Well, shit.

[Vosur]

(27-10-2012 10:34 PM)Atothetheist Wrote:  Questions, Comments and jokes kindly appreciated.

You asked for it.



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[Misanthropik]

(28-10-2012 02:28 AM)Atothetheist Wrote:  

(28-10-2012 02:22 AM)Misanthropik Wrote:  As you grow up, you'll find that in this world, there are actually many ways in which you can flex whichever muscle you want. If you want to live in a house with 5 other women; you'll find 5 other women who are perfectly willing to do that. It's called a polyamorous relationship. You love all of them and they all love each other. Its one big loving relationship that happens to contain many people.

At this point, you're 15, so your options are somewhat limited when it comes to these sorts of things. But in time, the whole world will open up and you can do whatever the fuck you want.

And believe it or not, you could very well be a completely different person in 5 years. At 15, I was vehemently opposed to drinking, tattoos, recreational marijuana use - among other small things. Now, I love the occasional drink, I'm working on full tattoo-sleeves that go up to cover the majority of my upper body, I hang out with pot-heads (and occasionally indulge). I'm ok with things I used to hate, and I hate things I used to be ok with. So, just keep in mind that growing up changes a person. Even if you're sure it won't.

Sure, but I tend to be more sure about things than a normal fifteen year old. I never had such stances on drugs, tatoos, or drinking and smoking. I viewed It as a choice that should be made by a person, and as long as they know all of the risks and still choose it, it isn't a problem. As long as it doesn't hurt anybody else, you should be able to do it to yourself, if you so choose.

Same with sex or relationships... As long as all of the partners consent to go with what the other wants or vice versa. This allows for many relationships such and gay, straight, polyamory, and whatever else. Now the partner has to be of a reasonable age to consent to any relationship.

I don't think I will change, but I will definitely not rule it out.

You might; you might not. Only time will tell. But if you do, that will come on its own. What you mainly need to keep in mind is that one day you'll be totally free to explore the world and pursue whichever type of relationship you desire. It may seem like a difficult decision now, but one day, you'll have more options than you'll know what to do with. Lol. Even I myself have entertained the idea of a polyamorous relationship. Not seriously, mind you - I've chosen to remove myself from inter-mingling altogether - but it's an interesting idea. And like with all interesting ideas, there are literally thousands of people who are interested along with you.

It'll work out *would give thumbs-up smiley but can't because iPads are motherless whores*

[Magoo]

A2, in 15 years you will probably be long gone from your current girlfriend and will look back and think "boy what was I thinking back than".

[Magoo]

I think I have matured way too early

[Atothetheist]

(28-10-2012 01:56 PM)Magoo Wrote:  A2, in 15 years you will probably be long gone from your current girlfriend and will look back and think "boy what was I thinking back than".

Probably, but one can't ever be to certain.

[Atothetheist]

(28-10-2012 03:52 PM)Magoo Wrote:  I think I have matured way too early

As have I... In some areas I remain a fifteen year old though.

[Free Thought]

gee, I wonder what areas

[Stark Raving]

The relationship style to which you refer is called polyamorous. Polygamy refers to marriage.

I may be able to offer a little insight if you really want. I am a happily married (6 years), polyamorous, poly sexual man.

[Atothetheist]

(28-10-2012 08:18 PM)Stark Raving Wrote:  The relationship style to which you refer is called polyamorous. Polygamy refers to marriage.

I may be able to offer a little insight if you really want. I am a happily married (6 years), polyamorous, poly sexual man.

Sure, I would want any advice possible.

[Hughsie]

(27-10-2012 10:34 PM)Atothetheist Wrote:  Here is the thing, and I am not going to sugarcoat this.

I like(didn't want to say love or anything that might be considered sacred or shit like that.) multiple women.

I am attracted multiple girls at once, and I tend to hate monogamous relationships, but that is the norm in our society. Here is the goodnews:

My girlfriend is OK (but not happy) with me liking other women, and constantly says that if I get into another relationship that its fine if The other girl dates me, as long as I still treasure her and love her just like I do.

Here is the Problem: That kinda thing isn't going to happen, and it's killing me.

I don't know why I like multiple women, but I don't want to just love one, it seems such a weird concept, being devoted to just one person; I am just not that kind of guy.

I am the kind of guy that can choose to stick it out with one though because I value my relationship with my girlfriend, and with all the people I meet and like that if forced to I will repress my urges to fall in love with multiple women.

I just can't see myself giving my love to only one, it seems like such a waste.

I have been serious about this choice and I am fairly certain that it isn't my hormones but something that I am very commited to. I think I might have possibly gotten this urge because I have abandonment issues and the thought of multiple women I am deeply in love with loving me back is comforting to me.

Though, it seems the only way to be in a polygamist relationship is to be either fundie Mormon, or some type of cult thing. I can't bare to convert to a religion that I find to be false, and think it would be dishonest of me to convert just to have a polygamist lifestyle.

GRRR! What the fuck should I do.

Questions, Comments and jokes kindly appreciated.

The world's a big place, if you're not into monogamous relationships I'm sure you'll be able to find others who are like minded. I think Erx makes a good point. You gotta be damn sure that they're sincere if they said they're OK with it. Someone with low self esteem may well just say they are to try and maintain the relationship, and teenagers are especially susceptible to low self esteem. Also, how would you feel about your girlfriend taking that approach? If this is the approach you take in life you'll probably find some people who expect it to work both ways.