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29-04-2014, 09:31 PM
Well fuck.
Leli has informed me that sometimes she thinks about bad things that have happened and then she just wants to cry. She says she doesn't know how to stop being sad. My 5 year old. My baby. She just randomly came to me with this. I remember this when I was a kid. Sitting out in the corn field with my dog, telling her about all the sad things I couldn't stop thinking of and crying. Is it now time to take my baby to therapy? Isn't she too young for this?
She the oldest. She's been through a lot of shit in such a short time. I keep hoping that she didn't see too much and that she will never remember, but I've been too afraid to really talk to her about it because she is so small.

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29-04-2014, 09:34 PM
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(29-04-2014 09:31 PM)LostandInsecure Wrote:  Leli has informed me that sometimes she thinks about bad things that have happened and then she just wants to cry. She says she doesn't know how to stop being sad. My 5 year old. My baby. She just randomly came to me with this. I remember this when I was a kid. Sitting out in the corn field with my dog, telling her about all the sad things I couldn't stop thinking of and crying. Is it now time to take my baby to therapy? Isn't she too young for this?
She the oldest. She's been through a lot of shit in such a short time. I keep hoping that she didn't see too much and that she will never remember, but I've been too afraid to really talk to her about it because she is so small.

There are lots of good child psychiatrists. It's not going to be therapy, in fact she'll think it's more like play. You'll learn the coping skills to help her.


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29-04-2014, 09:37 PM
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^^^this


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29-04-2014, 09:40 PM
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It may be time to really focus on what she is not saying as well as what she is saying.

Something is going on and she needs her mom.

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29-04-2014, 09:40 PM
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(29-04-2014 09:34 PM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:  
(29-04-2014 09:31 PM)LostandInsecure Wrote:  Leli has informed me that sometimes she thinks about bad things that have happened and then she just wants to cry. She says she doesn't know how to stop being sad. My 5 year old. My baby. She just randomly came to me with this. I remember this when I was a kid. Sitting out in the corn field with my dog, telling her about all the sad things I couldn't stop thinking of and crying. Is it now time to take my baby to therapy? Isn't she too young for this?
She the oldest. She's been through a lot of shit in such a short time. I keep hoping that she didn't see too much and that she will never remember, but I've been too afraid to really talk to her about it because she is so small.

There are lots of good child psychiatrists. It's not going to be therapy, in fact she'll think it's more like play. You'll learn the coping skills to help her.

Great advice Momsie. That's exactly what we need I think. I feel so selfish because all I can think if is how sad it makes me feel that I don't know how to help her and that I didn't protect her. Just another thing we have to get through. Just glad to know I have you guys to listen when it feels like too much.

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29-04-2014, 09:41 PM
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I say go with your gut on this one. Maybe not therapy as much as going to a child psychologist and seeing if they know what's up and going from there. Stay strong, mama Hug

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29-04-2014, 09:41 PM
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The worst thing you can do right now is endorse these fears. Follow Momsie's advice.

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29-04-2014, 10:01 PM
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(29-04-2014 09:40 PM)LostandInsecure Wrote:  
(29-04-2014 09:34 PM)Momsurroundedbyboys Wrote:  There are lots of good child psychiatrists. It's not going to be therapy, in fact she'll think it's more like play. You'll learn the coping skills to help her.

Great advice Momsie. That's exactly what we need I think. I feel so selfish because all I can think if is how sad it makes me feel that I don't know how to help her and that I didn't protect her. Just another thing we have to get through. Just glad to know I have you guys to listen when it feels like too much.

That's a normal feeling!

You can try engaging her in an activity, like playing with dolls or playing house or even coloring -- usually when young kids are coloring or some craft project that's simple, they're the easiest to talk to. Let her direct the conversation and pay attention to what she says.

With playing with dolls you can engage in a little role play with her...just again, make it feel fun for her (and you).

Sometimes just spending a little extra time helps more than you realize.

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29-04-2014, 10:42 PM
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Kids are the best at being resilient, just give her the skills she needs to help herself! Smile
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30-04-2014, 12:37 AM
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Get a jump on what your daughter is saying to you. Speak with a child psychologist, and get an evaluation on what is bothering her.

Children her age want to please so much that when questioned they usually say what they think the questioner wants to hear. A professional will know how to do this.

A professional evaluation will likely relieve some of your pain also. And from there you can help both your daughter and yourself.

Well fuck, I'm with you on this one Heart

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