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04-08-2015, 08:36 PM
RE: Sex toy theft
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

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04-08-2015, 08:36 PM
RE: Sex toy theft
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

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04-08-2015, 08:42 PM
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(04-08-2015 08:36 PM)Smercury44 Wrote:  
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

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I second this. I didn't realize this was an ongoing thing. My ex-husband would snoop through my phone all the time and I had virtually no privacy. It was horrible. Hug

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04-08-2015, 08:50 PM
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(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

They think they have a right to every part of my life. The 21 year old, let's call her Sally, thinks there is nothing wrong with any of it. She will actually loudly question why we aren't closer to each other and have more a sisterly bond. Well, going through someone's underwear chore and trying to find what porn sites they visit is about as intimate as a nonromantic relationship can be isn't it?

Thankfully, I just got my first full time job out of grad school. I'll be making enough to live on my own and I can cut off almost all ties with them. It's sad that I have to do this but I'm on the verge of blocking them from all my social media and blocking their texts and phone calls. And I will only being seeing them on holidays, really just Thanksgiving and Christmas if I can help it. I can't even ride in the same car as them if one of them is driving, last time I did when Sally was driving and reached our house she kept circling the block for an hour around our house encouraging me to roll outside the vehicle to escape it. My father had bipolar disorder, and I legitimately think there is some psychiatric disorder at play here. But for my own mental health I can't be around them. The thing is, they still the gall to ask me for favors. The 19 year old is an education major and wants me to help her with her PRAXIS (teacher certification) exam. Sally always wants me to proof read her essays and give her career advice. They're really fucking sociopaths.

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04-08-2015, 09:15 PM
RE: Sex toy theft
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

They think they have a right to every part of my life. The 21 year old, let's call her Sally, thinks there is nothing wrong with any of it. She will actually loudly question why we aren't closer to each other and have more a sisterly bond. Well, going through someone's underwear chore and trying to find what porn sites they visit is about as intimate as a nonromantic relationship can be isn't it?

Thankfully, I just got my first full time job out of grad school. I'll be making enough to live on my own and I can cut off almost all ties with them. It's sad that I have to do this but I'm on the verge of blocking them from all my social media and blocking their texts and phone calls. And I will only being seeing them on holidays, really just Thanksgiving and Christmas if I can help it. I can't even ride in the same car as them if one of them is driving, last time I did when Sally was driving and reached our house she kept circling the block for an hour around our house encouraging me to roll outside the vehicle to escape it. My father had bipolar disorder, and I legitimately think there is some psychiatric disorder at play here. But for my own mental health I can't be around them. The thing is, they still the gall to ask me for favors. The 19 year old is an education major and wants me to help her with her PRAXIS (teacher certification) exam. Sally always wants me to proof read her essays and give her career advice. They're really fucking sociopaths.

Seems to me this family is toxic for you, & who needs that?
I would never have the nerve to be even remotely that invasive of a person's privacy, & don't understand anyone who does. This is waaaaaaay beyond normal sibling ''closeness''
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04-08-2015, 09:24 PM
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I managed an adult store in SoCal for six years.

Fuckers stole my sex toys at least ten times a week.
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05-08-2015, 12:25 AM
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Sorry Jerseygirldar, I didn't know the context. This sounds typical of family dynamics from childhood never changing even into adulthood. There always comes a time when you need to start upsetting people by putting your foot down. It happens with everyone to a greater or lesser degree. My older brother keeps thinking that he has to give his opinions about what I do with my life and that his negativity can be quite toxic. I really upset and confused him last year by basically telling him to fuck off with his opinions (actual words). I actually upset my mum as well when she was there because she worried that we would drift apart after they are both dead. But it had to be done. He was saying that he was concerned that we were taking on my parent's house in German. Earlier he had been telling me that I didn't have the necessary skills to start a new company. And he has often told me that we all have crappy jobs and should just put up with them. He needs to believe all this himself in order to cope with his own dead end situation but his life is totally different to mine and we have completely different needs.

My husband had a related problem with his brother and mother and ended up with us leaving the country. His older brother always got the respect and was listened to, he was always the one who was blamed regardless of the actual cause. When we rented a house from the older brother and shower collapsed because he had hired a dodgy builder it was our fault for not opening the window an inch (you couldn't open it any further). Evidence such as the boiler constantly leaking into the house, the fact that we ran up huge electricity bills using a dehumidifier or that the builder had basically tiled over a plaster board floor that was not properly supported and had used a brittle mortar was irrelevant. This time though they had me to deal with and so it didn't wash. Since coming back to the UK my husband has a much better relationship with his mum and has nothing to do with his brother.

There's no getting away from it. You will either have to seriously upset them for stay continually upset yourself. Put your foot down now and upset some people and be persistent, don't let them emotionally manipulate you into giving up because they will try. They will ridicule what you say. State exactly what you feel and why and say that as it currently stands you don't enjoy their company and don't want anything to do with them until they treat you with more respect. Only by doing that will things have a hope of improving in the future.

And if they don't understand, do the same things they do to you back to them.
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05-08-2015, 12:47 AM
RE: Sex toy theft
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

They think they have a right to every part of my life. The 21 year old, let's call her Sally, thinks there is nothing wrong with any of it. She will actually loudly question why we aren't closer to each other and have more a sisterly bond. Well, going through someone's underwear chore and trying to find what porn sites they visit is about as intimate as a nonromantic relationship can be isn't it?

Thankfully, I just got my first full time job out of grad school. I'll be making enough to live on my own and I can cut off almost all ties with them. It's sad that I have to do this but I'm on the verge of blocking them from all my social media and blocking their texts and phone calls. And I will only being seeing them on holidays, really just Thanksgiving and Christmas if I can help it. I can't even ride in the same car as them if one of them is driving, last time I did when Sally was driving and reached our house she kept circling the block for an hour around our house encouraging me to roll outside the vehicle to escape it. My father had bipolar disorder, and I legitimately think there is some psychiatric disorder at play here. But for my own mental health I can't be around them. The thing is, they still the gall to ask me for favors. The 19 year old is an education major and wants me to help her with her PRAXIS (teacher certification) exam. Sally always wants me to proof read her essays and give her career advice. They're really fucking sociopaths.


You probably need to stick up for yourself more. Don't be afraid to tell people to fuck off when called for. Especially family when they do shit that really gets you.

I was reading through the thread and thought you were upset, but not this upset. It seemed relatively humorous. I was liking various light hearted posts and then saw this. But you posted in the casual coffee house. Perhaps next time use the help section. Then we can appropriately interpret your distress and act accordingly.

I am sure nobody here meant to make fun of you. These are considerate well meaning people.

I am sorry you had to go through this. Just remember, be careful with sex and fart stories. It is natural or people off laugh off such things.

NOTE: Member, Tomasia uses this site to slander other individuals. He then later proclaims it a joke, but not in public.
I will call him a liar and a dog here and now.
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05-08-2015, 05:23 AM
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(04-08-2015 04:04 PM)Mathilda Wrote:  
(04-08-2015 08:55 AM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I'm 23 and I've talked about my younger sisters on here before, but this time I really need to vent. My younger sisters who are 21 and 19 went into my room and took out a sex toy. Censored The toy had been a gag gift from a friend. So first of all they went into my bedroom. The toy was located in a private area which means they were in that too. Than they preceded to take it out and chase my mother around the house with it. No I don't understand how two college students can be so immature. And they clearly have no respect for my privacy because they went somewhere so private, took something so private, and than made a huge joke about it and let my mother know i had this thing which really wasn't information I wanted her to know.

Take a shit in your sister's underwear drawer.

That's good professional advice.

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05-08-2015, 05:49 AM
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(04-08-2015 11:30 AM)pablo Wrote:  Get some rat traps and set them for your sisters. Not mouse traps, big-assed rat traps. Next time they go digging around in your shit maybe a broken finger will put them off a return trip. Big Grin

That was pretty much exactly what I was going to suggest.
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