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19-04-2015, 08:12 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
(19-04-2015 01:28 PM)pauloroberts Wrote:  My girlfriend and I were watching some romantic comedy the other day (not my idea, trust me), and the topic of sexual history came up. So we ended up talking about it, and it turns out that she's got quite a past.

She's 27 and here is just some of what she told me...

Her first time was when she was 17
When I asked her how many men she's had sex with she couldn't tell me but when I asked if it was over 20 (jokingly) she said oh yes, way more
The first time she did anal was at the age of 18
She has had a threesome on 3 separate occasions
She has kissed girls in clubs many times
She was a member of fetlife for a couple of years
She mentioned something about doing porn

Those are the highlights but she mentioned quite a lot of other occasions and people.

This is not OK. I've been with her for 3 years and I had no idea about any of this. I always had a feeling about her but I really didn't think it was like this. This is a huge shock to me and what bothers me is that I've invested 3 years of my life with someone whose values and mine most certainly do not gel.

I don't really want to break up with her, but at the same time I can't imagine staying with her and being OK with this. It's going to nag away at me, I know it. I'm a firm believer that her sexual history has a lot to do with the ability to pair bond (or should I say, the inability), and I have seen enough evidence of this with my friends and their girlfriends to confirm it.

I hate to think about it as 3 years is a long time, but I guess I probably will be finishing with her, at least that's how I'm feeling right now. But I just want to get people's opinions, for what it's worth.

My question is: when you found out, did she change ... or did you change? If she was good enough for you before learning about her past before you, why should learning about that past suddenly make her substandard?You've been with her three years. Do you have any evidence that she's unable to pair-bond, or are you simply carrying forward preconceived notions?

Me, I think the problem is not between her legs, but between your ears.
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19-04-2015, 08:14 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
(19-04-2015 08:12 PM)Hobbitgirl Wrote:  
(19-04-2015 08:10 PM)Gilgamesh Wrote:  It's not like he gave her full name lol.

Doesn't matter. Its about trusting someone with personal information.

But the very thing that makes it personal isn't present in the OP... This story could - and most likely does - hold true for thousands of people lol.
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19-04-2015, 08:14 PM (This post was last modified: 19-04-2015 08:18 PM by Thumpalumpacus.)
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
(19-04-2015 02:11 PM)Smercury44 Wrote:  Better break up with her fast, give her a chance to find someone who's not as insecure and jealous over petty things Yes

dingdingdingding

(19-04-2015 03:42 PM)Fodder_From_The_Truth Wrote:  Inner insecurities are probably what's digging at you. Afraid you can't give her the same pleasures of her past and that she'll cheat on you.

Confidently give her the D and don't sweat it.

This is what a man does -- lay some pipe and don't sweat the small stuff.
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19-04-2015, 08:28 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past



#sigh
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19-04-2015, 08:45 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
The real story behind pauloroberts:

"So I was on the couch watching TV with my mom because I'm only 14 and thus live at home.
Naturally the conversation about me never getting a girlfriend because I'm a stupid little shit came up and my mom complained about how she's never going to have grandchildren and expressed her disappointment in me as a result.

So naturally I went to my room to have a cry and troll internet forums with stories of my fantasies where I girlfriend"


And that ladies and gentlemen is the true story of what actually happened.

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19-04-2015, 08:47 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
Now that's just mean.
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19-04-2015, 08:47 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
(19-04-2015 08:45 PM)earmuffs Wrote:  The real story behind pauloroberts:

"So I was on the couch watching TV with my mom because I'm only 14 and thus live at home.
Naturally the conversation about me never getting a girlfriend because I'm a stupid little shit came up and my mom complained about how she's never going to have grandchildren and expressed her disappointment in me as a result.

So naturally I went to my room to have a cry and troll internet forums with stories of my fantasies where I girlfriend"


And that ladies and gentlemen is the true story of what actually happened.

Seems more plausible than the OP. Thumbsup
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19-04-2015, 08:47 PM
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(19-04-2015 08:47 PM)Gilgamesh Wrote:  Now that's just mean.

Get a little too relatable for you there Gilgamesh?

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19-04-2015, 08:49 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
(19-04-2015 08:47 PM)Gilgamesh Wrote:  Now that's just mean.

Hit too close to home for ya?

Edit, Muffs too fast.
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19-04-2015, 08:50 PM
RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
(19-04-2015 08:49 PM)pablo Wrote:  
(19-04-2015 08:47 PM)Gilgamesh Wrote:  Now that's just mean.

Hit too close to home for ya?

HA! FUCK YOU PABLO! I got in first for once! Suck it!

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