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05-03-2013, 04:36 AM
The 'No Porn' Thread
For those of us who view it, would quitting porn be a good/healthy thing, and if so, what are some tips to help quit?

I made this account just to make this thread. Why? Because I've tried Googling these questions. The answers to these questions are apparently "porn is a demonic form of methamphetamine that will ruin your life and spirit" and "prayer is the way to quit." The wonderful sources are unbiased sites like 'yourbrainonporn.com' and 'porn addiction recovery' forums.

But I want to know what the secular community has to say. I am most likely legitimately addicted to porn and I want to know whether or not this is even a bad thing and tips to quit if it is.
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05-03-2013, 05:57 AM
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I have just done a bit of googling around for you and have found this site.

http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/porn-add...ry-course/


They offer free advice and have many different articles however you can pay for a coaching for extra help. I think with any addiction you have to take it one day at a time and try to break the cycle.

I will keep looking for you and If I see anything else I will post it here.

EDIT: Maybe this should be moved to the Personal help section Chas, Hughsie, FSM, KC?

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05-03-2013, 06:09 AM
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Whether or not your addiction is bad depends entirely on the number of times that you beat your meat. Consider

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05-03-2013, 06:37 AM
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Vosur, I worry about you sometimes man. Well I would if I actually cared. Thought that counts right?

Um... I think porn is OK. If it's interfering with your life you might wanna cut down though. I mean, I jerk off at odd moments but I do lots of different stuff, so I think of it as one more exciting hobby. It doesn't dominate my life...
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05-03-2013, 08:01 AM
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Depends entirely how it is effecting you.

If it's effecting your life negatively then do something about it.
ie: It's effecting your school/work because you jack off 42 times a night. Or something serious like you're watching some rather.. rough.. stuff and have growing.. feelings.. to go out and do what you have been watching.

Also you have to put into perspective the difference between porn and real life. ie: expect every women to be fit and big breasted or whatever.

If it doesn't effect you negatively then I'd say that you're perhaps feeling guilty or something. Like society has a certain image and you're not living up to that image by being some sort of perverted scum for watching porn.
Upon which I'd say, nobody cares.

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05-03-2013, 08:12 AM
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I don't think watching porn is bad. I agree that if it is interfering with your daily life, then cut back and find help... Smile

I think watching porn is a good thing. It gives people ideas to try with another person. Viewing it while having sex, could help someone with voyeuristic tendencies. It helps to get in "the mood" for women, too. And sometimes one doesn't want to have SEX at the time, so porn helps them to get off while going at it solo.

I think watching porn is normal and healthy when someone understands that it's essentially entertainment and not everything seen in it ACTUALLY happens. Also, don't let those fantasies make you think that it should be what you're getting in real life; Just incorporate them into your healthy sexual relationship with a real, live human being Wink

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05-03-2013, 09:20 AM
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(05-03-2013 08:01 AM)earmuffs Wrote:  ...
Also you have to put into perspective the difference between porn and real life. i.e.: expect every women
...

OK, I admit... that surprised me.


Bahku,

Perhaps it would help if you were more specific as to your 'condition'.

Even still, it's not easy for anyone other than yourself to determine what would be deemed 'healthy' or 'unhealthy'. In other words, the line between hedonistic pleasure seeking vs. self-destruct is going to be different for each individual.

One thing is fairly certain though... on this site you are unlikely to be condemned for being immoral. It is easier for the critical thinker so separate using from pushing.

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05-03-2013, 09:53 AM
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There's nothing wrong with viewing porn. Especially if you don't have a partner or if for some reason your partner isn't interested in sex very often. Assuming you're male, it's very helpful, biologically speaking, for us to ejaculate regularly as it lowers the chances of prostrate troubles later in life.

If you really do think you're addicted, I would recommend reading "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" by Gabor Matè. This book explains the mechanics of addiction, why we suffer from it and how you can work to shed your addiction(s) without picking up some other one or three in the process. It's a secular, science based book and it deals with addiction writ large, not just a specific addiction, so it can also help if you smoke, do drugs, or even are a workaholic.

That said, if your porn use isn't obstructing your day to day life, it isn't an addiction. And if you're feeling like what you're doing is wrong, I would strongly urge you to consider whose feelings those actually are, because they're not likely yours.

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05-03-2013, 12:58 PM
RE: The 'No Porn' Thread
(05-03-2013 09:20 AM)DLJ Wrote:  
(05-03-2013 08:01 AM)earmuffs Wrote:  ...
Also you have to put into perspective the difference between porn and real life. i.e.: expect every women
...

OK, I admit... that surprised me.


Bahku,

Perhaps it would help if you were more specific as to your 'condition'.

Even still, it's not easy for anyone other than yourself to determine what would be deemed 'healthy' or 'unhealthy'. In other words, the line between hedonistic pleasure seeking vs. self-destruct is going to be different for each individual.

One thing is fairly certain though... on this site you are unlikely to be condemned for being immoral. It is easier for the critical thinker so separate using from pushing.
Yeah I guess I need to clarify.

I just watch porn every night, that's all. Three days ago I decided to quit, and it has been difficult to resist. I've had few opportunities throughout life to get laid, and every time I failed to maintain an erection. Whether this is due to excessive porn or nervousness I'm not sure.

I'm not asking "is porn bad if I stay up watching it 'til 4 in the morning and miss work every day?" I'm asking "what are potential negative medical consequences or benefits?" I know it's not morally wrong or 'destructive.' According to Google porn is worse than meth, but that's because every site is tainted by Christian propaganda.
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05-03-2013, 03:21 PM
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"I just watch porn every night, that's all. Three days ago I decided to
quit, and it has been difficult to resist. I've had few opportunities
throughout life to get laid, and every time I failed to maintain an
erection. Whether this is due to excessive porn or nervousness I'm not
sure."

If your junk works when you watch porn but doesn't work with real women, it's a mental issue. It could have something to do with you expecting something you saw in a porn flick or it could just be that you're too nervous, et al.

From what you said in the OP, I was thinking you were losing income or something because of it. What you're doing is not hurting your body and it's not harmful to your mental faculties, unless you have some sort of predisposed notion that what you're doing is immoral or, you presupposethat a date with a real woman is going to go off like it does in a porn flick.

My recommendation would be to avoid professional porn altogether and just focus on watching amateur people fuck each other. Of course, even then, that's not likely to be what happens on a first date with a woman... unless you find her in the right place. Big Grin
(05-03-2013 12:58 PM)Bahku Wrote:  
(05-03-2013 09:20 AM)DLJ Wrote:  OK, I admit... that surprised me.


Bahku,

Perhaps it would help if you were more specific as to your 'condition'.

Even still, it's not easy for anyone other than yourself to determine what would be deemed 'healthy' or 'unhealthy'. In other words, the line between hedonistic pleasure seeking vs. self-destruct is going to be different for each individual.

One thing is fairly certain though... on this site you are unlikely to be condemned for being immoral. It is easier for the critical thinker so separate using from pushing.
Yeah I guess I need to clarify.

I just watch porn every night, that's all. Three days ago I decided to quit, and it has been difficult to resist. I've had few opportunities throughout life to get laid, and every time I failed to maintain an erection. Whether this is due to excessive porn or nervousness I'm not sure.

I'm not asking "is porn bad if I stay up watching it 'til 4 in the morning and miss work every day?" I'm asking "what are potential negative medical consequences or benefits?" I know it's not morally wrong or 'destructive.' According to Google porn is worse than meth, but that's because every site is tainted by Christian propaganda.

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