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28-07-2017, 08:44 AM
RE: So I am transitioning
(28-07-2017 08:04 AM)theophilus Wrote:  Before you go to far in transitioning it might be a good idea to check this site.

http://www.sexchangeregret.com/

Not everyone who changes gender is happy with the result.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I think Rob has thought about this decision long and hard. Regret happens, and not everyone feels happy about their results, but not frequently. This "regret" line is thrown at all of us trans people many times in our transition process, trust me.
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28-07-2017, 08:55 AM
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Of all the trans people I have ever known, be it personally or generally know of in my work place or local area, only 1 has ever "regretted it". That was MTF transition, and only regretted it due to local persecution.

I believe at the time of her transition (20+ years ago), it wasn't the "normal" thing to see/hear of, and some locals including her work colleagues harassed/teased her regarding the change. She was also in her 40's when the change happened, so that "shock" factor was seemingly much higher, due to the amount of people that knew her/worked with her/etc before hand

She lived around the corner from my house, and I saw her a lot when I was a kid (she was 40-50+ at that time). I don't see her much any more so I do often wonder how she is.

That's not to say some don't regret making hasty decisions on this matter, should they choose to move forward on this, but with today's culture being very much more clued up on the subject, mainly that of doctors and various support groups, along with society in general, I dare say very few people, have any sense of regret, when they become the person they've felt that they really are this entire time.

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28-07-2017, 09:25 AM
RE: So I am transitioning
(28-07-2017 08:04 AM)theophilus Wrote:  Before you go to far in transitioning it might be a good idea to check this site.

http://www.sexchangeregret.com

The following article from MediaMatters.org about the administrator of the above site, Walt Heyer, makes for interesting reading that counters misconceptions of gender change that he claims exist...

—A popular right-wing activist with extreme, discredited views about LGBT people is making the media rounds to talk about Caitlyn Jenner, peddling the myth that many transgender people end up regretting transitioning.

Walt Heyer, contributor for the rabidly anti-LGBT web magazine The Federalist, appeared on the June 2 edition of CNN Newsroom to comment on Vanity Fair's cover story about Caitlyn Jenner's decision to publicly identify as a transgender woman.

Heyer's life story has made him a pseudo-celebrity in anti-LGBT circles; in his forties, he decided to transition to living life as a woman, only to transition back to living as a man less than a decade later. Since then, he's pushed the debunked claim that transgender people often experience regret after transitioning, arguing that what transgender people actually need is "psychiatric or psychological help."

But while he was granted a platform to comment on transgender issues, Heyer's experience isn't reflective of the experiences of the overwhelming majority of transgender people; he even admits that he was "misdiagnosed" and was actually suffering with "a dissociative disorder that required talk therapy, not surgery." His views about transitioning aren't rooted in research or medical expertise. The idea that many transgender people experience "transition regrets" has been widely debunked and contradicts the positions of major professional medical organizations, which all view transitioning as an important and beneficial step for people who identify with a gender identity that doesn't correspond with their biological sex.

When he's not appearing on a major cable news network, Heyer is a source of extreme transphobic commentary. He's called gender reassignment surgery a "modern day frontal lobotomy," asserted that parents who help their children transition should be punished with "at least 20 years in prison."

That kind of extremism has made Heyer a favorite of anti-gay hate groups, including MassResistance and Americans for Truth About Homosexuality, who tout his story as proof that being transgender is a mental problem that can be treated or cured. But it also makes Heyer an odd choice for mainstream media outlets, which should be emphasizing the commentary of experts rather than fringe voices.

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28-07-2017, 09:52 AM
RE: So I am transitioning
(28-07-2017 09:25 AM)SYZ Wrote:  
(28-07-2017 08:04 AM)theophilus Wrote:  Before you go to far in transitioning it might be a good idea to check this site.

http://www.sexchangeregret.com

The following article from MediaMatters.org about the administrator of the above site, Walt Heyer, makes for interesting reading that counters misconceptions of gender change that he claims exist...

—A popular right-wing activist with extreme, discredited views about LGBT people is making the media rounds to talk about Caitlyn Jenner, peddling the myth that many transgender people end up regretting transitioning.

Walt Heyer, contributor for the rabidly anti-LGBT web magazine The Federalist, appeared on the June 2 edition of CNN Newsroom to comment on Vanity Fair's cover story about Caitlyn Jenner's decision to publicly identify as a transgender woman.

Heyer's life story has made him a pseudo-celebrity in anti-LGBT circles; in his forties, he decided to transition to living life as a woman, only to transition back to living as a man less than a decade later. Since then, he's pushed the debunked claim that transgender people often experience regret after transitioning, arguing that what transgender people actually need is "psychiatric or psychological help."

But while he was granted a platform to comment on transgender issues, Heyer's experience isn't reflective of the experiences of the overwhelming majority of transgender people; he even admits that he was "misdiagnosed" and was actually suffering with "a dissociative disorder that required talk therapy, not surgery." His views about transitioning aren't rooted in research or medical expertise. The idea that many transgender people experience "transition regrets" has been widely debunked and contradicts the positions of major professional medical organizations, which all view transitioning as an important and beneficial step for people who identify with a gender identity that doesn't correspond with their biological sex.

When he's not appearing on a major cable news network, Heyer is a source of extreme transphobic commentary. He's called gender reassignment surgery a "modern day frontal lobotomy," asserted that parents who help their children transition should be punished with "at least 20 years in prison."

That kind of extremism has made Heyer a favorite of anti-gay hate groups, including MassResistance and Americans for Truth About Homosexuality, who tout his story as proof that being transgender is a mental problem that can be treated or cured. But it also makes Heyer an odd choice for mainstream media outlets, which should be emphasizing the commentary of experts rather than fringe voices.

Thank you for taking the time SYZ.

Here's more info on Walter from a trans person who researches and investigates issues surrounding gender in our society:
http://genderanalysis.net/2015/07/walt-h...alysis-09/



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28-07-2017, 11:12 AM
RE: So I am transitioning
Happy that you are getting to live your life on your terms.
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28-07-2017, 11:15 AM
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(28-07-2017 08:04 AM)theophilus Wrote:  Before you go to far in transitioning it might be a good idea to check this site.

http://www.sexchangeregret.com/

Not everyone who changes gender is happy with the result.

And you probably would have us go to this site for learning about evolution:

Answers in Genesis
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28-07-2017, 11:45 AM
RE: So I am transitioning
(28-07-2017 11:15 AM)ResidentEvilFan Wrote:  
(28-07-2017 08:04 AM)theophilus Wrote:  Before you go to far in transitioning it might be a good idea to check this site.

http://www.sexchangeregret.com/

Not everyone who changes gender is happy with the result.

And you probably would have us go to this site for learning about evolution:

Answers in Genesis

Laugh out load He's many times referred us there. Laughat

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(06-02-2014 03:47 PM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:  And I'm giving myself a conclusion again from all the facepalming.
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28-07-2017, 12:34 PM (This post was last modified: 28-07-2017 12:39 PM by Leerob.)
RE: So I am transitioning
Thanks everybody for having my back, especially with theophilus.

@Emma, actually you are right, yes. I will contact some of the support groups here and see if they have any use for my stuff. thanks for bringing it up.

@theophilus: I don't know if you are a troll or if you have an agenda or whatever and I don't care. Because even if you won't read this answer, other people might really think about regrets and what if a trans person changes their mind in mid-transition or after things are done. And that is why I will talk about regrets now.

So about regrets then:
I would like to mention something that I have mentioned some place on here before but no clue where. Like most if not all transgender people, I have always known that something was different. The older I got the more I understood. And I understood even without having vocabulary for it, without the science community really recognizing that transgenderism is a thing, without people ever talking about things like that, without internet, and because I was a 80s and 90s kid > also mostly without TV because I was outside playing. I still knew that inside I was not a girl. The only vocabulary I had for this, because that is how adults referred to me is "wanting to be a boy". And hell yes. I expected my penis to grow until I was 12 and entered puberty. I entered puberty and no penis grew but instead breasts grew and my period started. The female hormones started to kick in and started to mess with my head big time. The more I aged, the worse I got on this topic. Why is my chest not flat, why do I not have a penis, why does everybody think I am female. Like most transgender people, I tried very hard to fit into my assigned gender. I tried so hard that it almost killed me twice now. Literally.
I am married to a man now. My man is straight (you saw my OP). I am fully aware that as hard as we are trying, in the end I might lose him because he is straight and my body will be male (and this fear is figuratively killing me). My mom is not young, and I have to tell her that she is losing a daughter (and gaining a son). I have to go through hormonal treatment, therapy, invasive surgeries, possibly become a social outcast, feel humiliated by my country's way of changing a gender marker, tell all of my coworkers, tell everybody who has the slightest bit to do with me, deal with tons of anxiety and stress.
Transitioning is not an easy way out and it is not a decision anybody makes lightly. I did a lot of research about the positives and the negatives. I heard people talk about regrets and those who stopped their transition.
For me, this is a live or death situation. So you know what? I'd rather try to save my life and risk regretting it (although I doubt I will regret it) than stay in a state of mind that might very well escalate into suicide sooner or later because the pain is just too much to deal with.

And that was me addressing regret. BTW I did not click that link. Because I don't click awkward links posted by a -17 Rep Newbie that only said one sentence. But that's just silly me.

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28-07-2017, 12:59 PM
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Your story is painful to read, Leerob, I can't imagine dealing with that. Good luck for the transition.

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(06-02-2014 03:47 PM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:  And I'm giving myself a conclusion again from all the facepalming.
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28-07-2017, 01:02 PM
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(28-07-2017 12:34 PM)Leerob Wrote:  And that was me addressing regret. BTW I did not click that link. Because I don't click awkward links posted by a -17 Rep Newbie that only said one sentence. But that's just silly me.

-18 now.
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