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02-09-2013, 10:59 AM
RE: Sugar Coating Death For Children
Seems to me that the primary purpose of most religion is to sugarcoat death for adults. Seems only natural that people would want to do the same for children.

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02-09-2013, 11:06 AM
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Children are underestimated because they are the equation of innocence, kindness, purity, newness, etc.
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02-09-2013, 12:22 PM
RE: Sugar Coating Death For Children
One of the "mysteries of tao" is the need to manufacture dualities. Body/mind duality is scientifically untenable, but sugar-coating enough for this communication.

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02-09-2013, 12:39 PM
RE: Sugar Coating Death For Children
(02-09-2013 10:59 AM)Dark Light Wrote:  Seems to me that the primary purpose of most religion is to sugarcoat death for adults. Seems only natural that people would want to do the same for children.

Think that's right. The flaw in that line of reasoning I think is that children instinctively appreciate the ephemeral. Adults have to work at it. ... At least I do.

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03-09-2013, 09:01 AM
RE: Sugar Coating Death For Children
(31-08-2013 03:04 PM)TheLastEnemy Wrote:  I've never understood it.

I Don't see why these countless advice columns all say the same thing; "Young children have a hard time understanding death, they may not fully comprehend the fact that this person is not coming back, try to explain it to them gently."

Or why people tell children that *loved one* has "gone away for a while", or, "Is with God now."


From what I remember, since I was about three, I had a fully formed concept of death, when a person dies they're gone, and they aren't coming back.

I Also seem to remember most other little kids I knew being similarly realistic about the subject.

This, among other things, pisses me off, Children are a lot smarter and can handle a lot more than people give them credit for.
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03-09-2013, 10:57 AM
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There's an obvious simple solution you know...
Don't have fucking kids...

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03-09-2013, 11:00 AM
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(03-09-2013 10:57 AM)earmuffs Wrote:  There's an obvious simple solution you know...
Don't have fucking kids...

Or you could raise your kids to be strong, understanding and independent, and not frightened little losers. Smile
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03-09-2013, 11:01 AM
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Children need honest answers, this is absolutely true. But with a child you do need to find the balance between educating and taking a new (and lets face it, a potentially scary) new concept with some tact and care.
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03-09-2013, 11:12 AM
RE: Sugar Coating Death For Children
(03-09-2013 11:00 AM)Ferdinand Wrote:  
(03-09-2013 10:57 AM)earmuffs Wrote:  There's an obvious simple solution you know...
Don't have fucking kids...

Or you could raise your kids to be strong, understanding and independent, and not frightened little losers. Smile

OR you could not have kids to begin with...

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03-09-2013, 12:53 PM
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Growing up in a Catholic town we were herded through viewings all the time. It was seen as good business. S, we kids were forced to walk through the funeral home, gaze upon dead bodies, and then offer our condolences even though we had no freaking idea who the dead person was. Any time a relative of one of dad's clients took their last breath, we were dressed up and paraded through to be seen. GADS...I hate wakes.

We only were forced to go to the funerals of people who were much closer. A Catholic funeral is way creepy. Not to mention as a kid having to sing funeral masses...good lord god...way to warp a kid forever.

I think the truth (to whatever level a child can understand given their age and development) is a lot better than telling them they will see that person one day in Heaven. That creates people who hang onto that false belief...the belief of being reunited.

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