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05-08-2015, 07:06 AM
RE: Sex toy theft
I no longer have anything to do with my former sibling. Best move of my life.

Until moving out is a possibility, visit a local bank and get a couple of their dye packs. That shit don't wash off for a loooooooooong time.

We have enough youth. How about looking for the Fountain of Smart?
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05-08-2015, 08:02 AM
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(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

They think they have a right to every part of my life. The 21 year old, let's call her Sally, thinks there is nothing wrong with any of it. She will actually loudly question why we aren't closer to each other and have more a sisterly bond. Well, going through someone's underwear chore and trying to find what porn sites they visit is about as intimate as a nonromantic relationship can be isn't it?

Thankfully, I just got my first full time job out of grad school. I'll be making enough to live on my own and I can cut off almost all ties with them. It's sad that I have to do this but I'm on the verge of blocking them from all my social media and blocking their texts and phone calls. And I will only being seeing them on holidays, really just Thanksgiving and Christmas if I can help it. I can't even ride in the same car as them if one of them is driving, last time I did when Sally was driving and reached our house she kept circling the block for an hour around our house encouraging me to roll outside the vehicle to escape it. My father had bipolar disorder, and I legitimately think there is some psychiatric disorder at play here. But for my own mental health I can't be around them. The thing is, they still the gall to ask me for favors. The 19 year old is an education major and wants me to help her with her PRAXIS (teacher certification) exam. Sally always wants me to proof read her essays and give her career advice. They're really fucking sociopaths.

Apologies for not taking this as seriously as intended. I have a hard time deciding if I think your sisters have psychological disorders or are just immature. It sounds like they may actually like you. However, since you are the only one in the family to have matured out of childhood they just aren't able to relate to you. It almost seems like they think their pranks are a way of trying bond with you. I definitely think some space is in order. Maybe not being around them would allow you to tolerate them a bit when you are with them. Personally, I would try to maintain some relationship with them once you move out. This is coming from the guy who sees his older sister once every 2-3 years because she is bat-shit crazy. Soooo... take it with a grain of Lot's wife.

I just wanted to let you know that I love you even though you aren't naked right now. Heart
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05-08-2015, 09:41 AM (This post was last modified: 05-08-2015 09:50 AM by Thumpalumpacus.)
RE: Sex toy theft
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

They think they have a right to every part of my life. The 21 year old, let's call her Sally, thinks there is nothing wrong with any of it. She will actually loudly question why we aren't closer to each other and have more a sisterly bond. Well, going through someone's underwear chore and trying to find what porn sites they visit is about as intimate as a nonromantic relationship can be isn't it?

Thankfully, I just got my first full time job out of grad school. I'll be making enough to live on my own and I can cut off almost all ties with them. It's sad that I have to do this but I'm on the verge of blocking them from all my social media and blocking their texts and phone calls. And I will only being seeing them on holidays, really just Thanksgiving and Christmas if I can help it. I can't even ride in the same car as them if one of them is driving, last time I did when Sally was driving and reached our house she kept circling the block for an hour around our house encouraging me to roll outside the vehicle to escape it. My father had bipolar disorder, and I legitimately think there is some psychiatric disorder at play here. But for my own mental health I can't be around them. The thing is, they still the gall to ask me for favors. The 19 year old is an education major and wants me to help her with her PRAXIS (teacher certification) exam. Sally always wants me to proof read her essays and give her career advice. They're really fucking sociopaths.

Sorry for having been facetious earlier.

You really need to extricate yourself from this situation. They are obviously bullying you. I would go ahead with blocking them on social media immediately, if I were you; it would not only remove one avenue of torment they use, it will help you feel more in control.

Get out of that house, and severely restrict your contacts with them. It's often said that you can't choose your own family, but that's bullshit.

My older sister was always meddlesome (though not nearly to the extent yours are), and when she asked why I don't call or write very much, I told her point-blank that she tries to live my life for me and I ain't having it. I love her, but I can't live in the same state with her, it seems.

Good luck, Jersey.
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06-08-2015, 05:48 AM
RE: Sex toy theft
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  They think they have a right to every part of my life. The 21 year old, let's call her Sally, thinks there is nothing wrong with any of it. She will actually loudly question why we aren't closer to each other and have more a sisterly bond. Well, going through someone's underwear chore and trying to find what porn sites they visit is about as intimate as a nonromantic relationship can be isn't it?

Have you unequivocally told them you don't want them going through your stuff? I mean, the hacking social media thing should be pretty obvious, but do they just not see how invasive they're being?
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06-08-2015, 04:04 PM
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(04-08-2015 08:55 AM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I'm 23 and I've talked about my younger sisters on here before, but this time I really need to vent. My younger sisters who are 21 and 19 went into my room and took out a sex toy. Censored The toy had been a gag gift from a friend. So first of all they went into my bedroom. The toy was located in a private area which means they were in that too. Than they preceded to take it out and chase my mother around the house with it. No I don't understand how two college students can be so immature. And they clearly have no respect for my privacy because they went somewhere so private, took something so private, and than made a huge joke about it and let my mother know i had this thing which really wasn't information I wanted her to know.

Did it take both sisters to carry it?
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06-08-2015, 05:25 PM
RE: Sex toy theft
(04-08-2015 08:34 PM)jerseygirlar Wrote:  I get that everyone is having fun with this and I guess I can see the humor in this, but things like this aren't a one time thing for me. Every time one of my two sisters come home from college the mental abuse starts. They and my mother and grandmother are pretty much the only family I have. When their mental abuse starts it really can trigger my depression and start making me have suicidal thoughts. It's like having you're every move watched when they're home. They go through my phone, go through my room, follow me around town, try to hack my social media. They do it to my mom too. The thing is even though the depression has generally made me isolate myself over the years, so I don't have many friends, I can cope when they're not around. I can keep myself busy and do things I like. But with them constantly banging on my bedroom door and my not having anywhere else to go or stay and them following me, it really makes me feel like I'm in a mental and physical prison.

They think they have a right to every part of my life. The 21 year old, let's call her Sally, thinks there is nothing wrong with any of it. She will actually loudly question why we aren't closer to each other and have more a sisterly bond. Well, going through someone's underwear chore and trying to find what porn sites they visit is about as intimate as a nonromantic relationship can be isn't it?

Thankfully, I just got my first full time job out of grad school. I'll be making enough to live on my own and I can cut off almost all ties with them. It's sad that I have to do this but I'm on the verge of blocking them from all my social media and blocking their texts and phone calls. And I will only being seeing them on holidays, really just Thanksgiving and Christmas if I can help it. I can't even ride in the same car as them if one of them is driving, last time I did when Sally was driving and reached our house she kept circling the block for an hour around our house encouraging me to roll outside the vehicle to escape it. My father had bipolar disorder, and I legitimately think there is some psychiatric disorder at play here. But for my own mental health I can't be around them. The thing is, they still the gall to ask me for favors. The 19 year old is an education major and wants me to help her with her PRAXIS (teacher certification) exam. Sally always wants me to proof read her essays and give her career advice. They're really fucking sociopaths.

It sounds as though you've tried to tell your sisters where your boundaries are, but they don't care to listen. It also sounds as though they wish they were closer to you but can't respect your having a different personality. Also there's something about being in the house you grew up in that makes it harder for people to act like adults--they might be more mature and kind at college and regress to their old patterns when they come home.

I agree with others that the most positive step you could take would be to move out on your own and never, ever invite your sisters over to your place, see them only as much as you personally want, and only see them one at a time so that they can't gang up on you. Until you're ready to move, avoid them. Is it possible to put a lock on the door to your room?
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