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24-07-2016, 10:34 AM
Sometimes karma is a bitch...
Not the actual definition of karma but the pop-culture concept of you get what you give- what goes around comes around.

My oldest and her husband rent a house here in town. It's a nice house, pretty good sized...bigger than ours and definitely bigger than my son's. They love pointing out to my son that his house is small.

After the big hail storm we all suffered damage to our homes and cars as many of you know. My son and husband have been back and forth helping each other move furniture and things to make way for repairs. I collected boxes for packing things up and we have generally been there for each other. I have helped my son navigate the nightmare that is insurance.

Daughter and SIL have not once offered to help us out scoffing that all we are going through is why they rent...so they don't have to deal with the issues of ownership. They were quite content to let their landlord take care of everything while the storm had little real impact on their lives.

Since all our cars were totaled and had to be replaced I have had snide remarks about how they suppose my little car is kind of cute. While they upgraded to a big SUV with an amped up stereo that increased the price substantially. Daughter and SIL also think his mother should have bought her totaled car back from insurance so they would have an extra car.

Yeah, they had the bigger house, the bigger, better car and their lives weren't disrupted except quite minimally.

Finally we are getting things back together. It's going a little more slowly for my son...I think he is going to switch to our contractor as his is surely looking at the higher dollar projects first.

So then karma comes knocking. Because of the storm and damage repairs daughter and SIL's landlord has made a couple appearances...the first ever. And....they have been evicted. They have to be out of the house by the end of the month. SIL's mother has been living there nearly two years without being added to the lease or her presence even being discussed with the landlord....and they now have two cats...also a no-no according to the lease.

So, after making sure it's been pointed out often that our homes and cars are sub-standard in their eyes and that they have been partying it up and having a grand old time while we have struggled they are getting their asses handed to them on a platter.

They are having to move in with SIL's father and his wife. All of them...daughter, SIL, granddaughter, and mother-in-law who has been divorced from SIL's father for about 30 years. They will be living in two bedrooms and a sitting room until the father can help them find a house. There are few houses for sale here. Due to the storm damage they either aren't on the market due to needed repairs or they have been upgraded to a point where the price is sky high.

And guess who showed up yesterday wanting moving help and somewhere for the two cats to live and a place to store things? Yep, daughter. I can't take on two more animals...not with more repair work to be done here and the six animals I already have. Not to mention one of her cats hasn't been fixed yet. We can't store anything in our garage...apparently it was forgotten that nearly the whole ceiling fell in and that still has to be repaired...most of our stuff is still in a POD in the driveway.

Her biggest concern is how to get granddaughter to her horseback riding lessons since they will be living in another town. Facepalm My son asked if she was serious...they are essentially homeless and she is worried about horseback riding lessons.

Maybe this will be an eye-opener for them. I hope it at least teaches them not to look down their noses on other people. Their keeping up with the Jones' façade is crumbling around them. I have little sympathy. They will have a roof over their heads, no one is going to go hungry. Maybe their priorities will become a little more sensible.

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24-07-2016, 10:42 AM
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Meanwhile I tore down a huge house and built me a small one in it's place....Tongue

I really don't get the fascination with huge houses - so much to maintain and clean. What's the point?

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24-07-2016, 10:48 AM
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It does make you wonder even though common sense says karma is bollocks. Hopefully this recent down turn in fortune will help with attitude adjustment and perhaps it wouldn't hurt to remind them of their failings to support you in order to reinforce a positive change in attitude given as how they are now on the receiving end, not to be mean but in order to effect change and improve family relations. You know that you are never far from my thoughts and that I hold you in great esteem and affection always Heart Hug
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24-07-2016, 11:22 AM
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(24-07-2016 10:42 AM)Dom Wrote:  Meanwhile I tore down a huge house and built me a small one in it's place....Tongue

I really don't get the fascination with huge houses - so much to maintain and clean. What's the point?

Conspicuous consumption. I'd like to live in a smaller house. Once all the kids finally leave the nest, we should downsize, but that would require a move.
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24-07-2016, 11:56 AM
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(24-07-2016 11:22 AM)Fireball Wrote:  
(24-07-2016 10:42 AM)Dom Wrote:  Meanwhile I tore down a huge house and built me a small one in it's place....Tongue

I really don't get the fascination with huge houses - so much to maintain and clean. What's the point?

Conspicuous consumption. I'd like to live in a smaller house. Once all the kids finally leave the nest, we should downsize, but that would require a move.

I had paid off the old house. I wanted a smaller one, and picking up and moving was a hassle, expensive and I didn't want to leave anyway. Selling the old house to salvage and building a new one was cheaper than selling the old one, buying a new one, and moving.

I am super happy with that decision. My house feels spacious, has a small foot print, and it's wonderfully functional. It has all the creature comforts and then some. A lot of things that are super expensive in a re-model are much more affordable in a new build, like heated floors, electrical capacity and set-up, gas/electric choices and lots of stuff. And, of course, the location is exactly where I want it to be.

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24-07-2016, 12:04 PM
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(24-07-2016 10:34 AM)Anjele Wrote:  ...
I hope it at least teaches them not to look down their noses on other people. Their keeping up with the Jones' façade is crumbling around them. I have little sympathy. They will have a roof over their heads, no one is going to go hungry. Maybe their priorities will become a little more sensible.

You're right. Their attitude sucks!

I blame the parents. Angel

Ps. Growing up in a conservative area with 'keeping up with the Joneseses' neighbours and school friends (well, their parents) ... good church goers (meaning good attendance records; not charitable or anything) ... Y'know, stockbroker belt... I could never understand why they'd want to keep up with my family, the Jones' (the only socialists in the village). Weird.

Really... why Jones? Why not Lord and Lady Fortesque-Smyth?

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Anyway, not impressed with their landlord... that's a mean thing to do. What had the two cats done to deserve that?

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24-07-2016, 12:10 PM
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The only reason I live in a house as big as I do -- it's paid for...........

Otherwise, I'd probably live in a cracker box................

Of course the garage would still need to be over 1500 square foot with 14 foot ceilings.....

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24-07-2016, 12:10 PM
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(24-07-2016 10:34 AM)Anjele Wrote:  Not the actual definition of karma but the pop-culture concept of you get what you give- what goes around comes around.

My oldest and her husband rent a house here in town. It's a nice house, pretty good sized...bigger than ours and definitely bigger than my son's. They love pointing out to my son that his house is small.

After the big hail storm we all suffered damage to our homes and cars as many of you know. My son and husband have been back and forth helping each other move furniture and things to make way for repairs. I collected boxes for packing things up and we have generally been there for each other. I have helped my son navigate the nightmare that is insurance.

Daughter and SIL have not once offered to help us out scoffing that all we are going through is why they rent...so they don't have to deal with the issues of ownership. They were quite content to let their landlord take care of everything while the storm had little real impact on their lives.

Since all our cars were totaled and had to be replaced I have had snide remarks about how they suppose my little car is kind of cute. While they upgraded to a big SUV with an amped up stereo that increased the price substantially. Daughter and SIL also think his mother should have bought her totaled car back from insurance so they would have an extra car.

Yeah, they had the bigger house, the bigger, better car and their lives weren't disrupted except quite minimally.

Finally we are getting things back together. It's going a little more slowly for my son...I think he is going to switch to our contractor as his is surely looking at the higher dollar projects first.

So then karma comes knocking. Because of the storm and damage repairs daughter and SIL's landlord has made a couple appearances...the first ever. And....they have been evicted. They have to be out of the house by the end of the month. SIL's mother has been living there nearly two years without being added to the lease or her presence even being discussed with the landlord....and they now have two cats...also a no-no according to the lease.

So, after making sure it's been pointed out often that our homes and cars are sub-standard in their eyes and that they have been partying it up and having a grand old time while we have struggled they are getting their asses handed to them on a platter.

They are having to move in with SIL's father and his wife. All of them...daughter, SIL, granddaughter, and mother-in-law who has been divorced from SIL's father for about 30 years. They will be living in two bedrooms and a sitting room until the father can help them find a house. There are few houses for sale here. Due to the storm damage they either aren't on the market due to needed repairs or they have been upgraded to a point where the price is sky high.

And guess who showed up yesterday wanting moving help and somewhere for the two cats to live and a place to store things? Yep, daughter. I can't take on two more animals...not with more repair work to be done here and the six animals I already have. Not to mention one of her cats hasn't been fixed yet. We can't store anything in our garage...apparently it was forgotten that nearly the whole ceiling fell in and that still has to be repaired...most of our stuff is still in a POD in the driveway.

Her biggest concern is how to get granddaughter to her horseback riding lessons since they will be living in another town. Facepalm My son asked if she was serious...they are essentially homeless and she is worried about horseback riding lessons.

Maybe this will be an eye-opener for them. I hope it at least teaches them not to look down their noses on other people. Their keeping up with the Jones' façade is crumbling around them. I have little sympathy. They will have a roof over their heads, no one is going to go hungry. Maybe their priorities will become a little more sensible.

Well, life lessons come in all shapes and sizes. Let's hope they'll learn from this one.

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24-07-2016, 12:13 PM
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(24-07-2016 11:22 AM)Fireball Wrote:  
(24-07-2016 10:42 AM)Dom Wrote:  Meanwhile I tore down a huge house and built me a small one in it's place....Tongue

I really don't get the fascination with huge houses - so much to maintain and clean. What's the point?

Conspicuous consumption. I'd like to live in a smaller house. Once all the kids finally leave the nest, we should downsize, but that would require a move.

That is what I did. When I retired I moved from the USA where rent costs a thousand bucks a month to the Dominican Republic where I pay about $200 USd per month. I can live here on my social security!
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24-07-2016, 05:52 PM
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(24-07-2016 11:56 AM)Dom Wrote:  
(24-07-2016 11:22 AM)Fireball Wrote:  Conspicuous consumption. I'd like to live in a smaller house. Once all the kids finally leave the nest, we should downsize, but that would require a move.

I had paid off the old house. I wanted a smaller one, and picking up and moving was a hassle, expensive and I didn't want to leave anyway. Selling the old house to salvage and building a new one was cheaper than selling the old one, buying a new one, and moving.

I am super happy with that decision. My house feels spacious, has a small foot print, and it's wonderfully functional. It has all the creature comforts and then some. A lot of things that are super expensive in a re-model are much more affordable in a new build, like heated floors, electrical capacity and set-up, gas/electric choices and lots of stuff. And, of course, the location is exactly where I want it to be.

Salvage- meaning that someone jacked it up off the foundation and relocated it? If so, that is very cool, a win-win situation.
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