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27-02-2017, 08:47 AM
RE: The Official Crying Thread
Mom-in-law just died. My wife is taking pretty rough. :-(

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27-02-2017, 08:49 AM
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(27-02-2017 08:47 AM)Old Man Marsh Wrote:  Mom-in-law just died. My wife is taking pretty rough. :-(

Sorry to see this. Hug
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27-02-2017, 08:49 AM
RE: The Official Crying Thread
(27-02-2017 08:47 AM)Old Man Marsh Wrote:  Mom-in-law just died. My wife is taking pretty rough. :-(

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27-02-2017, 09:35 AM
RE: The Official Crying Thread
(27-02-2017 08:47 AM)Old Man Marsh Wrote:  Mom-in-law just died. My wife is taking pretty rough. :-(

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05-03-2017, 07:07 PM
RE: The Official Crying Thread
(27-02-2017 08:47 AM)Old Man Marsh Wrote:  Mom-in-law just died. My wife is taking pretty rough. :-(

Oh shit, I just saw this. I am terribly sorry for the loss. Sadcryface

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05-03-2017, 07:14 PM
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I don't often let people get close. In fact if my circle were much smaller it would just be me in it.

I was so excited to have found a 'friend'. Someone to laugh and to cry with...to talk about nothing and anything with. I felt like the feeling was reciprocated. Then they did something that hurt me terribly. After a time I explained what it was that hurt the subject was ignored. There was a pretense that nothing ever happened.

I miss what I thought was friendship. I can't pretend that everything is okay. It's okay, most of the time, I can entertain myself and have spent plenty of time being my own friend. As so it goes again... sigh Undecided

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05-03-2017, 07:18 PM
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(05-03-2017 07:14 PM)Anjele Wrote:  I don't often let people get close. In fact if my circle were much smaller it would just be me in it.

I was so excited to have found a 'friend'. Someone to laugh and to cry with...to talk about nothing and anything with. I felt like the feeling was reciprocated. Then they did something that hurt me terribly. After a time I explained what it was that hurt the subject was ignored. There was a pretense that nothing ever happened.

I miss what I thought was friendship. I can't pretend that everything is okay. It's okay, most of the time, I can entertain myself and have spent plenty of time being my own friend. As so it goes again... sigh Undecided

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05-03-2017, 10:55 PM
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No, it's not ok, it stings every time.
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05-03-2017, 11:56 PM
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(05-03-2017 07:14 PM)Anjele Wrote:  I don't often let people get close. In fact if my circle were much smaller it would just be me in it.

I was so excited to have found a 'friend'. Someone to laugh and to cry with...to talk about nothing and anything with. I felt like the feeling was reciprocated. Then they did something that hurt me terribly. After a time I explained what it was that hurt the subject was ignored. There was a pretense that nothing ever happened.

I miss what I thought was friendship. I can't pretend that everything is okay. It's okay, most of the time, I can entertain myself and have spent plenty of time being my own friend. As so it goes again... sigh Undecided

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06-03-2017, 12:09 PM
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(05-03-2017 07:14 PM)Anjele Wrote:  I don't often let people get close. In fact if my circle were much smaller it would just be me in it.

I was so excited to have found a 'friend'. Someone to laugh and to cry with...to talk about nothing and anything with. I felt like the feeling was reciprocated. Then they did something that hurt me terribly. After a time I explained what it was that hurt the subject was ignored. There was a pretense that nothing ever happened.

I miss what I thought was friendship. I can't pretend that everything is okay. It's okay, most of the time, I can entertain myself and have spent plenty of time being my own friend. As so it goes again... sigh Undecided
That is rough. I am no misanthrope but sometimes I do grow weary of dealing with everyone else's expectations, (mis)perceptions, hot buttons, hang-ups, neuroses, anxieties, prejudices, judgments, avoidant behaviors, and general randomness and self-absorption. I think in many ways I would be both lonelier AND happier if I just had a half dozen arm's length acquaintances, the kind that I can have some light banter and shared activity with maybe once a week and maybe trade favors with here and there, and that's it. That seems to be the sweet spot for me.

The only thing that keeps me sane some days is the realization that I suck as much as everyone else. I do try to be the sort of person I want to have in my life. I succeed, now and then, anyway.

With respect to your friend, you may (or may not) find it helpful to think of her as limited in this aspect of herself. She clearly can't take responsibility for her misbehavior and therefore can't be trusted in this way. Maybe there are other things you can salvage from the relationship, or other directions it can go in. It is not necessarily a bad thing to play along if the balance of your relationship is respectful of your healthy personal boundaries. Sometimes just letting go of offenses like this is the way to go. I don't, of course, pretend to know what's best here, I lack enough facts and I'm not you. It is just a thought, for what it's worth -- if anything.
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