually chose Christianity. That is where I thought I would end up. The more I learned the more I didn't believe, and trust me I tried to convince myself but its like I can't re-indoctrinate myself. I don't want to, but yet I do, but I can't, I know too much to go back. My husband luckily is supportive in this journey. Our situation is complicated, my mother has MS and stress and anxiety give her flare ups. She told me once even if he disagreed with me she would support me in anything, except if I ever told her I was atheist or agnostic. She said she would still love me but she would be so sad and her and my dad would pray and pray and pray for me. I avoid religious discussion. I thought well I will hide it until later, but we have two children a five year old and a two year old. They are so close to my parents, we will be moving hopefully in a couple years so the distance should help, but this makes 2 more problems. Obviously our girls come first, and I refuse to make them go through what I am (I have come to realize I have no coping skills due to "letting it go to god" and so on). So its inevitable that our girls will say something about evolution or something else. My parents won't say anything to them, I don't think not mean anyway but I know then there will be a confrontation. A emotional one, I'm positive either together or separate there will be intervention type talks. My dad will straight up ask me if I'm Christian and then it will go from there, they will be heartbroken. They will think their daughter is going to hell and possibly their grandchildren. I am having the hardest time with that, I can't sacrifice my children to lies to save my parents and brother and possibly sister such heartache. I look at my girls and can't imagine if I believed they were going to hell, I just can't imagine. Then there is how to raise them, how do we balance my family with the kids bibles and stuff that I know my parents will preach to them. I don't know I am frustrated and distraught. I just feel like before everything was god, anything that happened that was god, anything bad give it to god, now there is nothing. I can't prove it so I can't believe it, and trust me I have tried. I don't know how to have peace with my death or anyone else's, its a mess I feel like this is all a mess. Sometimes I wish I could go back and never make the decision that I was going to prove Christianity was right. I didn't think I would end up here. Sorry this is so long, and this is the short version.

Sorry if I seem a bit... Cruel against religion, but it is my common belief that if your character was better while you were religious, then you have not truly grasped how wonderful it is to know the truth, or at least the truth for now.

Think of how much money, and time you have saved. Think of how much of the money you don't have to give to church, and could use it on more productive stuff.

I think I can kind of relate to you on a similar way in the coping mechanism, but the I relized. Why rely on a God, when you can put your trust, and share the burdens with the people you love.

In otherwords, replace the Deity, with Family. Embrace the fact that you have escaped, what I would consider, a fradulent istituition, that prays on the weak, and the hopeless, and gives them false things to believe in.

I think it is disgusting that people are stasified with a lie, when the reality is, we need to rely on each other, not an outside force that we can't even understand.

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Recovery from Religion. - fstratzero - 13-08-2012, 02:47 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Question - 13-08-2012, 03:59 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - fstratzero - 13-08-2012, 04:04 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - fstratzero - 13-08-2012, 11:47 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Question - 13-08-2012, 11:59 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - fstratzero - 14-08-2012, 12:42 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - LadyJane - 14-08-2012, 12:19 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - DLJ - 14-08-2012, 12:49 AM
Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 14-08-2012, 10:16 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - kim - 14-08-2012, 10:31 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 14-08-2012, 12:31 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - GirlyMan - 16-08-2012, 07:42 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 14-08-2012, 12:52 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 25-08-2012, 02:43 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - fstratzero - 14-08-2012, 01:17 PM
Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 14-08-2012, 04:18 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - roadrunner - 15-08-2012, 10:25 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 25-08-2012, 02:31 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Atothetheist - 25-08-2012 02:50 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 25-08-2012, 03:09 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Atothetheist - 25-08-2012, 03:12 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 25-08-2012, 10:26 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 26-08-2012, 10:10 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 27-08-2012, 11:07 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - GirlyMan - 25-08-2012, 03:55 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - kim - 25-08-2012, 04:11 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 25-08-2012, 04:45 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - fstratzero - 25-08-2012, 05:26 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 26-08-2012, 10:13 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 28-08-2012, 09:32 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 29-08-2012, 11:33 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Atothetheist - 29-08-2012, 11:40 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 30-08-2012, 09:02 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Atothetheist - 30-08-2012, 09:05 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 29-08-2012, 11:30 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 30-08-2012, 09:09 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Atothetheist - 30-08-2012, 09:10 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 30-08-2012, 09:17 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Atothetheist - 30-08-2012, 09:22 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 30-08-2012, 09:33 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Atothetheist - 30-08-2012, 09:38 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - BrianD - 30-08-2012, 09:22 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Erxomai - 30-08-2012, 09:36 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - BrianD - 30-08-2012, 10:19 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 30-08-2012, 10:49 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - BrianD - 05-09-2012, 05:43 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 13-09-2012, 08:03 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 14-09-2012, 06:41 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - BrianD - 15-09-2012, 12:40 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 15-09-2012, 08:55 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - amav.eram - 13-09-2012, 06:56 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 13-09-2012, 08:11 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - amav.eram - 14-09-2012, 06:29 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Alice - 14-09-2012, 06:40 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - BrianD - 15-09-2012, 12:47 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - amav.eram - 19-09-2012, 06:42 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - depat - 16-09-2012, 05:35 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - BrianD - 11-10-2012, 09:18 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - Anjele - 11-10-2012, 09:32 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - BizzysaidAss - 13-11-2012, 09:03 AM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - fstratzero - 02-12-2012, 09:09 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - GwenB3 - 31-01-2014, 12:00 PM
RE: Recovery from Religion. - madera23 - 04-06-2014, 12:09 AM
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