The new man

[aurora]

(14-08-2012 06:43 PM)Erxomai Wrote:  

(14-08-2012 06:34 PM)aurora Wrote:  Wish I could meet a guy like you, Observer! The things you are doing are fantastic and certainly take the load off your wife. Personally, I can't understand why that would upset her as most women complain all the time about hubby not chipping in enough around the house. (I've always had a problem with men not pulling their weight except for one)
Imo, I think it could be something else so the old 'heart to heart' chat might be the way to go...

I wish I could meet a woman like you, Observer.

Chair

[Erxomai]

(14-08-2012 06:45 PM)aurora Wrote:  

(14-08-2012 06:43 PM)Erxomai Wrote:  I wish I could meet a woman like you, Observer.

Chair

Mm...chair...


Actually, I just read Dom's post. Sorry, Obsy, now I wish I could meet a woman like her!

[Dom]

(14-08-2012 07:05 PM)Erxomai Wrote:  

(14-08-2012 06:45 PM)aurora Wrote:  Chair

Mm...chair...


Actually, I just read Dom's post. Sorry, Obsy, now I wish I could meet a woman like her!

Fat chance, I'm one of a kind.

[Atothetheist]

.....and here I go again, this time, in the iptgread which pertains nothing to me.


Observer, she may just feel like you are doing something that just ain't Right, many people feel uncomfortable when other people break social norms, and it might be that she is trying to push you into the sterotypical box labeled MAN

Keep doing what you love and what you want to do, and make sure you take care of your wife properly, there is nothing wrong with going theextra ten miles.

I salute you.

[Observer]

Thanks for the responses everyone.

I've been thinking about then and it might be that Kim is up to something.
I hope to find the time to post more later.

[GirlyMan]

(14-08-2012 03:46 PM)kim Wrote:  

(14-08-2012 02:20 PM)Observer Wrote:  Do woman some have a problem giving their place op? Just like men have?

You might have something there. It might be a general, territorial thing.

Doubt that, territorial don't come to mind when I go a few days without my testosterone. More like maternal.

(14-08-2012 03:46 PM)kim Wrote:  However, it could be more personal for her as well.
Maybe she's feeling insecure, like she's not doing enough and it worries her. Maybe this is her way of expressing her resentment; you are able to do your thing, and are also able to do the stuff that she's supposed to be doing. She might feel guilty that she can't keep up.

That feels more likely.

(14-08-2012 05:59 PM)Dom Wrote:  To outsiders we didn't have much in common, except for a love of animals of all types. But really, we had stronger ties than most people I know. We were true partners.

That's me and ManlyGirl. But instead of a common love of animals we share a common love of laughter.

If it ain't got a keyboard attached to it, I'm pretty worthless. Manly fixes the appliances, maintains the structural integrity of the house, takes care of the cars, takes care of the bills, takes care of running the household. All I gotta do is go to work to fund the household and make her happy. I'm pretty solid on the first one, but hit and miss on the latter.

[Leela]

From myself and my relationship with my hubby I can say this:
- There things I do not allow him to do because they won't be done right. For example doing the dishes, cleaning mirror...
- There are things that I always make him do because there is nothing you can possibly do wrong, like vacuum cleaning, bringing trash down.
- There are things I taught him to do right so he can help me, like cleaning the oven or the toilet properly.
- There are things I always nag about like throwing empty bottle away which he constantly forgets.
- There are things I am annoying with like if I want to clean it has to be NOW so I can feel good once it is done, and I want him to join in NOW.

Over all I think it is a good mix. Problems only arise when there is no balance.
So what about just splitting all the work that has to be done? That might be a possibility. Just split what you can do better and what she can do better, and the rest is being shared or done situationally.

[Chas]

(16-08-2012 07:07 PM)GirlyMan Wrote:  

(14-08-2012 03:46 PM)kim Wrote:  You might have something there. It might be a general, territorial thing.

Doubt that, territorial don't come to mind when I go a few days without my testosterone. More like maternal.

(14-08-2012 03:46 PM)kim Wrote:  However, it could be more personal for her as well.
Maybe she's feeling insecure, like she's not doing enough and it worries her. Maybe this is her way of expressing her resentment; you are able to do your thing, and are also able to do the stuff that she's supposed to be doing. She might feel guilty that she can't keep up.

That feels more likely.

(14-08-2012 05:59 PM)Dom Wrote:  To outsiders we didn't have much in common, except for a love of animals of all types. But really, we had stronger ties than most people I know. We were true partners.

That's me and ManlyGirl. But instead of a common love of animals we share a common love of laughter.

If it ain't got a keyboard attached to it, I'm pretty worthless. Manly fixes the appliances, maintains the structural integrity of the house, takes care of the cars, takes care of the bills, takes care of running the household. All I gotta do is go to work to fund the household and make her happy. I'm pretty solid on the first one, but hit and miss on the latter.

You could do worse. Many do.

[legendoflink]

She just needs the dick.